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I am not but I admire your relationship. Even if it's unorthodox and harder to communicate initially you guys stuck thru it =)
@CanadianMermaid: Beyond the alphabet, no, though we've talked about taking classes to communicate in noisy environments. He's an excellent lip reader though, and still has 15% of his hearing. When there is no background noise, he can make out what I'm saying even if he isn't facing me. I've been working to enunciate better too. :)
We're both glued to our phones so we text/IM a lot too.
@adage: Thank you! Indeed. If we made it through those difficult years, I think we can survive each other for the rest of our lives. :)
I would suggest taking classes to be honest with only 15% of his hearing left it would be great for both of you and communication would be so much easier . Pending on the reason for his hearing loss it could progressively get 'worse' and it would be better to have a plan B than not! I am a huge advocate of ASL and work in the Deaf community and have seen people that are Oral (speak for themselves /lip read) feel awesome when they learn ASL .. especially since a lot of circumstances are not 'lip read' friendly ..and it would be a cute thing to learn as a couple as well :)
@CanadianMermaid: Good point. I think we'll look into classes later this summer when his workload lightens up. :)
and ,,, you can always talk dirty to one another in public and nobody will know ;)
I'm not dating an aspie but there is a very good chance that I am one. Woohoo.
As far as him being deaf, I agree that you should learn ASL. I honestly think sign language is so much fun to speak. AND...it's very easy to learn in my opinion.
This could be a great bonding experience for the two of you. It would almost be like having your own secret language to share with each other....and the occasional ASL student or deaf person. :)
@Tunacupcakes: It really would help in noisy restaurants especially. We communicate as much as we can but conversation is minimal. :)
Interesting...have you noticed just recently that you might have AS?
@techie: Yes I have recently noticed. There are many many things about me that have always just made me different... I've always just assumed some brain damage or something. In all honesty I've always just thought I was a freak and it is generally agreed among everyone that knows me that I am just...strange.
Being such a weirdo caused me a lot of distress as a teenager and I always wanted to know "WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME!!? As an adult, though, I came to the conclusion that I'm not normal for whatever reason and to leave it at that. Then I realized also there was a distinct possibility that having AS may be the reason for the myriad of reasons I don't mesh well with the people I know, even the ones who love me.
I have almost no ability to understand facial expressions beyond the very obvious. I can NOT read between the lines so to speak and constantly wonder what people are actually thinking. I have auditory processing issues where I can hear just fine....but if there is more than 1 or 2 noises or stimuli I can't process what someone is saying. I will hear what they say...but just not comprehend it. It's impossible for me to be emotionally attached to more than one person at a time. Sure, I like people...but no attachment. There are other things too.
I'm not really going to pursue it because I'm nearly 25, what is a label going to do for me?
I'm sorry for rambling.
@Tunacupcakes: Not at all!
(*&(#@# stupid WB!!! It cut off my post.
Anyway, normal is relative. I'm painfully shy and have been labeled a weirdo before, though I don't have AS. FI and I don't look at his condition as a disorder..just a set of idiosyncracies we have. :) And his hyperfocus makes him a complete wiz at work.
I'm engage to an aspie. Some days i feel i'm dating a spoiled brat and others a really intelligent man. It takes patience. I do like our adventures. I know that becausw of aspergers he may get nervious or go blank so getting if we get there...to the movies is fun. If he forgets how to get there eventhough we go there almost every week, we end up having fun. I don't mind the video or computer games, it allows me me time. I think the reason weve been together for almost two years is because i help him deal with others and the outside world. While i get treated like im the most special woman in the room. Asper notice many details so i like that.
My BF is an aspie. It makes our relationship challenging because he is hyper sensitive, but his sensitivity also makes him a loving and gentle person.
As a Speech Pathologist, your relationship facisinates me! I work almost exclusively with autism spectrum disorders, and know a TON of teenagers with Asperger's. It's really awesome to see that some are able to maintain relationships and mature (I work with more severe cases, this sounds more mild than I'm used to).
As for ASL, I recommend finding some local classes or Deaf Communities online to decide your next steps for communication.
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My wonderful fiance is kind, hilarious, and a joy to be around. Because of Asperger's, he's also a brilliant programmer and a walking encyclopedia, and I find uber intelligence to be really sexy.
In the beginning, it was really difficult to communicate with him. It didn't help that he's also deaf and relies on lip reading, which can be a challenge when you're in a LDR! But over the years, he's learned my body language and habits and can better sense how I'm feeling. He has gotten better about opening up and expressing how he feels. We have a great life together. :)
Are there any bees here dating anyone aspergic?