Post # 1
I can’t stand FI’s brother. He is a college student and one of the most negative people I have ever met. He makes every situation worse just by being there. The worst part is that I can’t avoid him.
My fiance and I are staying with his family to save up a little money while in school and his brother comes over ALL of the time. He already has been openly against our relationship. When we told him we were engaged, he didn’t say anything. He also asked FI why I had to be included in their family events (I never invited myself, his parents invite me to dinners etc.) FI always stands up for me, but it makes me feel like crap when his brother is around. A lot of times I won’t leave our bedroom when he is over.
He never says a word to me (and I never talk to him either) he just comes over to eat their food, do his laundry, and spread negativity. He puts FI down and his little sister, too. He also is disrespectful to his parents and constantly nitpicks everything anyone says. He is a big partier, a jock, and one of those people who thinks they are so cool.
He may be moving in this summer to save money for an extravagant trip he has planned. With all that is going on in my life — being unemployed, my depression/anxiety, and the stress of school — I don’t know if I can deal with this too. I wish we could move out sooner rather than later. 🙁
Post # 2
That sucks OP.
I dislike FI’s Auntie (by marriage) She is a drunk and lazy and not a good mum. She once grabbed me while drinking and had a D&M with me about how *fi’s last name*’s don’t like outsiders so her and I have to stick together. This is really funny because FI’s family don’t like her because she sucks! Not because she isn’t a blood relative. They like me haha.
Post # 3
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
TiffLee: I can not stand my future MIL or SIL. They did not like me before they met me, no reason at all, just because I am with my FI and I guess they dont think he should be with anyone. They like to start stuff. They are fake to your face then talk about you behind your back. They are just the kind of people who thrive on drama.
My future MIL makes it seem like her ex husband was this awful, abusive, cheating man who did nothing but neglect her and the kids the whole time they were married. Well hello, what kind of mother abandons her kids with her mom and dad to go to another country with her new husband? What kind of mother is telling her kids how their dad is running around on her while he is stationed over seas and then is behind the restaurant she works in with her boyfriend?
ANYWAY, to answer your question, YES there is someone I can not stand. And I am very thankful for that old saying that a “daughter is a daughter for life but a son is only a son until he takes a wife”. Meaning once most men get married they put their wife and children ahead of the rest of their family. Not that I want my FI to neglect his family, I am very big on family, but glad he does not feel the need to be near them and in fact does not mind being quite a few states away from them (we live in SC and they live in TX).
Post # 4
My FI does not have a lot of family, and the ones I’ve met I dont really have a problem with.
That said though, I know he has a problem with members of my family and I dont blame him because I have issues with them too. But seeing as they are my family, I tend to put up with more than he is willing to, which leads to him sometimes not wanting to go to family things just because he wants to avoid those people
Post # 5
Nope, just my brother. I don’t even like being in the same room. And we live in the same house for now, so I’m SOL.
Post # 6
Oh god yes. You know the saying, you can pick your nose but not your family lol 😉
Post # 7
I’m not a fan of my fiancé’s brother & I DESPISE his new wife. I can’t even begin on the path of destruction again bc it’s too emotionally draining. I’ll just state the very last piece of shit thing she did. First of all she didn’t rsvp to my bridal shower until my fiance said something to his brother. My fiance is big on family support & going to things whether you want to or not. And since he made me go to hers, he was definitely making sure that she would be at mine. So she came, ate, and left…and did NOT say 1 word to me…not 1 word. Who does that? I would’ve rather her not come than be so rude & disrespectful. My whole family was dying to see who she was bc I’ve had horror stories for almost 2 years…The first 5 years I was with my fiance were the best…The 5 years she wasn’t around. She has caused so much drama in the family that it’s disgusting. I’m just glad she showed her true colors in front of my family so that they didn’t think I was making everything up. I can’t wait for my wedding bc I’m going to sit her by herself….far away from me & my bridal party! Haha!
Post # 8
I didn’t mind FI Brother, till I had to live with him. Now every day I wish he would just disappear, He has a move out date of July, which is nice but it feels so far away. He’s dirty and messy he doesn’t clean anything, just complains about everything being dirty. He doesn’t pick up after himself and whenever we get into a disagreement he escalates it into yelling and then he cries and then he gets his mom involved. Which is so painful, because hello we’re adults here, we should figure this out together! gosh. /end rant.
I feel you.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
TiffLee: Lol, yes. I get shakin’ mad. If you want to PM me, we can share our horror stories, haha.
Post # 10
Oh yes. Pretty much all the woman in my fiancés family are bat sh&t crazy. His sister is the worst. I can’t stand her. She legit acts like she wants to marry her brother. So gross.
Post # 11
a_day_at_the_fair: I feel the same as your fiancé. But reading that since they’re your family you’re more willing to put up with things made me understand why my fiance doesn’t care as much about all of the rudeness, disrespect, & bullshit that his brother’s wife puts everyone through.
Post # 12
Lets see my brother’s wife. I don’t care for her because she turned my brother against his child he had from a previous relationship.
My SIL on my husband side who lives in the same state as us. She is all about me me me me and takes being a conservatist for recycling/co oping to a whole another level. She likes to make things all about her and her little family. For example the smaller kids birthdays are 2 weeks apart she does a party for each but then says please no gifts (they are 2 and 5).
Post # 13
Peanut-Sue: If your fiance is like me, it’s not that he doesn’t care, it’s just that he’s learned after a lifetime with this person that nothing he does or says is going to make them be any different.
That said though, when it comes to these family members spouses I don’t really put up with that. I have, on many occasions, said that these spouses weren’t allowed at whatever we were doing. I have to put up with my family, I don’t have to put up with crap from whatever jerk they decide to date
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Post # 15
my FI’s brother, mother, and father. so really his whole family! but his extended family has been super nice and supportive!