(Closed) Anyone else allowing their BM’s to pick their dresses?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I chose my color and then let them choose the dress.  My BM’s are my sisters who are built exactly opposite.  So I knew they woudlnt agree on a style. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I too chose the color and then let the bridesmaids choose the dresses.  My only stipulation was that all of the bridesmaids dresses were the exact same color and made out of the same type of fabric (but they could be different style dresses, depending on what would look nicest on each girl – total different body types).  I’ve been in so many weddings before and always hated dropping a couple hundred bucks on an ugly dress that I would never wear again.  My girls ended up picking out bridesmaid dresses from anntaylor.com (a beautiful dark espresso color) and they both are pretty sure they’ll end up actually wearing it again (which I was NEVER able to do with any of the bridesmaids dresses I bought for other people’s weddings).

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I picked my two colors and told all the bridesmaids to pick whatever dress in either color they wanted.  I figured they were paying for it and wearing it so it should at least be something they liked. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i told my girls pink and flowers.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I chose the color (blue) and length (long), and let them choose their own style. I’m not humoring myself by saying that they’ll ever wear it again (especially long dresses… we’re too old for prom!), but I at least let them choose their own styles so they’d at least be *comfortable* that day.

In my opinion… I’ve heard MANY brides say that they want their BM’s to be able to wear the dress again… but unless you’re letting them pick out black cocktail length dresses, they’re probably not going to wear it again. And that’s okay. Comes with the territory of  being a bridesmaid. 🙂

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I said blue and short and please pick the same type of fabric- we have come across one or two they say they will wear again. I think it is distracting when there are too many different shades, but I am probably a little more controlling than some. I agree about the black.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My bridesmaids are wearing their choice of black cocktail dresses. They all have very different bodies & i dont think it would be fair if i asked them all to wear the same thing— plus this way they really WILL wear their dress again!

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I told them all blue of whatever shade they want, knee length-ish or longer, look pretty when you stand in a row, and most importantly, if you wouldn’t wear it in front of your grandma, you can’t wear it to my wedding 🙂 It’s worked out pretty well so far!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am letting them pick their dresses/slash style but I haven’t narrowed down what I quite want yet. Obviously,  NO vajayjay or tit showing dresses. But other than that I am still in pre-planning stages, all I know is yes, they will get to pick their own dress.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I told them anything in a light purple/lavender tone, not floor length and casual.  Yet they both ended up buying the same dress, that neither particularly like, because they knew I liked it.  Ha.  They’re also my sisters, so I don’t know if that had anything to do with it.  I honestly doubt either will wear them again, but they didn’t have to buy those dresses, they could have bought something that they liked, instead of what I liked.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I definitely didn’t let them just go pick any dress that they wanted considering all of the girls have totally different styles. But like you I wanted them to be able to wear the dress again, so what I did was pick 4 dresses that were cohesive looking but still a little different from each other and let the girls pick which of the 4 they wanted. I think it helped a lot because the girls were of all different body types.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I told my girls to pick something black that suited each of them. It ended up that my MOH chose a long dress and the other two girls chose shorter ones. When I was MOH for my MOH, she gave us a scrap of red fabric (roughly the color of cranberry juice) and asked us to get a long dress that matched it as closely as possible. I only wore it once more after that, but I loved it.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I gave them a specific designer, fabric and colour and then told them they could pick their own style. It actually worked out really well, as everyone picked something different which was exactly what I was hoping for.

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