Anyone else dread the idea of dress shopping? Or Just me?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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609 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I was actually super excited about dress shopping – so much so that I went alone the first time. I wanted to know exactly what I liked on me and not be swayed by other people’s reactions. The first place I went to was a little (overpriced) boutique. I didn’t find anything that I liked there, but leaving there, I figured out what styles (a-line) I liked. I found (what would later be) my dress in stores 3 and 4. I never got the “ah ha!” moment, but I did pick out the dress twice not knowing it was the same dress. The more I looked at it on me, the more I loved it. Sometimes, seeing other people’s lace dresses, I wish I got one, but then I just look at my picture from the day I tried it on and fall in love with her all over again.

I think if you start your process as an educational process – not quite looking for anything specific yet, just looking for what you like on yourself – you’ll have a ton of fun!

And since you asked for a picture…

Post # 4
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599 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Stephville:  I dreaded dress shopping and personally disliked it. My FMIL is making my dress for me using elements that I like from other dresses. I found it hard to find myself pretty in the dresses I found. Nothing seemed to be what I wanted. Through the process I found what I wanted wasnt really available. I wanted to feel comfortable but elegant. I chose a silk sheath with cap sleeves, minimal lace, open back, cathedral train. The neckline is a scoop but breaks into a slit at the chest bone. I found pictures I like but didnt like them on me. When it does come time to find a dress focus on what you do like even if its just the material, stitching or hem. You may be best to have it made for you, mine is going to be about 2200 for everything, they tend to be more affordable even if you do it locally instead of using jasmines. Jasmines maybe cheapest but if you do it locally they will be really hands on and be able to get every detail.

Post # 5
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285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I dreaded dress shopping. And when I finally went, I hated every moment of it. But that’s because I just didn’t know what I wanted and nothing seemed to “wow” me. I’ve picked a dress, but only because i got soooooooooooo fed up with a) dragging my friends along, b) going on my own when I felt like my friends had had enough c) of actually trying dresses on and not liking anything d) of pretending to the shop assistants “oh yes there is one I quite like” so i didn’t make them think I was a total timewaster! 

I found that no dresses look like in the model pics as what they do in the flesh, and then they look different still actually on you. The dress I picked wasn’t one I’d necessarily think to try… my friend begged me to try it, so I did and they said it looked amazing. After trying about another 30-40 dresses, I gave up and went back to that. The kind of dress I thought I was after just didn’t do much for me in the pics I looked back at. Definitely take pics if you’re allowed (we’re not allowed in the UK) so you can see what you look like and refer back to them if need be. 

GOOD LUCK! The more you try, the more you’ll come to find what suits you. Try all kinds of dresses. Lace, tulle, satin, silk, mermaid, a-line yada yada……. 🙂 

Post # 6
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2441 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I was so nervous and totally dreaded it, but I ended up having so much fun and finding my dress that day. Once you start putting on those beautiful gowns you will feel so much better!

Post # 7
Hostess
22135 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

I was so nervous before dress shopping too, but girl, don’t worry! You’ll quickly find out that dress shopping is difficult not because you don’t look good in anything but because you look good in EVERYTHING!

Post # 8
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1040 posts
Bumble bee

Just wanted to chime in 🙂 I’m terribly nervous/not looking forward to dress shopping.

I don’t really ever wear dresses, so I don’t know what looks good on me… but I know what kind of styles I *think* I like.

I’m plus-sized (in the process of losing weight, but I’ll still be plus sized by the time our wedding rolls around,) and I know what kind of gowns are going to be available at the dress shops for me to try on, are ones that I don’t like. I’m not a fan of strapless/sleeveless, or shiny satin, and I don’t want “bling,”… it just seems like it’d be a waste of time for me to try to find a shop that has interesting plus-sized dresses for me to try on.

So I’m just going to a shop that I found and having a dress designed for me, because I don’t know what else to do. Plus my budget is about $1,000… and the dresses I like that I’ve found online are between $1500-1700. Ugh. 

Post # 10
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17 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I had a similar experience as @orchidaloha

I dreaded it because I was afraid it would be hard to find the perfect one. I had been doing my homework online via Pinterest and other bridal shop websites, so when I arrived at my first appointment, I was able to tell the bridal consultant what I “thought” I wanted. She was amazing!!  I brought my MOH and an older “mom” figure friend and we had a BLAST!  It was so much fun trying on gowns that I was actually a little disappointed when it was over lol  A little advice: don’t make your appointment on a Saturday because it will be crowded and your consultant may have other customers even though you have an appt. If you can, play hooky from work and go when they’re less crowded and can pay better attention to you.  We went on the Monday of Memorial weekend and it was perfect!  Oh, and I ended up choosing a gown that was slightly different than I thought I wanted. So if you’re not sure what will look good on you, go in with an open mind and trust the consultant.  Before I went, I also found this helpful guide for which gown type is right for your body type.  Good luck and don’t sweat it! Your gown is out there for you!

Post # 12
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1690 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Look, everyone has flaws.. But the thing about wedding dresses is that thy are rally good at camouflaging them, and making you feel fantastic (I found this to be especially true with corset dresses). 

I am not a thin person, so I went in with the idea of finding a ballgown, something with some volume that would hide some of my extra bulk. That didn’t happen at all, I tried on a few ball gowns I liked, but I really ended up falling in love with a mermaid-y type dress. You just never know until you try them on. I would suggest only bringing one or two people with you that you really trust. And don’t be afraid to try on plenty of different styles. 

Here’s me in my dress, I’m showing my least flattering angel here. You see all that back fat spilling out over the top of my dress? Yea, that’s not exactly beautiful, but know what? I can’t see it, that’s someone behind me’s problem. I look good from the front, and that’s the only angel I can really see when I’m in my dress, and I feel beautiful! Like seriously, I can’t see any flaws when I’m in my dress, I don’t feel like I still have 15 pounds I’d like to loose, I don’t care about the double chin, I don’t see anything except for how beautiful the dress is. That’s the magic of a wedding dress. So don’t stress, everyone finds a dress, and everyone feels beautiful on their wedding day. And so will you.

Post # 13
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108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yes I was nervous that I wouldnt look good in anything either but it’s not until you try on your first wedding dress that you think “maybe?” that it starts to sink in that you’re actually shopping for a WEDDING, YOURS!! 

 

Dont worry, it’ll be fun. Relax, enjoy it. 

Post # 14
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9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@Stephville:  Sign me up in the dreading it column. I think (well, I know) that this dread goes hand in hand with hating my current body. I am hoping that after the weight comes off, I will feel better about it. I hate shopping of any sort though, unless it is online and delivered right to my door. I felt this way even when I was skinny.

Post # 15
Hostess
22135 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Stephville:  @MrsPanda99:  I was nervous going into dress shopping too, but trust me, it’s really amazing what a gorgeous and well-constructed wedding gown can do for your self-esteem!

Also, I echo what others said — make sure to try on dresses that you didn’t think would be your style. One of the dresses I grabbed of the rack wasn’t what I intended to grab, but it totally changed the direction of my dress shopping, and I would have never known what kind of dress really looked best on me had I not tried that one on! You just never know what a dress will really look like till it’s on you!

Post # 16
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466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Horribly nervous. We got engaged in April 2012. Quickly decided on a date of July 27, 2013. ANd I did not want to go dress shopping because I was way too nervous. What if I didn’t find something I liked? What if I felt ugly in everything? What if the dress I wanted cost too much? So many things went through my mind. I went to davids bridal in august 2012 but that discouraged me more. I did not find one thing I liked. I felt fat in everything.

I waited until Jan. 2013 to find my dress. THe bridal shop told me I certainly waited for the last minute and I did. There were only certain designers I could try on because of delievery time. I tried on a couple gowns and they weren’t anything great. Nothing said this is mine. So the consultant was going to pull a few more and then we’d see. She brought in three gowns and it was the third one, still in the bag and hanging over her arm that I told her she needed to put me in that asap. It was mine.

I guess my point is, it’s okay to be nervous, just don’t wait to the last moment to do it. Try as many as you want on, take lots of pictures, and just enjoy it. You’ll find the dress, i promise, that makes you feel the way you want.

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