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Anyone eloping due to family issues?

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    This is a question out of curiousity, has anyone considered eloping just to avoid family drama/awkwardness?  I'm sure this a primary reason for doing so.  

    SO and I agreed up front that we don't want a wedding.  We would rather have a quick, private elopement and a romantic vacation (honeymoon) afterwards.  I am not into parties, dresses and being in the center of attention.  I am a proud tomboy intorvert Wink.  Plus being vegan would really piss off my guests as they would probably not want a veggie platter, lol.

    But SO and I realized that our wedding would be awkward as hell with our families.  My parents are affectionate, talkative and hippy-like.  My sister has pink hair and sleeve tattoos.  My dad is very feminine and warm, my mom is giggly and won't shut up.  SO's family is ULTRA conservative, uptight and can't even make eye contact, let alone hug people.  Our families are polar opposites!  I can't even imagine what our wedding would look like, lol!!

     

     
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    ABCarlyle    May 19, 2012   Tennessee

    I'm considering it. We were supposed to get married this May but family drama started taking over for what ever reason (full moon?) So I basically cancelled everything, going to give it some time to cool down and maybe elope at the beach this fall. I just can't think of getting married into a family that has so many issues and some of those issues directed at me. I think some time will be the best situation for us.

     
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    @ABCarlyle:  You know, I never really thought about how a wedding would be for me, because I have never been into weddings.  But imagine walking down the aisle, and if a bride has animousity with family members that she "had" to invite, she may feel self-conscious, knowing they aren't happy for her.

     
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    MissPumpkinPie    October 13, 2012   Jersey Shore

    It's not causing problems, but FI's mother wasn't happy at first.  She wanted to be at the wedding, but it's mainly their fault as to why we had to cancel our big wedding.  I still have a grudge over it, but I'm very excited about my decision.

     
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    FutureMrsHoneybee    August 2012   Costa Rican Rainforest Elopement

    That is one of the reasons I am eloping, but not necessarily THE reason.

    My fiance and I are extremely private people and we both felt ridiculously uncomfortable at the thought of multiple people sharing that intimate moment with us.

    Plus, we want a certain experience at our wedding. With our budget, that isn't going to happen if we have guests.

    Those were some of the reasons why we chose to elope. Our budget goes A LOT farther on just the two of us than it would go on thirty+ people. By eloping, we get our dream wedding.

    This is where I'm trying to plan our elopement right now: http://www.theweddingcompany.co.nz/aoraki-mt-cook-weddings-new-zealand.html

    There's no way we could have afforded to go to NZ if we had invited people to our wedding.

     
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    JustNoelle    August 6, 2013   NYC

    @Mrs. Harmony:  Yes, my FI & I have cancelled our big extravagent wedding in November and plan on eloping in Mexico this summer. We both have a really big family (initial guestlist was 180 ppl) but we've just had enough!!! Good luck!!! 

    & remember its YOUR WEDDING do what you want to do!!!

     
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    Keisha In Love    March 31, 2012   Chicago, Illinois

    Well techincally we aren't eloping since our mothers and children will attend- but after significant family drama related to my dad and his new wife who is not invted for several reasons (1. was cruel to my 14 year old son for no reason and 2. was his mistress during my parents 20 year marriage). 

    SOOOO..... we decided to move our ceremony up to 3/31.  Only our moms and children will attend and we are going out for chicken and waffles after!  We are keeping our 5/26 venue and using it as a wedding celebration/ reception! 

    When we made and finalized this choice, I felt as if a rock was lifted off of my chest.  I had so much anxiety about walking down the aisle without my dad, even though I had so many mixed emotions about asking him at all.  My fiiance and I sat down and talked it out and decided that our ceremony was about us, our new life together as a married couple, our new vision as a blended family.  We decided that we needed our ceremony to be reflective of that very personal committment and we wanted our children and parents to see our exchange but it really wasn't necessary for anyone else. 

     

     

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