Anyone do the sex ban before the wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Did you abstain before the wedding?
    Yes, and it was great! : (34 votes)
    40 %
    No. What are you talking about? : (47 votes)
    55 %
    Yes, and I wish we hadn't. : (2 votes)
    2 %
    No, but I wish we had. : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 4
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    1060 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We did abstain for the 2 days before the wedding. And it started out as a joke, but we ended up also abstaining from kissing during that time too and it made our first kiss really awesome. The sex was great for our first married sex but I don’t think it was better because we abstained, it was awesome because we were married!

    Post # 5
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    705 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I am…..and it sucks lol, Especially since we moved our wedding date from August to October

    lol, so It will be like almost a year when our wedding date finally comes around

    It harder some days then others then some weeks its like the farthest thing from my mind I be so tired

    Post # 6
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    4698 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Not on purpose but we were really jetlagged and busy so we definitely did it less leading up to the wedding by accident. T_T

    Post # 7
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    381 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @Bainise2013:  We were long distance before the wedding (and still are {#emotions_dlg.cry} ) so we didn’t see each other from June 9th through June 30th (three weeks) and then abstained for the final week as well. So we went four weeks without sex and I wouldn’t say it was more amazing because we had waited, but it definitely didn’t take away from it. We were also exhausted by the time we got to the hotel.

    Post # 8
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    5087 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    We aren’t planning on it. We already live together so I don’t see the point. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    416 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    We didn’t abstain.  In fact, being able to physically express our love and feel that closeness in the days leading up to the wedding, amidst the madness, made us both feel calmer and more excited about getting married.  I can theoretically understand why people do it, but it wasn’t for us.

    As for the wedding night – we were so tired and sweaty and worn out when we finally got home from the after party.  We took a shower together, had very routine un-exciting sex just to do it, and went to bed.  We had our whole honeymoon, and the rest of our lives to have great sex.  We didn’t feel any pressure at all to have great sex on our wedding night, which is great because we were so exhausted that it wouldn’t have been fun at all.

    Post # 10
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    2687 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

    @anna.mariebrickhousetobe:  oh heck no. if we had to move the wedding date, I’d just start having sex again, and the abstain later lol.

    Post # 11
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    6510 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @bmo88:  +1

    And it was still awesome on our wedding night!

    Post # 12
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    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @Bainise2013:  We did! For 6 weeks before the wedding. It was SO worth it!

    Post # 13
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    842 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Bainise2013:  our wedding is in 2 weeks and we decided to start abstaining today. We usually have sex every day to every other day, so I give it til Wednesday before FI will start pleading that he changed his mind lol. 

    Post # 14
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    931 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We didn’t, we were LDR up until 3 weeks before the wedding, so we didn’t have a lot of time for that most of our relationship, and we didn’t want to hold off once we physically could any day we wanted!

    Post # 15
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    2247 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I want to.

    We already live together and obviously have sex, so it’s not as if the wedding night will be our ‘first’ but I think it makes it special to have stopped a few weeks before the wedding. It gives a form of anticipation for the wedding night- rather then it just being another night of sex – not that our sex isn’t special, I just want it to be a little different for our ‘first time’ as a married couple.

    I think that makes sense…

    Post # 16
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    4587 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We abstained for 3 months prior to the wedding. Our wedding night was very nice. 🙂

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