Post # 1
I keep hearing everyone talk about wedding planning and how stressful it is, but I don’t really get it. I get stressed about a lot of things, but not about my wedding. This stuff seems really easy, actually. So I feel like I must be missing something. What am I missing??
Dress: In progress
Tux: In closet
Ceremony: Going to check out venues this weekend
Bridal Party: Just my two step children. I have everything I need to make my step-daughter’s dress when it gets closer to the day, and my step-son’s grandparents are taking him to rent a tux.
What am I missing???
Post # 3
@Tangled: Flowers? Music? Officiant? Decor? Dozens and dozens of tiny little details that will pop into your head at 2am while waking you up with an icy cold sweat and heart palpitations.
Seriously – your post is spoken truly like a person who has until Jan of 2013 to plan a wedding.
The stress will build.
Post # 4
@Sunfire: Haha! I am aware of that, but I like to nip things in the bud. If there is anything I missing that I can take care of now, I want to do it!!!
No flowers (waste of money IMHO)
Officiant is my Dad
Music is taken care of
Decor is beautiful at the venue, no need to change it.
Any other ideas??? I can’t think of anything! And my wedding is right after Christmas/Finals, so I know I’ll probably be running around like a chicken with my head cut off at that point. I just wnat to figure out what I’m forgetting now before that time comes and I lose it!
Post # 5
@Tangled: Um . . . um . . . .
Will you be my wedding planner? LOL!! 😉
Post # 6
programs, menus, guest book, favors, speeches, birth certificates, order of procession, hotel block, Out of Town bags, transportation? Obviously you don’t HAVE to do a lot of those things, but the little stuff adds up. I felt calm too until about 2 weeks ago…just wait lol.
Post # 7
Not doing programs. (I think they are kind of weird and just get thrown away anyway)
Guest Book: I haven’t decided if I want to do this yet. I don’t think so, though.
Favors: I hate wedding favors. I hate clutter and junk
Speeches: No speeches, no bridal party
Birth Certificates: I don’t think we have these! This was a good one!!!
Order of procession: No bridal party, so no problem.
Hotel block: Doing that this weekend! We’ve already gotten written confirmation that they’ll give us a discounted rate for our suite, too! Woo hoo!
Out of Town bags: I do need to do those, but I can’t do them until right before the wedding, which makes me nervous.
Transportation: I’m assuming that you mean a limo, which again, I find a silly waste of money. The church is 10 minutes from the reception, where the hotel is attached. I don’t feel the need to rent a limo for 10 minutes. I’m just going to ride with my Mom.
Post # 8
@Westwood: What are the birth certificates for?
Post # 9
No need to stress! It’s a wedding! It’s supposed to be fun! Aside from a few inconsiderate guests, I’ve had no stress and don’t intend to! Maybe it’s the job I work in. Work is stressful. Planning a party isn’t! Enjoy! 🙂
Post # 10
Other than that, you seem to have the big stuff taken care of. As you get closer, the smaller logistics will start to build up – what is your timeline for the day of? The day before? Who answers the phone in the days before when people are having trouble with travel arrangments, etc? Are you doing Out of Town bags? Who will drop them off? Will the hotel mess it all up? Who do you want with you while you get ready? What pictures do you want to make sure your photographer gets? In what order will people walk down the aisle?
But most of the stress doesn’t come from the general planning – at least it didn’t for me. There were a lot of decisions, but they were pretty easy to make. It was guest list drama: people throwing a fit over the no-kids rule and then refusing our child-care arrangements, people trying to add +1s that we didn’t have room for, people not sending back rsvps, or sending them and then wanting to change them, etc. (We also had budget stress, because it was really, really hard sometimes to give up things we wanted due to lack of fundage).
It was like as long as it was me and decisions, I was okay. Busy, but okay. But, oh, add in the mix lots and lots of people all converging on a single event, and the stress got totally out of hand a few times.
But not to worry, Tangled. We’ll be here on the Bee when it does, and we’ll talk you through it. In the meantime, enjoy the fun!
Post # 11
@Tangled: Does your dress need alterations?
Post # 12
How can invitations be ordered before you have a ceremony location? Invitations need to say where the wedding is. Unless you’re printing your own. In which case it would make sense
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
The last month blows by and that’s when you realize the little details that need to be done (and what things can be tossed because it’s not as important.)
Post # 14
What are you doing for food and linens? Is it included w/your reception venue? Do you have your timeline hammered out (this was a yucky source of stress for me). Does your entertainment include music? Do you have set lists?
Good luck with the rest of your wedding planning. 🙂
Post # 15
All that stuff is pretty much taken care of, too. You Bees are making me feel more put together than I am.
My dress does need alterations, but I already have that all set up.
I ordered my invitations as in, I ordered a designer to make my invitations. She is, of course, waiting on the ceremony details. Hopefully I will have that figured out this weekend!
I am a list person, so I would love to have a list of things to do, even if I can’t do them until the month before. I just want to know what I’m in for and have it ready to go!
Post # 16
Have you picked your menu? Is your guest list complete? Is your budget complete? Have you confirmed with your mom that she will be taking you to the reception? Hair/makeup appointments? Have you given the photographer a list of specific photos you want? Do your step children have their outifts and have alterations set up?