Post # 1
So I’m really not sure what to do, but I am quite anxious about my wedding decisions. I am worried the photographer won’t get good shots, and I’m worried my dress is too silly/trendy. I also am worrying about the venue. I’m typically a worrier, but this is giving me such anxiety.
I spent a lot of time researching and making the decisions I have made so far, but I am so nervous. I feel like maybe I made bad choices and should have picked different things. Are any of you anxious over your wedding decisions?
I can’t afford to make changes, and I’m not sure I really want to? I have quite a while till my wedding, so I need to figure out a way to get over this. How have you ladies made yourself comfortable in your decisions and made yourself happy again?
Post # 3
YES! yes yes yes.
i feel a lot of pressure to make sure that every decision is the perfect decision, and it’s almost debilitating. whenever i start feeling this way, i take a break from wedding planning. i remember what’s important (the marriage, not the wedding), and i remind myself that everything will be fine.
this will pass!
Post # 4
I obess over I make the choice, but now I’m doubting the choices I’ve already made. I don’t even want to stop planning. I feel like I’m behind in my planning, and I want to get stuff done. I just am anxious about all the details and decisions.
Maybe I should take a break. At least I’m not alone!
Post # 5
Yes! Every time I do anything I have a mini panic attack until someone tells me good choice or nice find. It’s not that I need the validation its more like I need someone to tell me I didn’t do something terrible! Even calling to make dress alterations gets me shaky! Just remember WHY you made the choices and ask youself if you had gone with another option why would that make you happier? 100% of the time its made me realize I made the right choice for me. Wedding planning is just stressful!
Post # 6
Absolutely. I was completely anxiety ridden for most of our engagement. That people wouldn’t like what I chose, or things that I splurged on wouldn’t be worth it.
And some of them, maybe weren’t 100% the best possible choice. But at the end of the day, we’re still married!
Post # 7
You are speaking my language. I am a majoy worry-wart, in a given day I proabably worry over 100 times about random meaningless things. Wedding planning has been one of the hardest things I have done. I am constantly changing my mind and 2nd guessing myself (I think some people are starting to think I am crazy). Sometimes my bridesmaids seem annoyed, but I just can’t help it.
I recommend trying to not get caught up in the little things as much as possible. I tell myself, who is really going to notice that, or remember that… such as what shade of green I pick for my table runners. In the end the only thing that matters is you are getting married!
Good Luck and take it easy 🙂
Post # 8
Thanks for the advice, ladies. It’s nice to have someone to commiserate with!
Post # 9
I feel the exact same way, so no your not alone. I am also the type that worries about anything and everything.
Post # 10
So far, only the invites, lol. I’ve redesigned them at least 4 times already. However, I REFUSE to redo them again! (despite the temptation, lol)
Everything else, not so much. Our wedding is more a party than a wedding (a fantasy-themed one, no less, lol) so I’m trying to look at it that way. 🙂
good thing I have kids and crafts to keep me distracted, huh? lol
Post # 11
Oh boy, yes I have freaked out over decisions. The other night I had a panic attack over the dress. I fixed it by double checking my research, then praying and leaving it in God’s hands. I also just made myself realize that though the dress is my wedding dress, truly my fiance will find me beautiful no matter what. So some chocolate, a hot bath, and dreaming about the man I love, and my wedding day 🙂
Post # 12
I stress/worry more as I make the decision, wondering if I am making the right choice etc.
Mostly I am terribly relieved afterward that it is one less thing for me to worry about.
Post # 13
Worrying is a choice. It is up to you whether you spend your time worrying about your choices or whether you say to yourself ‘I’ve made my choice and now what will be will be’. The choice is made, you can’t change it, in fact you don’t even want to change it, so take control of yourself and your mind and stop those thoughts. You’ve made the best choice you can and it’s time to put your faith in the vendors, it may not turn out exactly as you imagined but it might be even better than you thought.
Post # 14
Unsuspecting bride has it right…but I do the same thing…I kind of get a general anxiety about the decisions I make bc I think they don’t feel “perfect”…there is a lot of pressure for things to be “perfect” but really everything will be fine…your guests are going to go to a million weddings and honestly not remember details about yours. Half the brides don’t even remember- I can’t tell you how many people at work have gotten married in the last 5 years and can’t remember their band, or photographer, or whatever (something that seems unimaginable to me lol)