Post # 1
I am a few months shy of 24- getting engaged super soon 🙂 I know I will be the first to get engaged out of my friends and family (brothers, cousins etc). None of my friends are in serious relationships, while I’ve been with my guy for 6 years- living together for almost 3 years.
I feel like I can’t share those random happy thoughts that race through my head with many people, especially my friends. i don’t want to come off as gloating… 🙁
The worst part is my closest friend has only had ONE relationship and it only last a few weeks. She has been down about being single for a very long time. I never want to hurt her but I also want to share my excitement. Im not sure how to balance it.
anyone else experience this? how did you deal with it?
Post # 3
I know exactly what you mean I am going to be the first of my friends and family to get married and NONE of my friends are even in a long term relationship my best friend has only really been with guys for maybe a few days at a time… and I have been with my FI for 5 1/2 years
I totally find it hard to talk about the sweet little things that I get excited over especially now with planning the wedding I wanna talk about everything but feel rude when I am with my friends, even just mentioning it is awkward… I want to ask opinions and be girly about it but I just have to hold back.
I dont really know how to deal with it there isn’t really a balance that I have found. I sorta just limit what I say, which is why I love this blog site it helps heaps, I can let it all out and know there is someone who gets what I am saying.
Post # 4
Me! Or close enough. I have exactly one married friend. A couple acquaintences have gotten engaged since mine, but that’s it.
My FSIL and I are the exact same age. I’m engaged to her older brother and she’s never had a serious relationship. It is kinda strange. She told me about her first kiss shortly after I got engaged.
I spend a lot of time here to talk about weddings without annoying people. My mom and I are also pretty close, so we talk often. My FSIL is actually really excited for us and we’re really close, so talking to her is a little odd, but she’ll always listen. My 15-year-old sister (my MOH) is the same way. So while I don’t really have anyone who’s in the same boat, I do have people to talk to.
Post # 5
I am the first of my close friends to get engaged, but not the first out of friends from school, or family.
Post # 6
I was the first of my friends to get engaged (now they are all becoming engaged) and the first of my friends to get married. It’s exciting but I’m not looking forward to wedding planning and being in weddings for the next few years, especially after paying for and planning my mine!
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
Not the first of my family, but definitely the first of my friends – and my cousins are both older than me and… well, the last cousin to get married, her daughter just turned 4, and she was born about a year after the wedding? So it’s been a while. The daughters were all quite nicely staggered in age in our family.
But most of my friends… they’re either not in long term relationships, or not likely to be getting married any time soon. I met a couple of people through work roughly my age who were married, but we weren’t close friends.
Post # 9
I was the first in my family and of my friends. I had similar feelings about fearing that I was coming across as gloating, so I tried to keep things like Facebook updates about the wedding to a minimum. I was not really an over the top bride, anyway, so I barely talked about it. I think my friends, especially those that were waiting, appreciated it, but I don’t think they would have been upset if I would have been a little more outspoken about it. Everyone seemed to expect us to get married before everyone else, anyway, since we had been in a relationship for a while and have a house. I am 25 and he is 29, so I think based on our ages it was expected by friends, too. I was 24 when I got engaged.
Post # 10
Yep, I’ll be the first of my friends (getting engaged sometime in the next 6 months), and of my family members who are around the same age. My DP has a cousin our age who is engaged, but she doesn’t have any engaged friends either. I think it’s one of the things I find the hardest- I don’t have anyone my own age to be excited with because for my friends the idea of marriage is still so foreign and distant. Ah well, doesn’t mean I’ll be any less excited
Post # 11
@crookedframe: You can be excited with your DP. 🙂
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
I have a few friends who married young, but we are the first to have a wedding per say (my two friends had quickly thrown together marriages. as in a few weeks to plan it) but on FI’s side we are the first besides his half cousin. (= It’s a lot of fun…except I’m getting a little tired of getting advice from FI’s aunts.
Post # 13
Meeeeeee. I have only one friend that’s in a relationship, even. It’s a little awkward and not wanting to make anyone uncomfortable or gloat is one of the reasons I’m soooo hooked on weddingbee.
Post # 14
I wasn’t the first one and I feel like I can’t share because everyone is in their late 20s/early 30s and is a lot more concerned about finding a match. I really don’t think you need to worry about hurting your friends’ feelings. If they are the same age as you, they should be able to not make it about themselves since they have PLENTYYYY of time
Post # 15
I’m not the first but it sort of feels like it because I don’t have people in RL to share my little details with – either they got married long ago and are well into the kid phase, or we’re not THAT close, or, in the case of some of the closest people to me, they are not in relationships and I know their dreams are also to marry one day, so I don’t want to rub it in at all.
Good thing I’m getting engaged/married in the age of the internet and Weddingbee! 🙂
Post # 16
first of friends, not of family. My good friend is also the girlfriend of my fiances twin brother. she is both older han me and has (in her opinion) been going out with my FBIL for longer (they broke up for 12 months inbetween and got back together but she includes the break in her calculations) she definately was not happy when we got engaged and is definaely jealous.
My other good friend has been with her man for 7 years but she is 3 years younger than me and is not in the right place to get engaged right now. She is over the moon that i am getting married first.