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@Valhalla: we definitely had differing opinions on certain things in our home. and as cliche as it is, it's all about compromise. you have to give a lil and take a lil. i hate our kitchen table (inherited from his parents).. but it's what we can afford to have right now (free). but we also did inherit their brand new dining set (15K) as well! ...
we actually just purchased living room furniture over labor day weekend and spent all day searching... but finally walked out with something we both loved. he sacrificed on the sectional and i sacrificed on the size...
he wanted to finish the garage, i wanted to get granite countertops. we both sacrificed and decided to put in french doors to close off our den/office (something we both wanted) and put the other two projects on hold 'til later.
i know it can be frustrating at times, but it does get easier :) just communicate!
Totally guilty of it here - - sometimes we have to stop ourselves becuase it gets so heated. FH is super modern and to me that look doesn't say "welcome, relax, enjoy" is says "cold, uncomfortable, uptight" haahaahaa I am more of a contemporary plush interior. I don't mind mind some mid century pcs to combo or even a couple of modern end tables or something to bring in either. But I DO NOT like any mide century or modern sitting pcs, and that I will not budge on. Good thing FH is beginning to slowly budge on the modern sitting pcs, haahaahaahaaa
Ooooohhhh yes. I recently found out that my FI loves just about everything I hate. From furniture to wall hangings...
We're compromising by him having his own "man room" and I get to decorate the rest of the house. He can do whatever he wants to that room and he's excited for it. Ha He's easier to please than I am!
Uh, yes. That's why I have a typical "bachelor pad" black leather couch taking up half my living room.
We'll definitely be having a man-room if we ever have enough space.
We used to disagree, and it was very frustrating, so I just started doing what I wanted, and so far, he loves everything once it is in place. He just has a hard time picturing things. He loves how I have made our house into a home.
We have similar tastes and I just went with whatever paint he wanted to use for the walls (lot of neutral, muted tones) and then we compromised on furniture. He doesn't care what accent pieces are in and around the huose - I do that on my own. Some things I don't care about so I just go w/ the flow (he basically picked out our whole kitchen registry right down to the plates).
We have totally different tastes. He would go out and buy any cheap perfectly matched set if he could and that horrible kitchen table that he just loves. Every few months I just find some "great deal (wink)" and just show up with it (that's why I choose to drive the truck and let him have the car). He ends up loving what I buy and even brags about the "deals" I get. I am redoing his horrible taste one piece at a time.
We actually have exactly the same tastes almost always! its really crazy lol...and when we don't we're both laid back enough that we can easily compromise. I am sooo thankful for this part being easy-isn't the rest hard enough? :-)
We have similar tastes, but he wanted a Coca-Cola red & black kitchen...I did not. I ended up giving in though because we started w/ a brown & light red couch. For our house-warming we received pictures & a clock for the living room w/ a lighter red on them. Our kitchen table is black, so the red, black & brown just kind of flows together. We ended up registering for all red appliances & I received red pots & pans for my shower. I figure if he's willing to let me have a zebra print bathroom, I can handle a red & black kitchen.
Yes... we have a typically dumpy "academic nomad" apartment furnished in hand-me-down/salvage college chic presently, but I dread the day when I have to take a stand against the mounted deer heads. I suspect the man cave compromise.
My hubby is usually pretty easygoing with these things. We did have a little issue when picking out a new chair. Our old (ugly) one broke, so we went to get a new recliner. My hubby has back issues but all of the ones that are supportive and good for backs are ugly. Obviously I wasn't going to make us get something bad for his health, so ugly it is.
He bought our place long before I was in the picture, so it was decorated all by him. He let me put up pretty much whatever I wanted, and he said I could take his stuff down. I did take some stuff down, but I don't want to get rid of all of "him" in the house, so even though I don't love it all it's going to stay.
Maybe I'm lucky, lol, but my guy couldn't care less about home decor. He leaves it all up to me and then says things look great. We both hate anything too modern and contemporary, so at least our tastes aren't radically different. When we finally get a house I'd love for him to have his own "man-cave" because I'm sure he needs one room where it's totally his to control. Knowing him, it will probably be decked out in sports paraphernalia.
Wait, that's not my job to disagree??? He would just buy any furniture in any color because it comes in a package that includes a flat screen TV. Luckily, we have room for a man cave, where his ugly furniture is. The rest of the house will have his input (choose sofa A, B or C) but the final decision is mine. We don't have any money for furniture right now so that has curbed a lot of arguments.
We have a constant color war! I love color - jewel tones, earth tones, unexpectd pops of color make me happy. My husband will inevitably choose beige or black. he can occasionally be persuaded to look at a cherrywood book case, but prefers everything in beige or black. I have taken to just appearing with small color accents (pillows, some art) and when he recently asked why I keep doing it I explained that it was my protest against his boring color choices! We're working on it, but it's still a sore spot for both of us!
Hubby has a "man 1/2 bathroom" which is his cave to create, invent and make it look wild. He also has his music studio which is very manly. I am not the risky decorator (think boxed sets) as you all inspire me to be.
Early on, whenever we would shop, I would inevitably come back to the same scheme repeatedly. (Me: Oooh I like that. Him: You would. Look it's sand and sage.) I would beg him to just leave the walls white and a lot of our accents were chocolate or espresso. He thought it was bland etc. but I thought it was a safe long term choice and neutral backdrop.
Talk about reversal...as time wore on and we got more comfy, I am bored with the same repetitive colors and he is the one who wants everything plain to minimize fuss. His bathroom is pretty crazy though so I think I can convince him to go out on a limb if I really wanted to but inside, I'm pretty conservative with our decor money, time, investments.
p.s. I also told him the condition of having the man bathroom and his music room is that he can never kick me out of there and I am ALWAYS welcome. I almost eliminated the music room when we created the nursery but am letting him keeping it and am sharing my office space wtih baby girl-to-come since it's very feminine.
@CaraMia10: very creative!!
@tksjewelry: I like your hubby strategies!
Haha. FI brought home "some art for the new place" today. It was a "no parking" sign left over from a street fair in his hometown. A plain white paper sign. With a ripped corner.
Maybe I have to be more artistic to appreciate it....;)
Constantly.
But that is mostly because my partner thinks that milk crates make for perfect stackable storage. . .
yeah.
I'm not going to get into that one.
I try not to 'stifle' my partners.. er.. creativity & style, but at the same time our goal right now is to improve the house for sale, not make it look like a dorm room for bachelor kings, so I try and remind my partner gently of that from time to time when solutions like milk crates are offered.
I'm very lucky in that my husband and I have pretty much the same taste in decor. We agreed on both the master and guest bedrooms earlier this year as far as paint color and furniture. We also will be redoing our kitchen in a few months and we already agree on what color counter, walls, appliances, etc.
The only funny thing with him is when we're out and we see a painting/picture and he'll say something like, "Will this work in the guest room?" and the colors are ALL WRONG. As in, don't match at all! So cute though. :)
This by far was the biggest shock we both received from moving in together. We both have the same philosophy when it comes to cleaning and having guests over, but decorating we had to work on.
It started shortly after he moved in and we had to replace our area rug. I was about to click "Purchase" on a rug from overstock.com and realized I might want to check with DH (BF at the time) first. I was shocked to find out he hated it and also shocked to discover that now I had to consider someone elses input when it comes to home decor. The area rug ended up being a really fun bonding experience, we now own a great rug we both love. And it opened the door to decorating together in general always finding a compromise of our two styles.
Oh man, we went through this when we first moved in together, and I'm dreading the day we move again because I'm afraid it'll happen all over again. We have similar style tastes, thankfully, but we couldn't agree on a lot of things like where to actually put furniture and what to hang on the walls. We definitely battled a lot over these issues at first because we both can be so stubborn. The best piece of advice I can give is to try to compromise all you can, and try not to let it escalate to a point where you're both incredibly angry at one another.
Ugh the BF has the most awful ideas about home decor. He imagines creating whole rooms around his guns... or having bathrooms full of woodsey decor. Umm no. Guests don't want to sleep in a room with 10 rifles showcased on the wall!
I'm pretty traditional and believe that I should be able to decorate the home myself and he should like it (as long as it's not pink, he should like it right?). We have a lot to work on before we could move in together!
@SapphireSun: Ugh, I can't stand black leather, or any leather in general. I don't even like it in my car.
Fortunately, my husband and I have a similar aesthetic, but I like a lot more color than he does. I moved into his place and had given up most of my furniture when moving in with a roomate a few years previous. So I'm slowly adding my own touches throughout.
Typically, when we're making a decision about home decor, he'll suggest things with a modern/contemporary look and light wood colors. I'll gravitate toward classic and traditional looks and dark colors.
We mostly have been just splitting up by room who gets the final say. This works out fine since our house has a lot of rooms. Also, when I'm done decorating, he usually decides that he likes it a lot after all.
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My husband and I just got a new condo, and I am learning that he had strong opinions about decorating...that aren't always in line with my own. We have compromised on a few things, but we are still butting heads on everything from the couches to the bed linens. It's a frustrating process!
Anyone else disagree with their guy about how to decorate your space? Any advice or stories?