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I know alot of womne pick the dress for the BM's and tell them it is what it is but I want my girls to have a dress they like and will wear again so I am allowing them to decide on one they like in the color I want. Anyone else doing this?
I chose my color and then let them choose the dress. My BM's are my sisters who are built exactly opposite. So I knew they woudlnt agree on a style.
I too chose the color and then let the bridesmaids choose the dresses. My only stipulation was that all of the bridesmaids dresses were the exact same color and made out of the same type of fabric (but they could be different style dresses, depending on what would look nicest on each girl - total different body types). I've been in so many weddings before and always hated dropping a couple hundred bucks on an ugly dress that I would never wear again. My girls ended up picking out bridesmaid dresses from anntaylor.com (a beautiful dark espresso color) and they both are pretty sure they'll end up actually wearing it again (which I was NEVER able to do with any of the bridesmaids dresses I bought for other people's weddings).
I picked my two colors and told all the bridesmaids to pick whatever dress in either color they wanted. I figured they were paying for it and wearing it so it should at least be something they liked.
I chose the color (blue) and length (long), and let them choose their own style. I'm not humoring myself by saying that they'll ever wear it again (especially long dresses... we're too old for prom!), but I at least let them choose their own styles so they'd at least be *comfortable* that day.
In my opinion... I've heard MANY brides say that they want their BM's to be able to wear the dress again... but unless you're letting them pick out black cocktail length dresses, they're probably not going to wear it again. And that's okay. Comes with the territory of being a bridesmaid. :)
I said blue and short and please pick the same type of fabric- we have come across one or two they say they will wear again. I think it is distracting when there are too many different shades, but I am probably a little more controlling than some. I agree about the black.
My bridesmaids are wearing their choice of black cocktail dresses. They all have very different bodies & i dont think it would be fair if i asked them all to wear the same thing--- plus this way they really WILL wear their dress again!
I told them all blue of whatever shade they want, knee length-ish or longer, look pretty when you stand in a row, and most importantly, if you wouldn't wear it in front of your grandma, you can't wear it to my wedding :) It's worked out pretty well so far!
I am letting them pick their dresses/slash style but I haven't narrowed down what I quite want yet. Obviously, NO vajayjay or tit showing dresses. But other than that I am still in pre-planning stages, all I know is yes, they will get to pick their own dress.
I told them anything in a light purple/lavender tone, not floor length and casual. Yet they both ended up buying the same dress, that neither particularly like, because they knew I liked it. Ha. They're also my sisters, so I don't know if that had anything to do with it. I honestly doubt either will wear them again, but they didn't have to buy those dresses, they could have bought something that they liked, instead of what I liked.
I definitely didn't let them just go pick any dress that they wanted considering all of the girls have totally different styles. But like you I wanted them to be able to wear the dress again, so what I did was pick 4 dresses that were cohesive looking but still a little different from each other and let the girls pick which of the 4 they wanted. I think it helped a lot because the girls were of all different body types.
I told my girls to pick something black that suited each of them. It ended up that my MOH chose a long dress and the other two girls chose shorter ones. When I was MOH for my MOH, she gave us a scrap of red fabric (roughly the color of cranberry juice) and asked us to get a long dress that matched it as closely as possible. I only wore it once more after that, but I loved it.
I gave them a specific designer, fabric and colour and then told them they could pick their own style. It actually worked out really well, as everyone picked something different which was exactly what I was hoping for.
I just gave em the color & let them pick their own. They all wanted me to "approve" their dresses, & what they picked out was great.
I think the best thing would be (if you want them to match exactly in color) is give them a swatch of fabric & have em get dresses that match that. If you don't mind exact colors, than it won't matter what designer/fabric they chose.
I did and it was a disaster. My MOH got something inappropriate! I ended up buying her a dress. I think it depends on who you are dealing with. :)
i said they all could pick out any knee length, navy chiffon dress. I went with them all shopping so got to see what everyone picked and I'm excited to see them all together on the big day!
I picked the color and fabric on JCrew.com and told them to pick their fav style! Worked perfectly! :)
Yes, they will pick their own dresses. I'm creating a vague tonal family (blues), and as long as it is an appropriate tea-knee/slightly above knee dress it's golden.
I did this, had everyone pick from the same designer in the same color and fabric. They all turned out really nice and each dress had personalized sashes, so those were all different too. Everyone really liked their dress and we got lots of compliments on the entire ensemble. I "supervised" dress picking so that no one picked anything innapropriate.
ME too! I said green and short--well not Kermit the Frog color but anything out side of that that looks good on my girls. They are all in varying forms of school and have varying levels of $$ to spend on the dress, and also all such different tastes, that this was the easiest option. Plus I just love the look of the photos I've seen, with each bridesmaid showing off her individual style.
I gave the honor to my sister who is my MOH. I had final say, but basically it was what she wanted, I wasn't going to be wearing the dresses so I want them to be her choice.
I told my bridesmaids that I just wanted them to wear David's Bridal's Oasis color, but they could pick any dress that they felt comfortable in. I have struggled for a while in finding clothing that fits and I didn't want to put them in a position to wear something that they hated. So we went to David's Bridal and had an evening of trying on dresses. And...drumroll please...they all chose the same dress! So I am very happy with what they chose and they are very comfortable. My MOH did not want strapless but decided that she liked the look of the bolero jacket and so she picked one of those to wear with her strapless dress.
My bridesmaids went to the same store (Alfred Angelo) and got the same color, but their dress styles were all their own choosing. I didn't want to be responsible for them being uncomforable in something I chose, especially because they are all different heights and shapes. I know how uncomfortable I have been in chosen bridesmaid dresses before, so I'm happy to have them choose their own style. Plus, if they don't like it, don't blame me! The bonus is that none of them picked the same dress. Two have long, two have short, and two have tea length. I think it will offset nicely.
I let my girls pick their dresses and the color - I designed the reception decor completely around what they selected. It turned out lovely.
I went even further. For each of my weddings, I had only one female attendant. Since I didn't have anyone who needed to match anyone else, I just told them to wear a nice dress. Here is the one from my recent wedding:
I sent them a powerpoint slide show with ~25 dresses I liked and told them to pick one and pick a color that was somewhere in the burgundy to raspberry to pink color family. And in fact, two of them got dresses that weren't on my slide show, but whatever. I really don't care and would rather them get a flattering dress they like.
I DID!
I said alfred angelo fuschia and this is what they bought!
I said dark grey, knee length. I think they did really well. :-)
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I am letting them have mostly free rein with a couple stipulations:
- Grape-ish or Hunter to Grass Green (think the colors in a purple hydrangea)
- Straps are a plus
- Keeps everything covered (2 of my girls are on the busty side, and one could, as she says, have a V down her navel and not show a thing)
- Must have a bra on underneath (sounds silly I know)
Of course, they keep sending me options and making sure I'm okay with them all. I have yet to see one that I wasn't. It looks like the two from my hometown are really liking the same dress, one in green and one in purple.
I picked the Jcrew silk chiffon dresses in graphite but let the girls choose their own style of the dress.
I told my girls "Something available in cranberry, and the fabric has to match. First girl to get to the store and pick a dress picks the fabric. "
It sort of worked. They did pick beautiful complementary dresses in cranberry that looked great on them, and the fabric does match...however the first girl picked a very expensive fabric, and the other bridesmaid couldn't afford it. I ended up helping her out. Oops. I think in retrospect I would do the same thing but put a cost cap on it, "Cranberry, fabric has to match and under X amount of dollars."
Sorry, forgot to add good luck! I think letting bridesmaids choose is a great idea!
I did! I picked Euro Eggplant color from Bill Levkoff and let them pick out their own dresses. They all have totally different figures and I wanted them to feel comforable and beautiful in their dresses.
Sort of. I picked a color, fabric and desginer but they picked the style.
I did mostly. I said grey, and you all have to agree on a designer and fabric. They all picked the exact same dress.
I only had 1 MOH, and I told her she can wear whatever she wants, any style, any color. She decided on her dress about a month before the wedding. It was beautiful, but I would've been fine with whatever she chose.
I only have an MOH but I'm allowing her to pick her own dress. I don't think she'll decide on the dress until very close to the wedding.
In my case it helps that we don't have wedding colours, so anything she chooses goes.
In modern times, a lot of people do this. My fiance's aunt did that recently.
I AM letting my BMs select their own dress...I am just choosing the color. This is mostly because one of my sisters is very self-conscious of her body and I would like her to feel more comfortable, knowing that she picked out a dress that she personally thinks looks good on her body, because she is a little bit larger... So anyways I think it will work out perfectly.
Sometimes people who do this just select a few dresses for people to choose from, however I am not doing that, in this case. I am being flexible for my sister, etc....
Good luck!
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