- Big Truck
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I love this site… I can vent alllll day about my petty little “waiting” worries and concerns, and I KNOW I’m not alone or going crazy, I get SUCH good feedback!…. What a great site, seriously.
Anyway. I’ve been doing some thinking.
I’m realizing that I just asked Mr. BT to put down an insane amount of money for a ring. A ring. Not a house (he’s got that already), not a car, but a tiny ring.
I feel pretty awful about it, actually. Like I’m being selfish.
Here’s the thing, though. As I’ve mentioned, I’m LOW maintanence, and when I started ring shopping, I realized my taste in jewelry is much more expensive than I had anticipated. Which is why I TRIPLE CHECKED w/ Mr. BT about the budget for the ring.
He gave me a price range, but said we could adjust it (read: INCREASE!) if I found something I loved.
Well…. I wasn’t concerned about prices when I started looking, quite honestly. I just wanted to find THE ring, the one I loved, the one I simply cannot wait to wear everyday. And I FOUND it! And it’s within his budget that he gave me!
But I still feel guilty. I mean, I didn’t go out in search of the most expensive ring I could find. I went out with my happiness as my sole concern (selfish, eh?).
Now I’m sitting here looking through the galleries and I see how beautiful everyone’s rings are, and I’m like, “Shit…. Did we REALLY need to spend THAT MUCH on a ring?” It seems absurd to me. And yet, I cannot stop thinking about my future ring. I’m obsessed with it! It is so beautiful and it’s everything I wanted in a ring. So I should feel good about it…. right??
I mean, Mr. BT wouldn’t have put the price limit so high if he didn’t HONESTLY want to pay that much.
And I am SO incredibly lucky that I found a man who is WILLING to pay that much for my happiness. I owe him big time for this.
I know when I have that ring on my finger, I’ll have no regrets, no guilt.
Did anyone else have similar issues? I certainly don’t regret the ring I picked, I just feel soooo guilty about the price. But he’s willing to pay it, and I even offered to chip in, but he won’t even consider that.
Discuss! I hope I’m not alone on this one lol.