Post # 1
When I get things done around the house, errands, etc., I so want FH to make a big deal about it. I know this is a childhood/my family issue, and at 30, doubt anything will change this. I have told FH and tried to explain the more praise he gives me for getting stuff done, the more stuff will get done. He had definitely improved, but not to the level I wish (though not sure that’s a reasonable level). Anyone else out there crave recognition for a job well done? How do you deal with it?
Post # 3
omg yes.. I hate when housework is expected an not appreciated. I will tell you what i did (and it worked like a charm). For one day and one day only I left my Fiance at home with our two year old all day, I came home sat down and said “wow the house is messy. Whats for dinner honey?”. I then sat on the couch playing video games while he made dinner and complained how tired he was. I also refused to pick up the house and went to bed early. Lets just say he got the point and now does a MUCH better job of complimenting me on my spotless house =)
Even without a kid it is still a fun trick to play.. but I think the extra stress of a toddler added that extra kick in the booty he needed! haha
Post # 4
While I like the idea, FH is currently working 80+ hours a week and I don’t think it would work as well for us since he doesn’t have many days off and we try to spend them together. I am glad it worked for you though and glad to hear I am not the only one.
Post # 5
haha yeah.. it isn’t for everyone but for my dear hubby it was the only way to appreciate the hard work.
Men just never understand the effort…
Post # 6
Yes – I even leave out the vacuum, cleaning solution bottles, etc sometimes as a cue for him to notice and I will save some of the cleaning for times when he is home relaxing (late at night after work). I make sure to give him a lot of praise and appreciation for all of the hard work he does at his job, too as I find that when he feels loved and appreciated that he is much more likely to reciprocate that love and appreciation.
Post # 7
I would love more appreciation for doing stuff around the house, especially the cooking and shopping (since I’m not a great cleaner).
Post # 8
I like to get praise, but at a certain point verbal praise gets repetative and even though I know it’s sincere it doesn’t sound that way. I try to give myself little goals and then reward myself (happy hour after a big project is done, new inexpensive earrings when I’ve been keeping my laundry bin from overflowing for the past month, etc.)
Post # 9
I would like a gold star every now and then. To know that what I have done was good enough to earn his praise or recognition. Sometimes, you just want to be thanked for a good job.
Post # 10
I don’t really care so much about praise. I just want help! I think if my Fiance was giving me “gold stars” I’d resent it, unless he was also doing his fair share.