Post # 1
I just can’t believe that I’ll never be a bride again… Looking back I feel like I should have sunk my teeth into the experience a little more, gone to see a few bridal shows, spent more time with my bridesmaids doing DIY projects… we were engaged for a year and a half but I never wanted to bring up the wedding subject because I was afraid of being a “bridezilla”.
It doesn’t help that my maid of honour is now engaged and she’s doing all the things that I wish I’d done… and as she takes me through the process with her I can’t help but feel sad that I didn’t take full advantage of the bridal opportunity while I had the chance. I am happy for her but it kills me that I also have feelings of jealousy.
It was just so difficult, I’d never been to a wedding before my own and I felt so blind in all the planning. My sister just eloped and my parents didn’t know a thing about weddings. Now it’s over I feel like it was great but I could have made it so much greater if only I’d known.
I know it’s useless to feel like this but I can’t help the way I feel. My wedding was less than a week ago so I hope it gets better with time… maybe I should have taken a honeymoon after all, instead of just going back to boring old home (we were trying to save money).
I’m trying to get over myself but I still feel so down. Did any of you girls ever feel like this after your wedding? What made you feel better?
Post # 3
I totally understand….my wedding is 4 months away and yet I already get pangs of meloncholy when I think of it being over.
I have 3 sisters that aren’t married, and I get excited when I realize I’ll be able to help them plan and prepare. I also know that there are so many other exciting events in life and that each one comes and goes.
Savour the memories of your day, and enjoy that now you get to be a newlywed! It will get better in time I”m sure…
Post # 4
I’ve heard post-partum depression is common for women after wedding planning. Try to focus on your marriage. That’s the important part in the scheme of things after all. I’m sure your wedding was wonderful even if you feel it was a little under par now. Try to remember all of the best parts of your day and what they mean to you.
Planning another project may help too. Keeping busy and just keeping life rolling would certainly keep your mind off of it. Maybe you could offer to throw an engagement party for your friend? Or plan an awesome summer shindig. There are plenty of other life events waiting for you.
Post # 5
I feel ya! Sooo… in 3-5 years Im going to have the best renewal of the vows anyone has ever seen!!!!
Help your friend you are apart of that wedding too and you will both look back at the experience together!
And The feeling goes away I got married in august and felt the same for the first few months.
Post # 6
Haha, I kinda get it. I didn’t regret anything I hadn’t done, but I missed planning when it was over. I don’t miss planning anymore, but I still think about our wedding alot. But it’s all happy memories and remembering emotions, so yeah, it gets better!
Like a PP said, just try to focus on your marriage, and how excited you are to be his wife!
Post # 7
As someone who just lost her venue….well, actually, I’ve gone through 3 venues in the last 2 years (another topic), I must say that i am actually looking forward to this all being finished. That said, I also get to cheat since I am a Super BM (aka, the best friend but the sister is MOH) for a wedding in November so I can to contribute to that process.
Heck yes you need a honeymoon!! That’s the total end cap, otherwise all you’re thinking about is the fact that you spent $15 per light string and you now have no use for them. (what? just me?)
I think now is the time for you to start planning more parties. You obviously like it, and were likely really good at it and had a fresh perspective. Just start small with a couple of mixed dinner parties (or BBQs if you’re not from WA state, ahem) and let it go from there. And if it’s really about bridal parties, then you have found your calling. 🙂
Post # 8
I don’t feel let down, I mean we had a great time. But we do wish we could have such an awesome party again. I foresee plenty of dinner parties in our future, and maybe some pretty freaking awesome decade anniversary parties -DJ, dancing, and all! 🙂
Post # 9
@lisabula: You are totally not alone. I’m 7 months past our wedding, and I still get like that on some days. Going back to look at our wedding photos and videos are helping to cheer me up lately! On some days, coming here to weddingbee and helping others with their wedding planning actually helps as well. conversely, there are other days when being on here only made me sad (luckily not so much anymore!). Hugs, it will be okay!
Post # 10
I know how you feel. I’m a little less than 4 months away from my wedding and I didn’t do any of that stuff either. I’m scared I’ll regret not attending bridal shows and stuff. Chances are you spent your engagement period acting like yourself which is nothing to regret. Sure, you could’ve done lots of other things, but you didn’t, oh well. You still got married and had an amazing day, right?
Post # 11
@pengoala: Samesies. I got the post wedding blues so bad after my wedding that I didn’t mention anything about my wedding, talk to anyone who came about it or even look at any guest pictures for at least a month after it was over. After it was over, I was over it. Some things hadn’t gone as planned, some thing went great, but I had the overall feeling that it wasn’t worth all the work I had put into it and I was disappointed.
Getting my pro pictures back has definitely helped with that feeling a ton. Seeing how beautiful everything was just makes me remember everything that was awesome about my wedding day. I still generally feel like I would have been happier had I eloped, but I am not unhappy anymore so that’s good. Don’t worry, things will be better.
Post # 12
You know what, now that i read this i am gonna try to savor it a lil more. I had a fit last night cause my invites for my friends and family still hadn’t been sent (I mailed FI before easter but had no time to do my own) and i ust couldn’t wait for it to be over but now, I am gonna have a better perspective so thank you:) I do hope you take at least a mini honeymoon. We have a plan C and D to not spend too much money so I know how that goes.
Post # 13
@Angelz_love: Girl, when you’re planning, there’s nothing a girl wants more than to be DONE! 😛 I remember that feeling vividly as well. TEARS all the time! But you know this about me already. 🙂
Post # 14
I feel the opposite. I’m SO GLAD it’s over. We finally have our weekends back to do interesting things instead of obsessing over silly details and running annoying errands. And I get to enjoy all this time with my wonderful playmate!
Post # 15
This is normal. Me and my fiance’ had premarital counseling required by our church and they told us it’s normal to be a little blue after your wedding, feeling like you didn’t soak up the experience as much as you should have or feeling like now you have nothing to look forward to.
The suggestion was that if you had a honeymoon, start planning a SECOND one. In your case, my dear…plan a honeymoon for goodness sake!!!
Post # 16
Thanks guys, this makes me feel a little better that I’m not alone in feeling like this. I’m just… *sigh* I don’t know. I suppose I just have to swallow my feelings and be there for my friend, move on and try to forget all the things I wish I’d done. Maybe I’ll do a trash the dress photoshoot (without actually trashing it)