Post # 1
We have a rather large bridal party (7 BM and 6 groomsmen) and I personally would prefer to have our bridal party have the option to sit with their dates. At the same time, we don’t really want to do a sweetheart table so we decided we’re going to have a modified head table where it’s us, Best Man and his wife (who is a BM), MoH and her date and Matron of Honor and her hubby (who is also a groomsman). I just hope it doesn’t make any of the other bridal party members feel left out!
How is everyone else planning on having their seating? Head table? Sweetheart? or some modified combo of both?
Post # 3
We just had our own round table in the middle of the floor with us and our parents. His BM was his dad and my MOH was his sister who didn’t want to sit with us boring adults lol.
Post # 4
I think we’re going to do a sweetheart and long tables. I used to think sweethearts were kind of weird but FI and I love to go out to eat together and the beginning of our relationship was built around going to dinner so I like the idea of having our first meal as a married couple just be the two of us eating dinner together like always.
@HunnyBear-are you putting the rest of your bridal party at tables together or going to intersperse them with the rest of your guests?
Post # 5
We’re doing sweetheart because of a large all family bridal party. Also, we have 3 parent tables, so there was no way we could choose just one to sit at & we’d like to keep his divorced parents at separate tables. Plus, it worked out that all the “old” people (aunts & uncles) would fit at the parents tables, as most of our guests are friends & young.
Post # 6
We are having round tables at our wedding so my FH, myself and our 3 bridesmaids/groomsmen are going to sit together. These people are all our best friends so we can’t wait to enjoy a great dinner with them.
Post # 7
We are actually doing something similar to what you’re doing. We are having a big white tent and the tables are going to be alligned on each side of the tent, with one table (of the same size) in the middle – right in front of the dance floor. Our chairs will be facing the dance floor & there’ll be 6 other people that are able to sit with us. It may be my MOH and my brother (my MOH is my future sister in law), and the best man and his date, and then someone else who I’m close to.
I don’t think you have to worry about leaving anyone out! I mean, of all the weddings I’ve been to or heard about, I’ve always heard to BM’s or groomsmen say that they WISH they could’ve sat and ate with their dates rather than be stuck at the table! I know I wish I would’ve! So, I’m giving all guests the option to sit where they please, whoever winds up sitting with us will be the ones we eat dinner with! 🙂
Post # 8
I forgot to add – when it comes down to it, the bride & groom so rarely spend any time at their table… so, do whatever makes you feel most comfortable. I agree with Lees – a lot of your attendants will wish that they could’ve sat with their dates. Especially if their dates don’t know many people.
Post # 9
MissMeepsie…very true..i’ve rarely seen any bride and groom spend any time at their table..maybe to eat for about 10 minutes and have a drink, but then theyre off saying hi to everyone…
Post # 10
Do family style, that’s what we did! Bride and groom sit at the head of the table, then the bridesmaids go down one side and the groomsmen directly across from them. That way no one has to stare awkwardly out into the crowd and everyone can talk with eachother. There’d be room for the dates too.
Post # 11
@ColeB: If we go this route we would definitely keep the rest of the party together (with their dates of course!)
At first I wanted to do a sweetheart table, but then I decided I wanted to sit with our friends. I know for the most part we won’t really be at whatever table we sit at, but for whatever little time we’ll actually be there I just thought it would be nice 🙂
Post # 12
i’m sure the rest of your bridal party will appreciate that they can sit with their dates! i was just in a wedding and my fi was just in a wedding that we both had to sit without each other, it was not fun.
we’re sitting with our bridal party and their dates at a normal table. it’s not as hard for us, we have a small bridal party.