Post # 1
I’m very much a homebody. I have dogs and a cat and would much rather stay at home with them than go on a holiday or spend a couple of nights away. On the other hand, my SO always wants to go places – road trips, mentions cheap flights, etc. He has no pets, so nothing holding him to anywhere. I’m just not interested in travelling. It feels more like a chore than fun. Its not that I’ve never been anywhere and so I’m scared, I guess I just never caught the travel bug.
Does anyone else feel this way or am I completely alone? With so many travel-mad people there must be something I’m missing?
Post # 3
@Dogsbody92: I’m the same way, I hate travelling. My FI loves it though, so I’m trying to be supportive. I get air/car sick a lot, and because of that and anxiety, travelling is a huge chore and very stressful to me. You’re not alone!
Post # 4
I like to travel, but not constantly, just about once a year is enough for me. My husband would rather go big or stay at home, and I just have no desire to spend thousands for a three-day weekend somewhere.
My biggest thing is that while I enjoy seeing new places, I don’t like the actual getting there, whehter it be flying, driving, train, etc. I’d much rather be able to blink my eyes and be in a new place (haha) than spend hours sitting in the same spot.
Post # 5
@Dogsbody92: I have a cat and leaving him is definitely hard when we travel. I’m a homebody as well.
For me there are definitely pros and cons to traveling. We basically NEED to go somewhere in the winter because I go crazy enough even with a warm trip or two.. there’s snow on the ground from October to April and it gets crazy cold and dark where I am.
We visit my SO’s family in the UK each year, but I get horrible jet lag and feel sick for much of the trip. I do love going to London for a few days on the trip, though.
My ideal trips are about a week long and to the US. No jet lag, nice weather, and to familiar locations and nice hotels. I am not too big on adventure. I have a nice cat lady or my sister to look after my cat, and I get regular updates so it’s not as bad.
Hoping one day to move somewhere warmer and not having to travel as much. I also have a huge fear of flying so it’s stressful in that way.
Post # 6
@Dogsbody92: My parents took us to europe to see family growing up & i must have caught something – as soon as I finished my studies i took off for 3 years & loved every moment of it. I’m probably in your FI’s shoes… always looking for somewhere to go, cheap flights, good deals etc. My suggestion? Make an effort. Sound interested. Compromise on the amount of trips per year & let him go crazy.
The lack of my FI’s interest drives me up the wall. I sometimes feel ‘trapped’ into this ‘grown up life’ with morgages, pets & the like… FI is fully on board with our next trip, even suggesting soem accom places – I think they are terrible suggestions (didn’t tell him that) but the fact he put some effort counts a million.
Post # 7
I live on kayak.com, tripadvisor.com, and the like. I’m always the one planning – whether it be a mother-daughter trip, friend trip, romantic trip, or even a solo one. I LOVE traveling.
However, my pup knows when the suitcase comes out I’m leaving. He hates my suitcase! Luckily, I don’t have the funds to travel as much as I’d like – so I usually take two trips a year, each lasting one week, and a random long weekend a few times a year.
Post # 8
@Dogsbody92: I love travelling, but I hate to travel. That means I love experiencing new places, but I hate planes and long car rides. Also, if furbaby can’t come along, chances are we won’t be going (unless a suitable baby-sitter can be found).
Post # 9
We both LOVE traveling! We probably travel out of state at least once a month, and a big vacation once a year, and a couple of mini three-day vacations every 6 months or so!
Post # 10
I’m a homebody in the sense that I love staying at home on nights and weekends to curl up with a movie or game and take out. That’s my ideal. So when I’m in town, I’m cozy on my couch!
But I absolutely love travel. I always dreamed about it as a kid. I was able to go to South Africa for 5 weeks when I was 18, and ever since then I have been dying to see the world. I’m one to get motion sickness too, but I don’t let it stop me.
So I guess I’m kind of in between. I’m happy to hop on a plan to another country. But if I’m in my own city? Meh. I don’t go out much.
But if you don’t love traveling, then dandy! It’s not for everyone. It can be stressful to plan and cause a lot of anxiety to go to foreign places. It’s not all roses!
Post # 11
Thank you all for the replies. I’m glad I’m not the only one! It’s just hard when everyone else seems to adore everything about it all. I will definitely try to be more supportive of my SO, though. I hate to stop him from seeing and enjoying things.
@sugarcube: I get awful travel sickness too which I think is what makes me hate it even more. More stressful and uncomfortable than fun.
@Nic01: I’m sure my SO gets weighed down with all the boring day-to-day stuff too. I just wish there was a switch I could flick to make myself enjoy adventuring lol!
Post # 12
@Dogsbody92: I’m sure you are all your so has ever wanted! Use it to your advantage, enjoy shopping? Suggest New York …. Beaches? How about brazil? Romantic getaway? Kangaroo island!
i never thought I’d see researching beer bars in Puerto Rico … But if that is what gets Fi going then beer bars is a small price to pay 🙂
Post # 13
We both love travelling. In fact we are both looking forward to our honeymoon way more than anything. We go away on holiday at least or twice a year! Having a travel buddy has made my life so much more enjoyable.
Post # 14
I think there does exsit some people who hate travelling but i think most of the people love travelling because it purity people’s mind and relax people’s heart. 🙂
Post # 15
@Dogsbody92: I’m obsessed with travel, and go away 3 times a year if I can manage it; OH isn’t so fussed, and is also much less adventurous in terms of destination, preferring to stick with places he knows.
However, we’ve both agreed that pets are a big no-no for us for the forseeable future, even though we both love dogs and would also love a marine aquarium. It’s just too much of a commitment right now, and I’d likely feel differently about travel if I was worrying about my dog/fish while away (which I would; it’s bad enough leaving my family dog (I live with my parents) and I know he’s being looked after just the same as he always is!)
Post # 16
@Nic01: haha you are the sweetest! Kangaroo Island does look beautiful… I’m sure beer bars can be romantic! 😉
@barbie86: That’s why my So isn’t keen on getting a dog anytime soon. I totally understand not wanting to give up that lifestyle if it’s what you love!