(Closed) Anyone else anxious after making wedding decisions?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

YES! yes yes yes.

i feel a lot of pressure to make sure that every decision is the perfect decision, and it’s almost debilitating. whenever i start feeling this way, i take a break from wedding planning. i remember what’s important (the marriage, not the wedding), and i remind myself that everything will be fine.

this will pass!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Yes! Every time I do anything I have a mini panic attack until someone tells me good choice or nice find. It’s not that I need the validation its more like I need someone to tell me I didn’t do something terrible! Even calling to make dress alterations gets me shaky! Just remember WHY you made the choices and ask youself if you had gone with another option why would that make you happier? 100% of the time its made me realize I made the right choice for me. Wedding planning is just stressful!

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Absolutely.  I was completely anxiety ridden for most of our engagement.  That people wouldn’t like what I chose, or things that I splurged on wouldn’t be worth it.

And some of them, maybe weren’t 100% the best possible choice.  But at the end of the day, we’re still married!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You are speaking my language. I am a majoy worry-wart, in a given day I proabably worry over 100 times about random meaningless things. Wedding planning has been one of the hardest things I have done. I am constantly changing my mind and 2nd guessing myself (I think some people are starting to think I am crazy). Sometimes my bridesmaids seem annoyed, but I just can’t help it.

I recommend trying to not get caught up in the little things as much as possible. I tell myself, who is really going to notice that, or remember that… such as what shade of green I pick for my table runners. In the end the only thing that matters is you are getting married!

Good Luck and take it easy 🙂

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I feel the exact same way, so no your not alone. I am also the type that worries about anything and everything.

Post # 10
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3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

So far, only the invites, lol.  I’ve redesigned them at least 4 times already.  However, I REFUSE to redo them again!  (despite the temptation, lol)

Everything else, not so much.  Our wedding is more a party than a wedding (a fantasy-themed one, no less, lol) so I’m trying to look at it that way. 🙂  

good thing I have kids and crafts to keep me distracted, huh? lol

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Oh boy, yes I have freaked out over decisions.  The other  night I had a panic attack over the dress.  I fixed it by double checking my research, then praying and leaving it in God’s hands.  I also just made myself realize that though the dress is my wedding dress, truly my fiance will find me beautiful no matter what.  So some chocolate, a hot bath, and dreaming about the man I love, and my wedding day 🙂

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I stress/worry more as I make the decision, wondering if I am making the right choice etc.

Mostly I am terribly relieved afterward that it is one less thing for me to worry about.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Worrying is a choice. It is up to you whether you spend your time worrying about your choices or whether you say to yourself ‘I’ve made my choice and now what will be will be’.  The choice is made, you can’t change it, in fact you don’t even want to change it, so take control of yourself and your mind and stop those thoughts. You’ve made the best choice you can and it’s time to put your faith in the vendors, it may not turn out exactly as you imagined but it might be even better than you thought.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Unsuspecting bride has it right…but I do the same thing…I kind of get a general anxiety about the decisions I make bc I think they don’t feel “perfect”…there is a lot of pressure for things to be “perfect” but really everything will be fine…your guests are going to go to a million weddings and honestly not remember details about yours. Half the brides don’t even remember- I can’t tell you how many people at work have gotten married in the last 5 years and can’t remember their band, or photographer, or whatever (something that seems unimaginable to me lol)

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