Post # 1
Do any of you ever feel like a total control freak about your wedding??? I’m super crazy picky because I used to be an event planner for a hotel, so I just prefer to do a lot of my wedding things myself (and with my fiance, of course). My friends and family keep jumping in to try to help with things, and I’m like, no no no no no no no…I’ve got it!! I don’t want to sound ungrateful…because I am very thanksful to have friends who want to help…but UGH what do you do. I guess I’m just venting. Can anyone else sympathize?!
Post # 3
Me, me, me (raises hand). I’m a control freak with OCD and I know it.
So far, everyone has let me be and I’ve done pretty much everything on my own. That’s going to change when the wedding day arrives as my florist will be doing the complete setup of the ceremony and reception.
As long as you know when to ask for help, I don’t see a problem with it.
Post # 4
I can see how you would be really picky if you used to be an event planner. You are already used to being in control of things like this.
I’m a control freak. A lot of my wedding is DIY so a lot of my BM’s have been offering help. I had one Bridesmaid or Best Man help me with a project and I probably won’t do it again. She did an alright job and I really appreciated the help, but I did have to go back and redo some of the things she did.
To keep people from offering help too often I usually just limit how much I talk about the wedding and various projects. Usually when I say that my Fiance and I will be working on something that keeps them from offering help since I won’t be doing it by myself.
Post # 5
I would have said no a few weeks ago…
Until the other day when someone made a suggestion, and I had a mini Bridezilla moment (only in my head though – where in my mind I went “No! No I do not want that!”)
Gah. Then I let it go.
My problem is an inability to delegate effectively. So… workin’ on it. Any tips?
Post # 6
I am!! I’m not a control freak about most things in life, but this wedding has made me a crazy person. I had a girlfriend help me with stuff, and yea, I had to go back and fix some of it. She did fine, but it just wasn’t how “I” would have done it…
I also have a few people who I’m not even close to offering up help. … No, not even offering, saying “ok, so when you get back from there call me and I’ll come over with my stuff and help you get all that sorted out. It’ll be great. And I have a lot of experience with making those things, so I’ll be the perfect helper!!”
I never want to be rude or ungrateful… but … isn’t that what I have bridesmaids for? One particular person isn’t even invited to the wedding, but they won’t stop hounding me to help with everything…
Post # 7
I am definitely a control freak! I hired a DOC for the wedding day and everyone keeps telling me I need to just delegate and let him do most of the setting up so that I can relax but I’m like I cannot relax unless I know everything is perfect! Lol but it’s not like I don’t want help. My mom, Maid/Matron of Honor, and DOC will be there helping me set everything up but I just want to be there to supervise. 🙂
Post # 8
yeah, I feel like I’m the only one who can do anything right :/
my recent obsession is my hair and makeup. I had a trial, but I went home and did all kinds of adjustments and took pictures. on the wedding day, I’m going to have a whole list of changes to give to both of them. plus, I went out and spent about $90 on my own foundation, primer & powder. I decided my makeup artist’s was not good enough. so I’ll be paying big bucks to have her do my makeup, and even more money on things like primer, which I’m sure I’ll never use again!
this perfectionist thing is costing me a lot of money.
Post # 9
I totally understand!!! I like to have control over every detail. Everyone is calling me a bridezilla!!! I don’t mind people helping but I want to know everything they are doing!! Much better if I do it myself, that way I’m always in the know!! LOL
Post # 10
“If I want it done right, I’ll do it myself.” – My wedding planning, and life in general, motto.
Post # 11
I was like that, I wanted to do everything myself. Even the morning of the wedding I went to set up the reception hall and even though i had to rush to go and get my hair done I came back to the hall when everyone had left to make sure I was happy with the set up before going to get dressed! And it was a good thing I did, some of the chair covers were on backwards! SOme of the sashes were sloppy, seriously no one cares as much about your wedding than you do, so you are the only one that will notice all the mistakes, thats why you are the best person to micro-manage everything
Post # 12
Me.. Overhere!!! I dont feel this way, I just AM this way lol. I have my hands in almost every part of this wedding! I need to know whats going on and I have to be teh one calling the shots. Im like this with most everything though, so I guess Im not really surprised.
@UpstateCait: Agreed. The only person you can count on 100% of the time to “get” your vision is you!!
Post # 13
Ok, you all made me feel 150% better…I was starting to get worried that I’m a giant b-witch or something because I feel this way!! I mean, I get a call today from my Maid/Matron of Honor, and she’s like, hey I’m booking your hair appointment for you so that you don’t have to worry about it…what time do you want? I’m like…STOP.
Post # 14
I am becoming more picky than I thought I would. I just went through our Google Spreadsheet and corrected some of my FI’s entries, because they didn’t follow the format I set up. We are also doing black and champagne gold as our colors, with sage green as an accent. The word “accent” means different things to him than it does to me. He wants his groomsmen to wear sage green vests, while I was hoping they would have champagne vests.
I have to remind myself that, in the grand scheme of things, these are small and won’t really matter. I feel my inner Monica coming out in me!
Post # 15
I was a total control freak about my wedding because as everyone says – no one cares about your wedding as much as you do. I knew it was our wedding and I wanted thigns a certain way, so it was up to me (and him – yes he did help) to do them. It was stressful and hectic, but things turned out lovely. Plus, I got to marry the best guy in the whole world! Nice bonus if I do say so myself. 😉
Post # 16
I’m such a control freak. I’m pretty sure I have OCD… lol.