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Hey hive,

I just need a wee hive hug...just had a big run in with our officiant...we were writing our own ceremony, and I had spent a long time on it, tweaking it, getting input from FI, etc. So I sent it in to her today, all excited, and she basically completely shot me down. Called it didactic, and lacking in flow. It was obvious, according to her, that I didn't have experience in writing wedding liturgy - no kidding, huh? [Small amount of background, I've known her since I was six, she is technically a religious officiant, but is looking into leaving the priesthood [Anglican], and we will most likely be the last couple she marries] I was always really excited to have her marry us, because I think it's important to have someone who knows and loves us usher us into this new phase of our life...apparently, in the beginning of all this, she didn't even realize I was asking her to marry us, she thought I was just asking her to read a blessing at the wedding [even though I repeatedly said "we'd like you to officiate at our wedding], and then proceeded to try and get together with me to go over "preliminary stuff" with me, when she KNEW my fiance was unavailable to go with me, and he wanted very much to be involved. There are several things that have irked me throughout this whole process, but I have literally known her forever, and consider her a mentor. She can be a bit blunt, which I know about her, its just I'm feeling super sensitive about everything right now, and it's been a very long engagement with ALOT of family drama, especially between the FI and my parents. [whole 'nother post, that one!] We've now tweaked the ceremony AGAIN, and hopefully it will meet her standards of what she is comfortable saying...[there was nothing inappropriate in what we had initially, I guess is just didn't "flow" for her...] hopefully the darn ceremony is now finished to everyone's satisfaction, and I can finally cross it off my list! Sometimes [and this is how FI feels], it feels like everybody elses wedding but ours!!! At least we have written our own vows, and nobody's touching those!

ANYWAY, this is just the last thing in a very long lead up to the wedding...FI is working two jobs, as a roofer and a line cook to help pay for stuff, we have paid for 3/4 of the wedding ourselves, which we are very proud of on our literally barely above minimum wage jobs, but he is literally exhausted, getting up at 5 am to work at an extremely physically demanding job, and then pulling 2-3 extra evening shifts a week at the restaurant. He says he is happy to do it, and he is amazing, as far as I'm concerned...he never complains, never cancels, and basically works his ass off! I'm working full time as well, and we are on a teeny budget, but still managing to do everything we want, and I think it's going to be beautiful. It's just that we are feeling a wee bit disconnected, with us working all the time, and then trying to work on the wedding too! We try to spend all our free time together, but most of the time we end up falling asleep, and we don't have any extra money this close to the wedding to even go to a movie! Anyway, I guess the upshot of this post is, I am SO ready [beYOND ready] to have this wedding here already! I'm sure I'll get my second wind once all my ladies get here, and the family from OOT arrives...just needed to get a little vent out...it's so late here, and my eyes are crossed, so I'm gonna go to bed now...at least we can sleep together...! Thanks for listening hive...

You are so right...that is what I am hanging onto right now...I'm just feeling kind of emotionally done at this point, but it does look better now that I got some sleep. Funny, it's never as frustrating in the morning!!! I'm still kind of upset with our officiant, but I will be working on typing up the new ceremony order today, which should hopefully fix everything, so I can just be finished with this, and move on. Don't get me wrong, I'm ok with the suggestions she made, it's not going to ruin our wedding or anything [at this point, nothing will!!] it's just the way she did it...we just have different opinions on things, I guess. anyway, is it the weeekend yet???

((((((((hugs))))))))))))

Hang in there girlfriend.  You will get through it!  You have done a great job so far.  You are much stronger than you think you are.  :)

We are exhausted too.        I think it's pretty common now, so I just wanted to show some support !

I am kind of going through the same thing. My wedding is over a year away and I am already ready for it to be over! We have family giving us a hard time too and are also trying to make things work with our priest. I think we all get overwhelmed and start to freak out at some point. Everything will be okay! I see that your wedding is really close... I hope its beautiful and I hope you and your FH are proud of all the blood, sweat and tears that you put into it!

GOOD LUCK!!