- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
Ok – let me preface this by saying I USED to be allll about the drama – in college (asides from starting out by majoring in theatre! lol) – seriously everything was all about me – and I was THE drama queen. I have since grown out of that (graduted college 7 years ago) and have really tried to become a very calm non-dramatic person, as I’ve had to deal with other people in my life that I realized were just like me and I hated that! lol – so this is something I’ve seriously worked on…
I’m 30 years old and have grown past those stages!
Here’s the thing, though. My sister-in-law is an idiot. I’ve met her one time (at their grandmother’s funeral) and that’s the only time we’ve met face to face.
I’ll try to make a long story short…basically she upped and moved away from her family WHILE THEIR MOTHER WAS IN THE HOSPITAL – from the east-middle side of Illinois to somewhere in Michigan about 7 hours away. Obviously this happened YEARS before my husband and I met – and so this is also, obviously, why I never see her.
So the fact is she lives pretty far away and the man she moved in with – whom she’s still with – is a (sorry if this offends anyone) but honestly a fat lazy SOB who doesn’t work, is on disability because he truly is LAZY and is honestly about 500 pounds. She sticks with him and works 2 jobs to support him (hey, her decision, all be it a supid one…).
Their mother – who can barely get around without a cane or her walker – told me, last time I saw her, that it’s been almost 2 years since she and DH’s sister have spoken.
Now – also – their mother is actually their “step mother” but neither call her that – she’s just “mom”. Their real mom died when my husband was 8 and SIL was 5.
I love my Mother-In-Law – she’s a good woman and there’d never be ANY reason that I can think of to disrespect her…granted, she’s not the strong matriarch type of woman – but she’s just a very nice lady who, as far as I know, has never really done anything wrong.
My SIL – again, upped and moved at the age of 23 two states away WHILE their mother was in the hospital and really didn’t tell anyone til after she’d left. And didn’t go see her in the hospital – again, literally upped and moved without telling anyone.
She refused (for what reason I don’t know) to go to their mother’s father’s funeral which my Mother-In-Law is still mad about…the one and only time I MET SIL face to face was at their father’s mother’s funeral a few months ago…she came home for that – and while she was home, their mother was in the hospital for foot surgery. She didn’t go see her at all OR called her. She went to the funeral and went home.
Now, from what I’ve gotten from both my husband and my Mother-In-Law is that honestly – NOTHING has been done to SIL to make her be so incredibly selfish and self-absorbed. Their childhoods were good – she was always a good mother – and Mother-In-Law says that she and SIL were always close until she moved away.
SIL called me last night to talk about some pics I asked her to find and send to me…she then brought up something about her mom and all I said to her was “call her. I’m not getting into this. just call her” and of course she started in on some stuff and I quit listening – lol – but the thing is, honestly – from what EVERYONE in the family has said – She truly is just some self-absorbed person who has NO reason to be doing this to the family but has been ignoring everyone and never comes home for anything (no holidays, nothing).
My husband wants her to be at the wedding – after all she IS his sister – but I also know that if she DOES start anything, I WILL ask her to leave. Course he keeps joking “get a few beers in me, my uncle (MIL’s bro), my nephew (MIL’s grandson) – and we’ll put her in her place!”
someone DOES need to – but darnit i don’t want drama at my wedding! :p
however, at the same time, someone does need to slap her and tell her to quit being such a child…
Some might think that there’s some reason she’s hiding – but I know this family, there’s nothing like that to be worried about. She’s just an incredibly selfish, self-absorbed drama queen.
My husband said he’ll do what he can to make sure there’s not a scene – especially as he doesn’t want my Mother-In-Law to deal with it.
ugh, just venting, I guess. Anyone else afraid there may be a drama scene at their wedding? or HAD one?