(Closed) Anyone dating/engaged to an aspie?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am not but I admire your relationship. Even if it’s unorthodox and harder to communicate initially you guys stuck thru it =)

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Does he use ASL at all? 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would suggest taking classes to be honest with only 15% of his hearing left it would be great for both of you and communication would be so much easier . Pending on the reason for his hearing loss it could progressively get ‘worse’ and it would be better to have a plan B than not! I am a huge advocate of ASL and work in the Deaf community and have seen people that are Oral (speak for themselves /lip read) feel awesome when they learn ASL .. especially since a lot of circumstances are not ‘lip read’ friendly ..and it would be a cute thing to learn as a couple as well πŸ™‚ 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

and ,,, you can always talk dirty to one another in public and nobody will know πŸ˜‰ 

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

I’m not dating an aspie but there is a very good chance that I am one. Woohoo.

As far as him being deaf, I agree that you should learn ASL. I honestly think sign language is so much fun to speak. AND…it’s very easy to learn in my opinion.

This could be a great bonding experience for the two of you. It would almost be like having your own secret language to share with each other….and the occasional ASL student or deaf person. πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

@techie: Yes I have recently noticed. There are many many things about me that have always just made me different… I’ve always just assumed some brain damage or something. In all honesty I’ve always just thought I was a freak and it is generally agreed among everyone that knows me that I am just…strange.

Being such a weirdo caused me a lot of distress as a teenager and I always wanted to know “WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME!!? As an adult, though, I came to the conclusion that I’m not normal for whatever reason and to leave it at that. Then I realized also there was a distinct possibility that having AS may be the reason for the myriad of reasons I don’t mesh well with the people I know, even the ones who love me.

I have almost no ability to understand facial expressions beyond the very obvious. I can NOT read between the lines so to speak and constantly wonder what people are actually thinking. I have auditory processing issues where I can hear just fine….but if there is more than 1 or 2 noises or stimuli I can’t process what someone is saying. I will hear what they say…but just not comprehend it. It’s impossible for me to be emotionally attached to more than one person at a time. Sure, I like people…but no attachment. There are other things too.

 I’m not really going to pursue it because I’m nearly 25, what is a label going to do for me?

I’m sorry for rambling.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m engage to an aspie. Some days i feel i’m dating a spoiled brat and others a really intelligent man. It takes patience. I do like our adventures. I know that becausw of aspergers he may get nervious or go blank so getting if we get there…to the movies is fun. If he forgets how to get there eventhough we go there almost every week, we end up having fun. I don’t mind the video or computer games, it allows me me time. I think the reason weve been together for almost two years is because i help him deal with others and the outside world. While i get treated like im the most special woman in the room. Asper notice many details so i like that.

Post # 16
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Busy bee

My BF is an aspie. It makes our relationship challenging because he is hyper sensitive, but his sensitivity also makes him a loving and gentle person.

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