Post # 1
So this is embarrassing for my hubby and he would kill me if he knew i was posting this….. This is our second cycle ttc and we would like to get pregnant right away,(we are both older) I began charting this month, and when I let him know it was go time, his nerves got the best of him and he couldn’t perform. OMG, he is so embarassed and disappointed with himself. Has this ever happened to anyone else? I feel so bad for pressuring him but it was totally unintentional. 🙁
Post # 3
It hasn’t happen to me personally but it’s very common. I’ve heard of this a lot on the TTC boards. Sometimes it’s better to not tell hubby that it’s go time. Just act sexy and make him want you without him being totally clued in. No pressure 🙂
Post # 4
@mrsw2013: I agree with Lyndzo 🙂
Maybe try not discuss what happened. Pretend that it never happened. Next month when it is time.. jump him lol
Post # 5
Just be like “hub. I want your penis.” and jump him.
Post # 6
haha 🙂 Thanks for the advice!
Post # 7
this happened a few times when we first started TTC. i had to make sure to stop telling him about all the technical TTC stuff i was doing…. because it made him feel like i was just using him for baby making and that i didn’t actually want him.
now that we have been doing this a while and are going through fertility treatments, he has gotten over it.
Post # 8
@mrsw2013: Don’t tell my DH that I am saying this, but this has definitly happened to us! We have been ttc since Oct last year and the first few months he would get… umm shy… or not be able to finish… if he knew i ovulating (I track my cycles and use OPKs) so I don’t tell him any more and that fixed the problem. Good luck!!
Post # 9
I agree with previous posters. When it comes to husbands and TTC, less is more! Less information, that is. This did happen to us a few times and I found BD every other day instead of daily during my fertile window really helped and also not making a big deal of it the few times it did happen. Good luck!
Post # 10
Ha! Last month was our first cycle TTC and things were going great at the beginning of my cycle and then towards the middle (when it was definitely “go time” and he knew it) the same thing happened to my husband. He’s only 28 and has a ton of sex drive and he was so shocked and disappointed! We ended up doing it the next day, but he was a little traumatized and then all worried. This month I’m going to be extremely vague about which sexytimes are the important ones.
Post # 11
@MrsMaskatoBe: “Just be like “hub. I want your penis.” and jump him.“
This made me laugh.
It is a really good idea though. Just teel him you want him, drag him to bed (or the couch, the floor, the dining room table…) and get it on.