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I won't but there won't be dancing at my dinner reception. You'll probably get some backlash on the WeddingBee for it, though. A lot of bees think it's tacky. All the weddings I've attended have had them and I didn't think they were tacky. My suggestion, do what makes you and your family feel comfortable.
I've never been to a wedding that I can remember that DIDN'T have one... And I don't remember thinking it was rude of them to do that because it is so tied in with wedding tradition... But I don't think we're going to have one. I feel weird about making people give me cash in order to dance with me. I know this is completely awful, but in a way it just makes me feel like a stripper lol. Plus, I figure people are giving you gifts both at the shower and at the reception already... no need to be greedy and get MORE money out of them. But I guess that's just how I feel about myself and my own wedding, because I really haven't ever felt put off by it at anyone else's wedding.
My family always have them. My mom is trying to make me do one....she said even if I don't agree to it shes going to tell everyone and their just going to do it anyway. WTH?
They aren't my taste but that is because I had never heard of one until I went to my sister's wedding (her and hubby live in Minnesota and it is tradition in their area).
My only question for you is are they the "norm" in your area? If no one in your circle has done one then I say skip it. If most of the weddings you attend have had a dollar dance I say go for it! Like PP said, a lot of people think they are tacky, however I think it depends on the area you are in/circle you hang out with.
BF is Filipino and they have a different type of dollar dance in their culture. I'm not sure if our future wedding will include this tradition just because we are combining two different cultures (Filipino/Jewish) and regions (Los Angeles/rural Iowa).
For us Mexicans El baile del Dolar "Dollar dance" is common so guest make sure to bring lose dollar bills to place with a pin on the brides veil , dress, or wherever she asks you. As for the Groom it is also placed on his tuxedo.
It is not tacky but a cultural dance that is incorporated in Latino weddings, so for all you that believe it is tacky your probably to bourgeois status.
For us Mexicans instead of having a birdcage or wishing tree we have the Dollar Dance.
I will be having one. I think that a lot of my family members would be disappointed if I didn't. It is definitely the thing to do in my general area. I don't think I've ever been to a wedding without one! And, it's a nice way to have a little one-on-one time with your guests, though I hate the idea of having to dance with all those people!
We are doing it out of Tradition. Every wedding that I have been to and involved in has had one. I think FI's family would be miffed if we didn't do it.
@BeeKiss2-Just remember that not everyone in the hive thinks that way.
I'm having one and I've never been to a wedding without one! As babyboo said it all depends on the norm in your area/group of friends. If its normal, then people wont forget cash lol I dont think it's tacky at all, but mainly bc I'm use to seeing it done.
@MaggieGirl:I completely agree with you. No one has asked me about it yet. Also, I feel bad since almost all of our guests will be traveling in town and giving us gifts. I'm not going to do it. It's not that big of a deal.
It's totally a regional thing. I can't remember a wedding that I attended that didn't have one. I also can't remember a wedding without a boquet/garter toss. With that said. . .we're not planning to do any of those traditions. For similar reasons to the ones stated.
@His Barista: I was just warning her, I've seen some posts about dollar dance and there's some hostility towards it. By no means did I mean that every bee thinks their tacky, but there was definitely a good amount.
My FH and I are not planning on a dollar dance. I never carry cash to weddings and the last wedding I went to only 5 people or so actually got up to pay for a dance. I've never enjoyed them or participated in them unless I was forced to. I definitely won't be doing it. I agree that I am already getting gifts out of people why go for more, but that's just how I see it. I understand it's a tradition but we don't want it for us at our wedding.
@beatriz: I don't see how you saying people who are uncomfortable with the dollar dance are "too bourgeois status" is any different from someone saying doing the dance is "tacky". There is no need to get definsive, especially as no one has even said anything bad about the dollar dance. Just that it should be avoided if it's not the norm in your circle.
everyone at the wedding takes turns dancing with the bride and groom and pays money to dance with you.. its not like dirty dancing. it's slow dancing. It's a good time for the bride and groom to personally thank everyone for coming. The men dancing with the bride pin it on her veil. Yuu can put anything from $1 to $100. how ever much youd like. Some people do that instead of bringing a gift to the wedding.
I don't think its the same, but there is a similar tradition in Greece, where guests pin money to the Bride and Groom while they dance, or they just throw it at them!
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I'll be doing the dollar dance. I agree, it's a regional thing. Every wedding in my area I've been to has had one, but other areas have not. Do whatever you want. So what if you guests don't have a dollar? Having a few seconds to dance with you and talk one on one is priceless! And around my town, money goes in a pretty money bag, not pinned to the veil. Plus everyone gets a shot afterward!
We did the dollar dance because it is traditional in my region. It was actually a lot of fun, both for us and for the guests that participated. And the cash payout was definitely worth any awkward moments of dancing with people I didn't know well. =P But also, it was the only chance I got to have one-on-one time with some of our guests. It made for some fun memories.
That said, if dollar dances aren't typical in your region, guests could take it the wrong way.
Oh the "tacky" word. Bottom line, is that in some regions and cultures its EXPECTED. It's a personal decision. I've never seen anyone AT a wedding think it's "tacky." If they don't like, they won't participate.
I've never heard of this until just now, but it sounds like fun!!! I'd love to go to a wedding where this happens! :)
@bells: Dollar dance is where the bride and groom accept a dollar or more for a guest to dance with them during the reception. It usually helps them gather a good amount of savings. My family has had several and they end up with a lot of money in the end, which helps them enjoy their honeymoon more. I never really thought anything negatively until I joined WB (not saying everyone hates them).
As for the word tacky, it's been used to describe them on other threads. It's not my opinion of it.
my FH and i just had this discussion - in my circle we consider it the big "T" - in his circle its expected and the norm... so what to do???
my family will be horrifiied if we do it, and his family will wonder WTH did the dollar dance go? ugh....
i just keep gettin the visual of "make it rain" when looking at some of the dollar dance pictures :) makes me giggle :)
I had NEVER heard of one until I met my fiance. I think it's a Midwest/western thing. I at first said I wouldn't do it, but he looked devastated. I've come around. I think it'll be a good chance to say hi to people I might not otherwise sit down and talk to. Kinda like an informal receiving line. My only worry is that since people in Virginia don't have them (in my experience anyway) that DJ will announce it and everyone will be like "that's weird" and just go about their business, and we'll be left standing on the dance floor all alone. Oh well, I guess if that happens, I'll just dance with my husband and give him a dollar later.
@jedeve: I'm in Virginia as well and never heard of them either. Since you're doing it, could you put something on your wedding website about it or spread the word about it?
As far as doing one, we won't but that's because I'd never heard of them until I got here, so it's not part of my culture or tradition. People doing them, should do them if they want to. I wouldn't be offended, I'd just want to know so I'd have some cash.
@TheFutureMcBride: Yeah, if nothing else, his Montana relatives will surely do it and then it'll just be over quick.
Once, on theknot.com I saw someone ask if there other ways to get money from guests than the dollar dance. I don't think she meant it as greedy as it sounded, I think she meant just were there other traditions similar to that. But man, everyone jumped on it like crazy. I don't think dollar dances are tacky. I probably would be surprised if I went to one and hadn't heard of it.
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Anyone planning on doing a dollar dance at their wedding? What if the guests have no cash? LOL