Post # 1
I’m suffering from buyer’s remorse. I got a diamond eternity band and while it is very beautiful, I’m afraid it’s not everyday enough. I feel like I should of gotten something less fancy.
My FI suggested that we get another plain band for when I run errands, etc, but I don’t know if that’s weird to have two bands to wear on different days/occassions.
Is anyone else having the same problem? How do you plan to handle it?
Post # 3
i wouldn’t get a basic band just for running errands and basic life stuff — your diamonds will hold up. But if you work with your hands a lot then absolutely.
I’m going to get just a simple pounded metal band for when I travel internationally and work on location. my job is very ‘hands on’ 😉 working with equipment and I’ve gotten scared a few times that I’ve scratched or damaged my ring or that I could loose a diamond and not realize it.
Post # 4
Coffen, do you have a picture we can look at?
Post # 5
I was just talking to my mom about a similar topic; my FI and I are still looking at how to design our engagement band and I am REALLY worried about the diamonds falling out, because I bump, scrape and damage my fingers all the time.
While I recognize your question is slightly different, I thoought I would share her advice with you. She said that after 27 years of wearing her band, it has become a piece of her. Initially she was worried about the same thing as I am, but also about the same thing you are: feeling weird wearing something so fancy all the time. And let me tell you, my mom inherited some decent, beautiful rocks, and they do stand out. She said that it took her less than a month to get used to it all, and that whenever she felt a little weird about having something so fancy while being a poor, broke college student, she would remind herself that it was a beautiful, fabulous way of reminding herself of the love my dad and her shared.
As gorgeous as rings can be, I think a lot of people (at least where I am) do expect something nicer than everyday jewlery on a persons finger if they are married. Maybe try paying attention to the people you see doing these everyday things (around the office, the supermarket, etc) who are married, and see if you a) have something far nicer and would feel out of place, and b) see if you even notice how fancy what they wear is at first glance. I know I only started noticing peoples rings and how fancy they are when I started looking fr my own…
Post # 6
I’m getting a basic band for just this reason — my e-ring is really sparkly (so much so that I don’t wear it out some places, as we don’t live in the best area), so the basic band will allow me to take off my e-ring when I don’t want to wear all those sparkles, but I can still wear my wedding ring.
I don’t know, I just would feel weird about taking off my wedding ring, and I wouldn’t feel like the "alternate ring" is my real wedding ring. That’s just me though! It might be fine for you.
Post # 7
i am considering it as well. i can’t find a band i like to wear with my e-ring, so i am buying a nicer wedding band to wear on a daily basis, and then another simpler one to wear with the E-band.
Post # 8
Thanks for all the advice.. I don’t have a photo of my wedding band, but it’s an eternity band with shared prong setting.
I do office work, but I’m very active outside of work — like outdoorsy things. I usually leave my engagement ring at home those days, but I always feel so empty without it! I know that when I get married, I will feel even more incomplete without my ering or wedding band. Plus my husband to be prob won’t like me walking around w/o a ring 🙂
My friend had the same problem, and she said her husband did the vows with the fancy ring, and then she quickly slipped on the plain band when she gave him his ring. I asked her how it worked out and she said she wears both everyday, but when she is going grocery shopping or what not, she only wears the plain.
I still don’t know what to do, but maybe I will go shoppign around and see whats out there!
Post # 9
One of my good friends has two wedding bands. She wears her fancier one when she’s shopping, running errands, etc…but she has a plain band that she wears when she goes traveling. I thought that was ingenious since if she should lose it, her actual one is home. It is because of this very reason, I too am considering purchasing a plain band.
Post # 10
I am a two band bride – a fancy one and a plain band. It was my FI’s idea. His thought was you are going to wear them for the rest of your life and when you average it out over a lifetime – it is not much per day unlike the wedding dress. What we did was just order the plain band from blue nile and it is very nice and practical.
Post # 11
I have two bands!!!
We are having a traditional jewish ceremony, where you need a plain band, and then a sparkly band as well. We travel quite a bit, as well as lots of water activities, and i wanted a band that i wouldn’t worry so much about. The sparkly one, well, it is just perfect, but it was expensive, and i know there are times where i am not going to want to wear it.
Post # 12
I initally worried about my e-ring, which is channel set diamonds and a large center stone that sits up fairly high. However, after 7 months I hardly think about it. It really does become a part of you. And it really should be quite durable. You should definately insure your ring – a rider on your homeowners, or a separate policy – and take it once a year to have the setting inspected – and if you do that, the likelihood of "losing" a diamond is pretty small. Plus, your policy should cover even loss of the entire ring – just loss, not theft – as in having it slide off your finger while doing some outdoor activity and disappear into the mud and muck at the bottom of a lake, or some such thing. From the minute I had the rider in my hand, I really stopped worrying about "losing" the ring or any part of it. And I don’t want to leave it at home! Every now and then I take it off (most lately to dig up a broken sprinkler pipe this weekend) and it’s very nice to get it back on. I definately don’t want something to wear "instead" of it – especially for any occasion (work or travel) where I would be without my husband anyway! That would suck twice as much.
Post # 13
i see lots of women stacking diamond bands and/or plain bands together (whether it was a wedding band or push present etc). plus a jeweler can easily replace any stones that might pop out in the future. i was more concerned about wearing my e-ring everyday, but i purchased insurance for it which put my mind at ease. i think the eternity band will be just fine!
Post # 14
This is exactly what I did. I have pictures of both my bands on my website.
My real wedding band is a 7 stone prong set band and I don’t think it will be practical all the time, so we got a lower, channel set band to wear in stead when my band isn’t practical. I chose one that matched the channel set princess diamonds in my E-ring in case I wanted to wear them together. I like to change up my jewelry a lot, so I’ll probably wear my E-ring, wedding band and other ring in different combinations all the time. HTH!
Post # 15
If you bought your eternity band from a reputable jeweler, they should offer a guarantee as long as you do something like have it checked every six months or so for loose prongs. That way, if any stones fall out, you’re not paying for it.
This is really a personal choice. I love sparkle and a plain band wouldn’t really do it for me, so no need for two 🙂
Post # 16
I plan on getting 2! I will wear my diamond/sapphire channel set band the majority of the time and a plan one when traveling, climbing, doing outdoorsy activities, etc. I thought it would be fun/sentimental to get one that matches FIs.