Post # 1
So my SO has set a timeline for us the get engaged by (June). And he doesn’t want me bugging him about it, so in my fits of impatiently waiting, I blabed to some friends and my mom about it. And now I wish I haden’t because my mom is already more impatient than I am!
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2014 - Rebar
@leftyletters: I havent blabbed about my timline with anyone….my SO has asked for my hand in marriage already like couple of weeks ago…and my parents know that ill be getting engaged soon within the next 6 months! But i honestly dont like talking about it just bc i dont want to be asked about it. I am already anxious enough on my own dont need anyone else to make me feel more anxious lol
Post # 4
@leftyletters: YEP 100%
Sooooo Mr VB and I have come up with timelines and he knows that I am saving…WELL I just couldn’t help myself and I told my mother and all my co workers too!!! haha!
Whatever, I’m proud. Marriage is a goal of mine, NO I don’t want everyone else harrassing Mr VB for his timeline; but it DOES make me feel very good to think that even if we don’t get engaged for another year, when that year comes around 10% of my paychecks will lead to a very nice jump start on the wedding planning…so at least whenever we do plan it won’t be stressful!!
Post # 5
@veryberry13: Yeah, I blabed to my coworkers too… I’m pretty sure they are going to get sick of me talking about it. Haha! So to the waiting board I turn!
Post # 6
@leftyletters: Yes I blabbed to my best friend and my Mom. Sometimes its nice to have someone to talk to but sometimes I regret it becuase there is so much over analyzing going on!
Post # 7
@leftyletters: TELL me about it!
I’m thinking about taking it to the Shut it up pact as well…
But it’s like…Monday I was given photography suggestions, yesterday I got wedding shoe/engagement photo suggestions and today was all about dresses haha! I think I AM talking about it way to much because I had no idea that there were so many wedding obsessed people that I worked with hahaha!
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
I talked to my mom about it… a lot. And talked too much with FI that I kind of spoiled the suprise. I didn’t know he had already bought the ring so I kept hounding him about stuff….
Post # 9
@leftyletters: UGH! Me too. Well, not the actual timeline, but the fact that we’re talking about marriage and the proposal isn’t that far off. In fact, last night we were talking about a venue my cousin was married at and I wasn’t sure if they allowed liquore (it’s just a venue- you bring all your own vendors). So like a dumbass, I sent a text to my cousin asking if she had liquor at her reception cause I didn’t remember. She got WAAAY too excited and basically started planning my wedding for me. I had to tell her to slow her roll! 😀 Our family has had a rough couple years, so she was just really jazzed about a happy occassion.
Post # 10
@leftyletters: I did and I totally regret it because my mom is trying to start planning a wedding already! She’s crazy. 🙂
Post # 11
ha not really at all. thank god cuz he waited longer than he let me to believe and if i told everyone they too would have been disapointed.
then when we went to hawaii. i told people at work i thought he would ask. but then people kept asking me what would i do if he didnt. and that was weird and an odd thing to ask someone. i thought. by the way he did but he did it the last two days of our trip. that was in feb. i totally thought he would ask on V-day. but he didnt. so i was def. surprized.
Post # 12
SO has the ring and I have only told my mom and sisters. I don’t want to tell my friends until I am officially engaged! My mom is already reading bridal magazines and asking me about colors! I know once it’s official all hell is going to break loose!!!
Post # 13
I told my closest cousin and my two sisters…. if I hadn’t told someone, I’d have gone crazy!
Post # 14
I did and I seriously regretted it because FI went off the timeline…
He told me in July of ’11 that we would get engaged the next summer. Well, summer came and went and my mom drove me CRAZY in addition to the anxiety that I was already feeling. I felt like an idiot every time we came back from a trip or opportunity without a ring on my finger, and it caused some fights between FI and I.
My advice to waiting bees would be to keep it to yourself. You can avoid some headaches and added stress.