Post # 1
First – I’ve been sick all week and it’s been terrible. On top of that the church music thing is tonight – where we can go hear the organ and the piano in the sanctuary.
This place is huge and the organ is ginormous! And The In laws are insistant that we go listen. I’m not toally against this but I’m horribly sick, I HATE classical music and do not intend to use anything traditional for my entrance or exit and already know that I will not be using the organ….not that kind of girl…but they are so sure once I hear it I will want it…
So they will be here at 7 to pick me, Mr S has to stay home with the kiddo so he lucked out…and I have to suffer through 2 hours of organ music with a sinus infestion…We can’t put it off because they won’t do this again until June and the wedding is in August and 2 months is not enough time to decide on the music. (according to FMIL)
Am I the only one who doesnt’ really care about the music issue? I know I want to walk out to Here Comes The Sun by The Beatles and all thats left is picking something simple to walk into – why does this require 2 hours of torture???
Not going isn’t an option – so can anyone e-mail me some ear plugs and really good meds to hold me over……
Post # 3
Sorry you’re so sick. 🙁 Doing anything you’re not keen on doing just seems magnified when you’re not feeling well. Maybe one of the bees can call you with a wedding emergency and you won’t be able to make it.
Music wasn’t one of my top three either. I hired a violin/guiltar duo after hearing them at a get-together. I told them I had three requirements: something romantic for the first dance that they already knew (L.O.V.E. was what they ended up using), theme from Sesame Street for the recessional sped up just a bit, and the bluegrass jam from Back to the Future III for our getaway music. After that they could do whatever they wanted.
Post # 4
I don’t know, maybe you can explain you are terribly sick and Mr S can go instead while you stay with the kid? After all, it is his wedding, too, so I would think your in-laws would be satisfied with either you or him going. And you should be fine with it if you already know you don’t want it :-).
I suppose there’s a risk that he will LOVE it and come back insisting that you do it, but maybe you have a feel for how likely that is. I’d say being sick is a good reason, and Mr S should take one for the team. And they’re his family, after all.
Alternatively, maybe you can leave early? Can you drive yourself there instead of relying on them so that you can leave when you’ve had enough?
Post # 5
ugh, i know totally how you feel. i didn’t really care about the music, so i made my mom do all of that. moms seem to care a ton about this stuff!
i agree — why don’t you either a) ask your FI to go for you, or b) explain that you’re sick and won’t really be able to hear things all that well (i know this is how i get when i’m all stuffy!), so june is probably a better time to go when you can "really hear the beauty of the music" (so that they know that you’re not just blowing it off!).
hope it works out and you feel better soon!
Post # 6
Ugh organ music. I love rebecca’s list of really reasonable excuses!! The music thing is rearing its ugly head for us too… we chose our band and vocalist because we love their style of music and its what we want at the reception. Somehow I totally space that we might want music for the actual ceremony. So my mom says last night: Steve wants to know what you wanted played for the ceremony. Total blank. I guess I will ask what he normally plays, or what he would suggest… I hope to heaven there aren’t two hours of selections to listen to, because I won’t make it through that.
Seriously, when I have a bad cold I have a really hard time finding my give-a-s**t. Especially about things that I don’t care that much about anyway. I think feeling crappy is a reasonable excuse to postpone the torture. You’re not going to make any sensible decisions under the influence of a bottle of Nyquil.
Post # 7
Well the In laws are going on their own. I dragged my butt out of bed to see my kiddo off with her dad for a preschool round up night and to say hello to the in laws who stopped by to drop off a candle option for the centerpiece.
FFIL can not figure out why he’s being draged to this, which was quite funny and FMIL is set to go with paper and pen. Like that will help sway me to the organ way….
I’m taking advantage of the house being slightly quite and going back to bed until the kiddo gets dropped off by dad and we have a Level 3 Meltdown. Seriously, this child learned the ropes of drama queen from the best. Me.
Back to my Puff Plus and Nyquill.
Post # 8
Sorry you’re sick! Take some airbourne and it should help!
As for FMIL, she might bring a tape recorder and make you listen to that… LOL!
Post # 9
Good for you sweeney! An evening alone to rest and relax can make a big difference. I’m glad you get some time to do the right thing for you.