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Anyone else feel like the planning and wedding stress is taking it's toll?

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    verosara    March 27, 2010   LA, California

    I think that with all the stress from the wedding and bigger projects at work for each of us, we're very stressed out.  So much so that we are hardly seeing eachother in the last couple of weeks.  We get togehter on weekends and then the time flies by on wedding errands/projects.  Anyone feel/felt this way?  I feel like I shouldn't be feeling this way with my FH to be, it's like there's more distance when I feel like we should be more excited.  I brought it up to him, but right now it feels like it's just more stress to add to an already stressful situation for us.  Any suggestions?

     
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    msqthoney    April 10, 2010   Los Angeles, California

    Our wedding is still over two months away, and I, being the perpetual procrastinator, still haven't felt the evil effects of stress LOL! I know I'd probably freaking out come march.

    But anyway, I suggest that you still find time for each other.  Schedule dates and don't go out only when you have "left over" time from wedding planning, work, etc.  Don't give up on the things that you used to do and say that you will resume your friday night dinners or monthly trips to the beach after the wedding.  Keep them. After all, you wouldn't get this far in your relationship if you didn't have those.

    Good luck! :)

     
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    ccranetobe    August 14, 2010  

    I know this sounds bad, but schedule your time in! I do this when I know our weeks are hectic, so we can get to hang out together or go do something non wedding related. I need to make sure I do it or instead of staying late to do a project or wedding stuff I go to bed early with fh and we talk until he falls asleep and then i creep out of bed and go finish whatever i need to. (bit of a nightowl I am)

    I found it really hard when i first got engaged to get out of wedding planning, because i literally had no idea what I was doing, now that ive got a track on things, its a lot easier.

    good luck!

     
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    Miss Velveteen    20 March 2010   New Zealand

    I did... so I just stopped doing wedding stuff. Honestly, cut out SO many details. The stress/hassle wasn't worth it to me (and I didn't even get THAT stressed!). I hated devoting so many hours to it... so I don't any more. Simple wins :) I know that that's not a choice everyone could make though.

     
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    MrsSl82be    October 24, 2009  

    I agree with Miss Velveteen - pick your battles with the wedding planning. Make a list of everything that still has to be done, and sit down with your FI to weed out the things that just aren't that important. Also, schedule time with him!  He's important in your life, so you have to make time for him to keep your sanity.  Don't worry it will all be over soon

     
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    verosara    March 27, 2010   LA, California

    I appreciate all of the helpful feedback!  This weekend we conquered some things on our list and on Sunday we made time to hang out and appreciate what was left of our weekend. 

     

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