Post # 1
so my dear Aunt Flo is taking her sweet arse time and is now expected to arrive right on my wedding day and of course last through the entire honeymoon. (INSERT CUSS WORDS HERE)
It’s double bad because we have been TTC for 3 months so this is just like a slap in the face. (INSERT MORE CUSS WORDS HERE)
FI and I are totally against any action during that time. It’s just not going to happen.
UGH..someone tell me this has happened to them. How did you cope?
Post # 3
Are you sure she’s going to arrive and you might not be pregnant?!? If you’ve been TTC, it’s possible!
Sorry…just trying to send positive vibes your way :o)
Post # 4
@panterapeach: If you are on the pill, I wouldn’t take my off pills, just start another pack.
Post # 5
lol sorry newbee here didn’t know what TTC was…. opps!
Post # 6
@2PeasinaPod: I wish 🙁 I’ve taken no less than 7 tests all negitive and I am spotting (like I normally do) ahead of my period.
:((((((((( major bummer.
Post # 7
Aww, I’m sorry. I don’t really have any words of advice for you, but I can commiserate. I seem to always get my period without fail whenever my husband and I have a weekend trip planned.
In fact, the first time we were intimate was on a weekend where we went out of town together. My period was not supposed to arrive until (I thought) Wednesday or Thursday of the following week. Of course, it started that Friday afternoon. I was NOT happy, but just figured we’d not do anything that weekend…even though I’d been looking forward to the trip and I think we both knew where the relationship was going and both assumed that would be when we’d be intimate.
So when I was a bit reluctant to go much past kissing, he asked me what was wrong. I turned bright red and he knew. And then he started to laugh…and I started to laugh. But I was so embarassed. Fortunately, he was very understanding. He told me later he knew that was probably the most embarassing thing that could happen to me that weekend.
He pretty much just told me that that was part of being a girl and was totally normal and he wasn’t bothered by it at all. We ended up being intimate anyway…and still laugh about it now, years later.
Post # 8
@Neva: awww thanks.
I am just so friggin upset, I’ve spent all morning crying about it. (silly I know) I think the hormones and upcoming wedding stress is getting to me.
I just feel like you only get one honeymoon and my stupid body has to do this. 🙁
I have the worst luck ever. There is no way that we are going to have sex during that time, I dont think FI will physically be able to do it since he is grossed out by the idea. (I am too)
Anyway he keeps saying that we will have tons of good memories from our honeymoon and this wont matter but deep down I know he is upset.
Post # 9
I was also thinking I would have my period during our honeymoon, and apologized a lot to my DH leading up to it. Since I am new to the Pill by a few months, I learned about the skipping-by-taking-the-new-pack thing, and it worked perfectly for the week of the honeymoon..
…but then we’ve been back a week already and I started my period anyway the Monday we returned!! Our first nights in our new home together and I’m on my period?! Are you KIDDING?? But honestly, it made it more exciting! Like forbidden fruit, we wanted each other more than ever. And once a few days went by, even though we were also a little grossed out by it, we started meeting in the shower because we couldn’t wait.. haha..
What I’m really trying to say is… it will be fine. You will have a lovely honeymoon and the sex will be great whenever it happens AND for the rest of your lives together. Everything seems magnified leading up to the wedding, including major catastrophies like your period 🙂 Breathe and remember you will have a wonderful time. Good luck and congratulations!!!!
Post # 10
I was married 9 years ago and it just so happened to be a on a day my normal cycle would start. I had dreaded that it would come and I wouldnt be able to consumate my marriage. The day got there and it didn’t come, I was horribly sick with the stomach flu tho and I kept throwing up. As soon as we got to the hotel, I threw up… we ate a late night snack, I threw up, tried to get busy I threw up. Needless to say I didnt get a chance to consummate our marriage on our wedding night! All the next day I was horribly sick! Now we were only able to have 3 nights away because we had a young child at the time (3 yrs old) and didnt want to leave him with family for longer than that… We eventually worked it out so that we could get busy later that second night but it wasnt the sex that made our honeymoon the most memorable, the most memorable part of my honeymoon was that first night when I was trying to get out of my dress and shoes, trying to get the damned tiara out of my hair and my husband came to my rescue, it was him that undressed me, it was him that removed the endless amount of hairpins from my hair and it was him that ordered pizza and 7up hoping that I would be able to keep something on my stomach… everytime I jumped out of the bed to throwup, he woke up and got me water and mouthwash to rinse my mouth. When I settled back in bed he pulled me close and rubbed my stomach. I was crying and apologizing for being useless and he was absolutely amazing. He spent all 3 nights babying me like that, and it was the most amazing way to start our life as husband and wife.
What I am trying to convey is the things that u think make ur honeymoon special usually isn’t the sex. Yes its a wonderful way to spend ur first night/week as husband and wife but it won’t be what ur marriage is made of, its not going to be about sex… it will be the many other things that u will gain more pleasure from. If doing the do while u are on ur period is so completely out of the question… use the many other ways u can to please each other. Use touch, oral, meditation, massage… learn all the many many hot spots and all the other ways to get each other off. Those things will be far more satisfying in many ways. And if u do decide to try sex regardless, sex in the shower eliminates the mess, or use a diva cup or instead.. they are cup devices kind of like a diaphram (sp?) that u can keep in during sex and it keeps it from being so messy or simply place a towel under u for easy clean up… my hubby abd I personally like the shower. We just spent out 9th wedding anniversary on a weekend get away during my period and we still enjoyed everything about each other… So don’t get stressed just take everything in stride… U have a lifetime together and this will happen often!! LOL it’s just the wonderful life of being a woman. What really matters is that u have a wonderful man who can understand that!
O and that “stomach flu” when we first got married, turned out to be morning sickness!
Post # 11
@healthily_married: That’s such an adorable story 🙂 a little gross, but still a great and memorable honeymoon!