Post # 1
Okay, so I’ve tried to not think about my wedding at all lately.. I’m still patiently ‘waiting’ and we have 17 months to go. Plus, it was driving me a little batty 🙂
BUT – for some reason, today it has really started to overwhelm me. I mean, I am seriously trying to do everything from grow my own flowers to self-cater. Not to mention… invitations, writing the ceremony, and everything in between AND the logistics of it all. Moving chairs, setting up, tearing down…. Wow, it’s really a lot to think about… But, I want a champagne wedding on a Boone’s Farm budget.
I know it’s just “one of those days” and I’ve got a ton of time, but I’m just wanting to know if there’s anyone else out there as crazy as me for wanting to take all this on???! Any advice???
Btw, we’re expecting about 125-160 right now. Also, I’ve got a lot of very supportive help from both sides of the family, which is amazing.
Post # 3
You are growing your own flowers? Wow, hats off to you girl. Pls don’t take on too much to the point wher you aren’t able to enjoy the wedding though.
Post # 4
Lean on that help! I think you wil be amazed at what your friends and family will be willing to help with. But like plantains said, try not to take on too much. It’s OK to throw money at problems to have other people solve them, instead of DIYing everything and driving yourself nuts.
Post # 5
Do what’s comfortable for you and make good plans so you won’t be doing stuff last minute. I just asked my stepmom to print out the wording for the invitations just because I don’t want to deal with anything else. It’s ok to ask if you need to but if you want to DIY then go for it! 🙂
Post # 6
It sounds like you are doing just fine! With all that time, you’ll be able to have just what you want. Just work step by step. Since I have my own student loans to pay off we didn’t have a lot of money for my daughter’s wedding-and so each time she mentioned what she wanted, I did searches to try to find it for the very best price I could. I found terrific bargains, and they had exactly what they wanted, and we didn’t have to take big loans out because I just focused on finding one thing at a time. I found loads of great bargains. If you want some help with where to find things feel free to send me an email. 🙂 Rhonda
Post # 7
Honestly, it sounds like you’re taking on a lot. I’m POSITIVE you can do it, but the key is to delegate, delegate and the delegate some more. Actually pick people and make them in charge of certain tasks. They can report to you with options and progress and that leaves you to do the things you have to do anyhow on your own/with your FI (like picking out wedding bands styles, etc.).
Also, I don’t know how comfortable you are with spreadsheets, but make sure you have an organization method (spreadsheet, physical file folders, etc.) and stick with it! Even though you’re DIY’ing tons, you’re going to have to track expenses for the raw materials you have to buy and you need to set up an estimated budget to keep things in check.
Finally, give yourself a day or two or three to take a break from planning when you need it. You do have loads of time and you sound pretty organized so I’m sure it’ll all come together on time and on budget.
Post # 8
My wedding is in 30 days, and I did everything myself too! But here’s how I got my dream wedding for about a tenth of the cost:
(1) Make a plan… a to do list… and plan out each of those 17 months from now til the day. At the beginning of each month, look at your 10 “to-dos” and they won’t be that overwhelming.
(2) Doing my own flowers too… but not growing them… kinda crazy girl! You’ll stress yourself out way too much, like, what if they don’t turn out perfecT? What if your flowers don’t grow in the right season? What if one type of the flower looks great 2 weeks before your wedding, but then you go to pick them and they look crappy. Do yourself a favor and buy them wholesale… there are cheap markets everywhere. For my flowers, my first 3 quotes for my “vision” was $5900, $6850, and $5400. I found all the supplies, flowers, etc. I needed for $1200 quoted at the local flower market. No matter what your budget, you’ll save a ton and not overwhelm yourself with the actual growing of them.
(3) How are you going to cater your own wedding? Who’s going to serve? Who’s going to keep it all hot when you’re getting ready for the wedding? You’ll also spend more because you’ll have to rent all the plates, silverware, etc. when it normally comes with the catering. What’s your very little budget? Because I’ll bet you could find a local cooking school with students who need a senior project. (Taste test everything, get some good references, etc.) but that way you won’t have to go crazy. You can pay them for the food, maybe a little bit for their time, and then spin it as “you do my wedding, I’ll give you a killer reference to kick off your career/ business/ name in the industry, etc.”
(4) Plan “craft dates” with all that supportive friends and family… .no more than once a month so they don’t go crazy… but then you’ll have lots of help for all those crafty things you need to do for the wedding.
(5)Writing the ceremony is so much fun. I thought it would be the hardest part of my wedding, but it wasn’t . I bought the “wedding ceremony planner” by judith johnson and it was wonderful… check it out at the library for free!
Post # 9
Thank you, thank you for all the wonderful advice!!
@Starr bee… I am an organizational/planning FREAK. So I already have a few sheets going on Google Docs so I can access them anywhere 🙂 Thank you for reinforcing that it is going to be helpful.. I knew it would be, just feels good to have someone else say it.. Also, I think to make me feel better, I am going to start a spreadsheet entitled “Task Delegation” tonight! I think that will help me feel a little less overwhelmed. They are all just such “fun” projects I wanna do ’em all. lol.
@Rlsulli.. I’d love it if you wanted to send me a message with some tips! Right now, I’ve been buying a lot of things from craigslist, and our 3 local thrift stores. I am doing a rustic theme, which is just “me” anyway, and plus it means I will save a ton of money with everything not having to look new and modern. Also thank you for the advice to focus on one thing at a time.. I will have to keep remembering that through the planning process.
@Lauren.. Thank you SO much for all the pointers, the month to month this is amazing. Such a good idea.
My FMIL and I are both gardeners. I have only done vegetables, but she is very experinced at doing flowers, so it will be a huge help. We have done a ton of research on the types and seasons, and plus I work at a greenhouse/nursery so that is also a plus. But, I am definitely going to check out the farmers market this summer to see what local flower growers are there.. And I am planting my flowers for this yrs trial next week. I think doing a trial this year will definitely let me know if I can or cannot do this next yr. We are also planning to order some stems from Sam’s club (how many depends on how ours look a couple wks before the wedding) and if it comes down to it, we can rely on the groceries here in town since I am going for a total wildflower look 🙂
About the food… great suggestion about the school.. I will definitely check into that. We are planning on a BBQ style, so I’ve priced all utensils (bamboo silverware) and also some nice looking eco-friendly disposable plates. As of now, I am planning to find some friends of friends who currently work in the restaurant biz and want some extra $.. Haven’t looked into that in depth yet.Craft dates!!!! Fun, fun fun… that is a wonderful idea. FMIL has 4 sisters and Step-mom has 4 sisters too, so it will be lots of female bonding fun time.I have actually heard that book mentioned on here several times! I will check it out. Thank you again!! very helpful 🙂 🙂
Post # 10
I would think it is overwhelming to consider organizing the day of, but with the other stuff, you’ve got the time. Make a list, then a schedule, and stick to it.
Also, seriously consider recruiting help for the big day.
Post # 11
My daughter is also planning a rustic elegant wedding and we have picked up many items on craigslist and e-bay–we started an inventory of what we have and where we stored it so we are not buying more because we can’t remember if we have enough or can’t find it Spreading out the purchases has been good for the budget and we are having a great time planning and creating personal items for her big day.