Post # 1
…they just didn’t want to plan anymore?
I was having so much fun at first! Shelling out obscene amounts of money to vendors, planning everything, DIYing up a storm and now I just want the planning to be over.
I love my fi more then anything, and I have baby fever to the MAX and I just want to be married. I’m not enjoying planning anymore, and that makes me so sad! I would much rather already be married and be working on our house then working on invitations.
And at first I just thought my planning melancholy was because I was worried about money, but I got gifted a large sum of money from my grandfather for Christmas (to the point where we don’t need to save for the wedding anymore and could potentially up our budget if we wanted) and I’m still not into it.
The idea of flying off to Vegas (once my dress comes in – I’m still obsessed with my dress, lol) keeps sounding more and more appealing even though it isn’t possible.
Has anyone else gone through this? I’m 6 months into a 15 month engagement; will I get excited over planning again?
Post # 3
I got to that point too. The best thing to do is just take a break for a while. I was thinking wedding stuff every day and it just got very overwhelming. After taking a few weeks off – I started back in slowly, and I don’t have that “UGH – This needs to be over NOW” feeling anymore. You’ll get the urge back, just take a breather for now…
Post # 4
Yep. I hit that point. I definitely had moments that I wished we had eloped at a beautiful city hall and then taken off to Iceland for a few weeks. My most vivid moment of that was when my mother was screaming at me the week before my wedding. She definitely didn’t handle the stress very well! Good times. Hope things pick back up for you! It gets much better once you start having people arrive for your wedding. I remember running down the hotel hallway to tackle my long distance best friend with a hug!
Post # 5
I think everyone gets to that point in planning! Our lives get so wrapped up in wedding wedding wedding that it’s hard to remember what life was like before wedding planning. Take some time to spend with you FI having fun, relax, don’t think about the wedding, and it will probably come back to you. Everyone gets burnt out sometimes!
Post # 6
That was my favorite part of having a long (year) engagement. You can take a few months off to do nothing, get refreshed, and not worry about having to rush it.
Post # 7
@GreenMTBride: I haven’t really been doing wedding stuff lately though! I’ve been on the Bee, but I spend more time on the NWR boards then the wedding related ones, haha! And I’ve been so wrapped up in getting stuff together for Christmas I haven’t even had time for wedding stuff.
Post # 8
Since you still have quite a few months before the wedding, maybe this is the time to sit back and relax on the wedding stuff for the next couple of months. I know, easier said than done. I get sick of planning stuff too, but I have about four months to go and haven’t done all that much.
Post # 9
I think what you are going through is normal! Like the others mentioned-focus on something other than that wedding for a little while and don’t be so hard on yourself-you have plenty of time before your wedding.
How nice of your Grandfather to give you such a huge gift-you’re lucky not to have to worry about money any more!
Post # 10
@sueanddemetrius: I know! It’s amazing!
Post # 11
I booked my venue over a year and a half ago. Did nothing for months.. then got wedding fever again 6 months later, got my gown, photographer, decided on colors. Then nothing… now have it again 5 months pre-wedding. It comes and goes, its ok. Life must go on between wedding planning 🙂
Post # 12
I dream about eloping more and more as it gets closer 🙂 but, no can do. Everything is booked, 4 months away. Some days I want to browse flowers and centerpieces etc for hours and others I want absolutly nothing to do with it. When you don’t feel like planning, don’t…do it all when you feel like it..it will all get done (thats what I tell myself) At this point, I’m excited for the day, but MORE excited for the honeymoon to be away together…alone…with no unwanted comments 🙂
Post # 13
I definitely got to the point, more than once. I was a total mess, so stressed and just desperately wanted everything to be over with. I’m so happy that I kept on plugging away and followed through with our plans. I couldn’t imagine not having our wedding day with family and friends, it was worth the wait.
You will eventually find your groove again. I bet you, because I was the same way, once you get your dress you will be SUPER excited all over again and ready to finish planning 🙂
Post # 14
Well to be honest, if it was all wedding the whole way through your engagement, you’d drive yourself batty. I don’t think it’s possible to sustain a high level of interest and motivation in anything over that kind of timespan!
If you have anything serious to do that has an upcoming deadline, get that out of the way, and then take a month or two off.
Go to the cinema! Have a weekend away! You might as well enjoy the easy months, cos I’ve never heard of anyone who wasn’t up to their eyeballs in it the month before the wedding!
Post # 15
Yup. I’m actually at the point where I feel burn out from wedding planning. My FI even notices that because I haven’t bombard him appointment to see vendors. Currently I’m stuck with finding hair and makeup artist.
I wish for a magic wand that I can wave it and everything is done perfectly.
Post # 16
I was there very recently (in fact, I started a thread about it!). Now that it’s almost January and my invitations just came in (whee!!!!) I’m getting more into it again. All the little stuff is creeping up (up until now I’ve successfully avoided thinking about the horror that is my having to actually DANCE at my wedding) and as the clock ticks closer, I’m forced to deal with all that kind of stuff and find myself getting excited.
I absolutely feel you on the crazy baby fever and just wanting to be MARRIED already, though! I think you’ll start getting excited again as the big day gets nearer.
You should start some fun polls, that might lift your spirits. 😀