(Closed) Anyone else?

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2005

Sorry you’re so sick. 🙁 Doing anything you’re not keen on doing just seems magnified when you’re not feeling well. Maybe one of the bees can call you with a wedding emergency and you won’t be able to make it.

Music wasn’t one of my top three either. I hired a violin/guiltar duo after hearing them at a get-together. I told them I had three requirements: something romantic for the first dance that they already knew (L.O.V.E. was what they ended up using), theme from Sesame Street for the recessional sped up just a bit, and the bluegrass jam from Back to the Future III for our getaway music. After that they could do whatever they wanted.

Post # 4
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75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

I don’t know, maybe you can explain you are terribly sick and Mr S can go instead while you stay with the kid?  After all, it is his wedding, too, so I would think your in-laws would be satisfied with either you or him going.  And you should be fine with it if you already know you don’t want it :-).

I suppose there’s a risk that he will LOVE it and come back insisting that you do it, but maybe you have a feel for how likely that is.  I’d say being sick is a good reason, and Mr S should take one for the team.  And they’re his family, after all.

Alternatively, maybe you can leave early?  Can you drive yourself there instead of relying on them so that you can leave when you’ve had enough?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

ugh, i know totally how you feel. i didn’t really care about the music, so i made my mom do all of that. moms seem to care a ton about this stuff!

i agree — why don’t you either a) ask your FI to go for you, or b) explain that you’re sick and won’t really be able to hear things all that well (i know this is how i get when i’m all stuffy!), so june is probably a better time to go when you can "really hear the beauty of the music" (so that they know that you’re not just blowing it off!).

hope it works out and you feel better soon!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Ugh organ music.  I love rebecca’s list of really reasonable excuses!!  The music thing is rearing its ugly head for us too…  we chose our band and vocalist because we love their style of music and its what we want at the reception.  Somehow I totally space that we might want music for the actual ceremony.  So my mom says last night:  Steve wants to know what you wanted played for the ceremony.  Total blank.  I guess I will ask what he normally plays, or what he would suggest…  I hope to heaven there aren’t two hours of selections to listen to, because I won’t make it through that. 

Seriously, when I have a bad cold I have a really hard time finding my give-a-s**t.  Especially about things that I don’t care that much about anyway.  I think feeling crappy is a reasonable excuse to postpone the torture.  You’re not going to make any sensible decisions under the influence of a bottle of Nyquil.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

Sorry you’re sick! Take some airbourne and it should help!

As for FMIL, she might bring a tape recorder and make you listen to that…  LOL!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Good for you sweeney!  An evening alone to rest and relax can make a big difference.  I’m glad you get some time to do the right thing for you. 

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