Post # 1
Am I being a big cheapy by not wanting to do a hosted bar? If we had all the money in the world, this wouldn’t be an issue. However, I’m sure our guests could easily run up a $3,000+ booze bill. We would like to at least have a bottle of wine at each table, but cannot buy everyone’s cocktails/beer.
Anyone else doing a no-host bar? How did you inform your guests of this? Is that something you just indicate on the invitation like “lunch reception to follow ceremony, no-host bar”?
Post # 3
We’re not having an open bar either. We were going to go solely cash bar, but FI now has it in his head that we’ll host wine. I think your idea of a bottle (or two maybe) at each table is fine.
I wouldn’t indicate it on the invitation, though. If you have a wedding website, you can put it there; otherwise, word of mouth is going to be your best option, I think.
ETA: And as usual, I’m of the opinion that, guests who are offended by your wedding choices have misplaced priorities and their opinions should be ignored. 🙂
Post # 4
We are doing a cash bar.That is the norm in our area.
We were concidering getting a 1/4 keg until they told us for Miller light it was $342! And if we do drink tickets, Sig drink etc WE have to pay 20% if we pre buy anything GRRR
Post # 5
We are having a no-host bar at my sister’s wedding. Two bottles of wine will be placed on each table at dinnertime. We are also having a “drink table” which will have 3 types of beer and their signature drink…sangria. Once it runs out…that’s it…but we bought enough so everyone will have 3 beers. Since no even close to everyone drinks…it should be plenty.
Post # 6
Is a no-host bar a cash bar? Or a bar where there is no bartender and you pour your own drinks?
A bottle of wine on each table would be nice. Just make sure your venue permits it!
Post # 7
honestly, I dont think it is right to ever ask your guest to come and take out their wallet at your reception. If you choose not to host alcohol then I would just say do a dry wedding all together..
Post # 8
I think bottles of wine on the table would be plenty! But yeah, I shudder at the thought of a cash bar…only because I wouldn’t ask a guest to pay me for a beer if they came to visit us. But if it’s the norm and you know people won’t be offended, go for it.
Post # 9
We’re doing a combo of both. We’re putting a certain amount of cash towards the bar and when that runs out, the guests are on their own. It’s perfectly acceptable to have a cash bar.
Post # 10
We’re having a cash bar and hosting a limited amount of wine (which should be more than enough – about 3 glasses for everyone, and not everyone will have it). Cash bars are common in our area and to be honest I didn’t even think people would be offended ’til I started reading these boards and other sites… I’ve been to weddings where it was hosted and where it was cash and mixture, and I’ve never given it a second though!
We aren’t formally informing everyone, since it’s fairly common we don’t think that’s necessary.
I think going with a cash bar + wine for each table is lovely, and I’m totally with FutureMrsSpinewiz about any of your guests who are offended! 🙂
Post # 11
We have a cash bar… like the OP, if we had all the money in the world, then heck yeah, it would be open, but unfortunately we can’t swing it.
We do however have 2 bottles of wine on each table during dinner and “spiked” punch during the cocktail hour. We are also paying for all pop/juice, etc…
I have been to both as well, and quite frankly I don’t care either way as long as I know to bring money with me.
Post # 12
I think a mix of things is good. We’re paying for a certain amount of alcohol and once the guests reach the limit, then it becomes a cash bar. I think at least *some* drinks should be free, in case a guest forgets to bring cash. I went to my then-boyfriend’s cousin’s wedding, and it was no-host except for the signature drink and a glass of champagne. When I ordered a diet coke, the waitress goes, “That’ll be $2!” and i had to borrow money. I felt really bad because I didn’t know.
Post # 13
Was just asking the FH his opinion.. Were lucky enough that our venue is providing a full premium open bar included in the price… but he said hed rather have the option to pay for alcohol than to have none at all… good luck!
Post # 14
nah, we’re doing a no-host too. we chose food over alcohol and are doing a nice plated 2 option menu. we may do tickets for our bridal party, but we just can’t justify a huge amount (we’re paying for it ourselves no family help) on alcohol. some people consider it a big no no, for others its considered a norm, for us, its just budget 🙂 our venue is including a champagne toast in our package, so thats fine enough for us 🙂
Post # 15
Thanks, bees! Yes, we definitely want to have some spirits available for guests, so there will be a cash bar with a bartender. This is helpful thanks again!
Post # 16
If we had done a more traditional reception, I would have probably done 45 minutes of a fully open bar (rail liquor, though) for the cocktail hour, and then wine service throughout dinner. Could you afford to do something this? I honestly think you should provide something if you at all can.
We had a dry reception because it was a brunch, but we hosted the beer and wine at our after party. We did have a cash bar for mixed drinks.