Post # 1
Finishing up the week from hell, had a hair emergency on Monday night, huge fight with the fiancee on Tuesday night, damaged my car on Wednesday and now I’m depressed. My fiancee and I said some very mean things to each other, and though we apologized and made up, I can’t help but think of some of the things that were said. I’ll have to pay my insurance deductible ($500) to get my car fixed so I’ll be completely broke after that. My hair looks atrocious… plain and simple- it’s an atrocity on top of my head. Anytime I call my mother she’s unloading her problems on me.
I’m feeling alone… and very bad. The last thing that i want to do is talk to my fiancee about it, I feel like it would be just one more thing that’s all about me. If I could I’d get in my car (after it’s been repaired) and just drive away.
Post # 3
Oh Miss Dream, I’m so, so sorry you are feeling so lost. I had a fight this weekend too and it’s been very painful crawling back from it to a place of trust and happiness. It’s so hard to not say things when fighting and then try to forget what was said afterwards. As for your hair, can you try a Supercuts (scope out the place on yelp or look at each stylist to see who looks the most competent) and have a cut and style? It might help perk you up, especially coupled with a trip to a makeup store counter for a makeover. I’m really sorry about your car. Buses just don’t cut it for get away transportation, do they?
Post # 4
I think it must just be one of those weeks that anything that can go wrong will go wrong! When I get into with the FI we try to have a nice date night where we don’t talk about anything wedding related or $$ related. I like the advice on the make-up counter makeover.
Post # 5
I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. I am starting to have more moments from sadness the closer the day gets.
***makeup counter makeovers can help for release***
Post # 6
Oh sweetie! Sorry to hear things aren’t going well for you! I agree with Sarahlynne! Go to the Clinique counter and get a make over or see if there is a local beauty college in your area. When I lived in Gainesville, I’d go by the local beauty academy when I was feeling a little down and would get highlights, my nails done or just a funky new cut for a fraction of the price! Take some time for you and only you. It seems like you’re very worried about what is going on with everyone else when you really need to take some “me” time 🙂 Don’t feel bad, just do it and you’ll be glad you did!
Post # 7
Ya’ll are awesome. Thank you so much
Post # 8
When it rains it pours. I hate those days/weeks! Sorry you’re having such a crappy week.
Post # 9
Sometimes we need to go through the tough times to appreciate the happy times. 🙂
Hang in there… it will get better. Sooner than you think, I bet!
Post # 10
(hugs) I know what you mean about the mean things that were said. I still can’t help but think about some of the mean things my man has said to me in fights. I have probably said such things too.
I would suggest you plan some alone time followed by some together time with your fiance – something a little special, a drink or dinner in a quiet place or even just a walk – and spend time together being sweet to each other. It takes some sweetness to fade the hurt. You should spend some time talking about this again, in a non-confrontational way, hopefully with lots of hugs and kisses involved. Definitely make a date night.
Post # 11
Hey Dream, I went through the exact same thing recently and am just pulling out of it. It feels like a fight with the FI on top of ANYTHING else seems to make it feel like your whole world is crashing down. I don’t know about you, but my fiance is my whole little world, as in, without him everything changes (and not for the better). I’m glad I’m fnally back to a place where I feel like it’s only going to get better from here, and I hope you get there too. I know it’s hard right now, but you will most likely feel stronger and more confident in your marriage at the end of it. ((HUGS))
Post # 12
I have a friend who used to be a hairdresser and likes to do people’s hair in her kitchen! She does a great job and I’ll repay her with paying for drinks next time we go out. It works out well. Perhaps there is someone is your area who could use a few extra bucks but doesn’t charge the full salon price who can help you out. A lot of people are out there with skills and time on their hands and can likely help!
And yes, these bad times happen. Hang in there. If things feel weird w/ the FI since your fight, perhaps plan a really fun evening together so you can repair some of the yuckiness of the argument!
Post # 13
I am so sorry you have been depressed. I don’t think most people realize how easy it is to get depressed when you are engaged. There is a lot of pressure on you and you are going through so many changes in your life. If you would like to talk more, feel free to write me. [email protected]