Anyone else feel like it isn't really happening?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think it will hit you closer to the date. I’m getting married in a few weeks and I am not sure it has hit me yet either!! I still have a bunch of things to do (nothing major, though)… it’s all a little surreal.

Post # 4
1011 posts
Bumble bee

it doesn’t feel like it’s happening for me either… but that could be the fact that it’s been 9 months since we got engaged and there is no sign of a wedding date on the horizon lol 

Post # 5
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I felt like that! Right up until my actual wedding day! And even a little during the wedding!

Post # 6
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I have the same feeling as we still have 16 months until our date and all that is organised is the venue. all I want to do is book everything and have it happen because otherwise I feel like its not real. like the other Bees have mentioned maybe it wont hit you until you in your gorgeous dress 🙂

Post # 7
8677 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Didn’t happen for me, either. When we got legally married our parents flew out to attend our justice of the peace ceremony. We were sitting on the floor playing a game called Munchkin before the JoP arrived. It was never anything more than “He’ll  be here at 7.” No OMG WE’RE GETTING MARRIED *froths at mouth*

We later had a big white wedding for people who could not attend. Booked a bakery, a caterer, a venue, got a dress, DJ, photographer, invitations, the whole deal. Never once hit me then that I’d soon be under scrutiny from everyone at our wedding and that we were going to have the big white party.

I don’t think it hits every woman. Hollywood and the media in general has brainwashed women that we all need that over the top, spectacular reaction to the dress, to seeing your groom for the first time, to your honeymoon, or even your proposal.

Sometimes it just doesn’t happen, and that’s perfectly okay.

Post # 8
1888 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Totally  understand.  We’re nine months away, but since we can’t book our venue or anything else until Feb (so we’re also crossing our fingers that our date is even available).  I feel like I exist in a holding pattern.  I have my dress and the rest of my outfit, but I am so blah about even trying it in.  Hopefully I’ll be more excited as it gets closer.

Maybe the way your feeling (or not feeling) is a good thing because it helps keep you from getting so hyped up about one day that you have a huge letdown and depression afterward.  I don’t konw, just trying to see the positive (plus I’ve heard that many brides feel similarly).

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