Post # 1
I’ve never considered myself the uber-posh kind, but since my family and most guests are hispanic and I (having no idea what hispanic traditions are) am planning a fairly American wedding, they are starting to test my boundries.
Step Gma: I’m going to wear a violet shirt with white pants.
Me: You’re going to wear white to my wedding?
Me: No…Only the bride wears white.
SG: Fine then I’ll wear my black pants.
This is from a woman who owns every color pant there is (green and red and violet). And lets not talk about RSVPing because that was a concept completely unknown to them so I ended up having to contact almost my entire guest list.
Anyway, share your frustrating etiquette stories.
Post # 3
Mine isnt really guest related more MOB related
She wanted me to put cash bar on the invites & our registry info on them also- Like right on the front!
Post # 4
My Mother-In-Law thought she had a say in what flowers I was choosing…especially b/c she really didn’t like hydrangeas. Meanwhile, she didn’t help pay for them. I politely let my husband know that when she contributed towards the flowers, she could then have her say in them.
Not really ettiquette, but something that irked the crap out of me!
Post # 5
I don’t know if this counts as etiquette but it really annoyed me that my BIL wouldn’t even try a sip of our carrot ginger soup (1st course) because he doesn’t like carrots. Come on, dude, you’re 33 years old–not 5 and you’re sitting next to the bride. Pick up your damn spoon. You couldn’t even taste the carrot! It was just a nice light, creamy, spicy soup.
It’s a stupid thing to let bother me, I know.
Post # 6
People don’t feel the need to rsvp, which drives me crazy. Why do you think we put the stamp on there, if we didn’t want you to mail it back?
My fiance’s mother isn’t just wearing white pants, she is wearing a white dress! For crying out loud! It’s actually off-white and not bright white, but guess what color my dress is? Ivory. Hm.
Post # 7
I’m annoyed that people automatically expect an invite to our wedding! I’ve had people that I barely know, FH’s friends from college and distant relatives automatically think that they’re invited.
I don’t have the heart to tell them “No” on the spot, but they’ll get the hint when their invite is not in the mail. I feel that this is SO rude.
Post # 8
OMG all of those are great. I feel a little better. I had a relative call and say
“Hey you forgot to put my mother’s name on the invite.”
I didn’t know what to say… I made up some excuse which I regret now. I should’ve just been like “no, no I didn’t”.
Post # 9
Despite my wished to NOT tell her about the wedding until 6 months out, my future Mother-In-Law has known about the wedding 1 week and has already requested that I change the reception menu because there are items on there that SHE was planning to serve at the rehearsal. Um, excuse me?!! Rude! don’t be rude! (Anyone know that quote?) If you don’t you must watch . . .
Now you see why I didn’t want her to know about the wedding yet 🙁
Post # 10
I’m dreading how the RSVP process is going to go down with some of the more old school people on my side of the family. I think I have you all beat…my mom is inviting her SIL’s brother. When we asked for the name of this man’s wife, we were told, “Well, most likely he will bring his girlfriend, so just address the envelope to him.” OOOOOOOOOOMG!!! Rata de dos patas!!
My mom doesn’t feel good about uninviting him, so I’m stuck. But I am going to find out the wife’s name and address it to both!
Post # 11
@MissLLC: Hahahhahaah Rata de dos patas OMG you cracked me up!
But yeh my Mexican family and my FI’s Ecuadorian family think we are from a different planet!!! Save the Date’s, Rsvp’s, accomodation cards, registries..these are all foreign concepts to them. OMG let’s not even talk about the rehearsal dinner FI’s mom just stared at me when I mentioned it lmao I was like forget it I will take care of it, you just show up!
Post # 12
@ktisthatbees: OMG I LOVE LOVE LOOOOOVE BON QUI QUI!!! *tapping head* dont haaate dont haaate… lol
Post # 13
@JennyChicago: I am sooooo with you on that one!! i was talking about engagement pictures and they had NO idea what i was talking about. IN fact one of the family members said go outside stand by the garden (weeds) and ill take picture of you and you can pay me 20 bucks and a case of beer! mmm no
Post # 14
Ahhh ladies….yes this is why I put it on the latino board. Not that brides of different cultures don’t have great anecdotes (they certainly do) but my god latinos have a way with indiscretion that is hard to match.
Post # 15
Wow. Good stuff here, lol.
We’re having a desitnation wedding and need people to reserve their cruise by next week. I had a mini breakdown this weekend because we met with the travel agent and only 3 people have called so far (out of about 120).
I understand that our Mexican and Ecuadorian families have never done anything like this, but RSVP dates and deadlines mean NOTHING to our peoples.
Now I have to have my mom and sister help me call everyone one by one to see if they’re going o que.
Good luck, ladies.
Post # 16
@lopezlulu: aw another Mexican/Ecuadorian wedding like me!!! Yeah people thought WE were rude for requiring people to RSVP!