Anyone else disappointed in the proposal/ ring

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Find out where your priorities lie. What’s more important, being proposed to, or marrying someone you love? Depending on how you answer that…

Plus, women are brainwashed to expect fireworks and rainbows. Men aren’t. You’re engaged. What more do you need?

Post # 3
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Busy bee

amandeebee:  Is this your third post now about how much you hated your ring/proposal? You seriously need to find a way to get passed this.  The proposal is pretty much a nothing moment in the timeline of your life – the marriage is what counts.

If you wanted a really specific and special proposal, then maybe you should propose to him. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

Does the “specialness” of the proposal matter? He proposed. That’s a lot right there. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee

busybee3791:  this. 

 

be happy he proposed. You can’t change it..so time to move on. 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

The love of your life asked you to marry him!! It doesn’t matter how he did it, it’s the fact that he did! Be proud to call him your fiancé!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Not every girl gets to ride horseback with her FI into the sunset. Was my proposal a wildly grand, unique gesture? No. But it was intimate and beautiful and my DH spoke from his heart as he told me the reasons why he wants to hang out with me until we die. His sincerity was what made it perfect.

I hope your FI doesn’t know how disappointed you are. It would probably really hurt him.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

amandeebee:  I’m sorry that this is something you seem to be struggling with. Sometimes, especially when we visit places like the Bee before becoming engaged, we develop very specific ideas about how we want the proposal to go, what we want the ring to look like, etc. I think you have to make a choice: would you rather have complete say in how these things go OR do you want to be surprised? I picked the latter but as long as you have a FI that is okay with the former, then go for it. Let him know what you want so that months down the road you aren’t caught up in negative feelings about a moment in your life that was intended to be beautiful.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Comparison is the thief of joy. This should be one of the happiest times in your life! I hope you can find a way to move past it.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

amandeebee:  dont worry about it at all!! thats not whats important. i know a couple where they climbed a mountain/volcano and he proposed up there. they divorced with in the year. a wonderful proposal doesnt mean much and niether does the ring. i would rather a normal day proposal than a marriage that didnt last.  you might want to think about it more.  my DH asked me with a blue box… found out quick it wasnt tiffanys. i was a silver pinky ring. it didnt even cross my mind that it wasnt perfect. later he gave me my actual engagment ring that his grandma sent up. he didnt even know what it looked like. but it was beautiful to me. both were.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

Dh proposed to me in his old car in summer w no A/C (in Texas! :p).  It used to bother me a lot, I wasn’t expecting something grand but something thoughtful, but over time I just got over it. I mean it’s not like he can redo it & he shows me he cares in other ways. Hopefully over time you can let the way he proposed go & think of all the great reasons why you said yes 🙂 (assuming you said yes. :p)

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

amandeebee:  Ya wanna hear my proposal story? In the car on the way home from running errands. And I was driving! Lol! Not exactly the epitome of romance but I love him and I’m excited about marrying him. Your other posts are how you’re not looking forward to your own wedding and stuff. Are you sure this is the direction you want your life to go?

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

RedHeadKel:  high five for car proposal!! 🙂

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