Anyone else feel pressurized in dress shops?!

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

As I read this, I kept thinking “Wait..DID I post on the bee about last weeeknd!??!!”.


This is EXACTLY the experience I had. The first salon I booked an appointment with is one where you can’t pull your own dresses or see their inventory– they do all the pulling. I showed up armed with photos of what I love (lace with deep v back or a jenny packham esque sheath on a whim) and the fabrics I DIDN’T like (organza, tulle, taffeta). I told ehr where my wedding was and that I wanted a vintage romantic feel.

She pulled 8 dresses total in groups of 4 and literally only 2 of the 8 were nice. The other ones were like curtains and two were taffeta BALLGOWNS for a god damn outside barn wedding ahahaha. There were 6 other brides with appointments and I think they divy up the “good ones” hahaha.

At the end she pulled the same deal with me telling me that I needed to make a decision right now and that I should have ordered a dress “like yesterday”. I was almost in tears thinking that I was supposed to choose after only trying on 6 dresses. My grandmother is in her 90’s and is paying for my dress and it was supposed to bea fun process and I didn’t want it to be done after 6 dresses– only 2 of which I even liked. I didn’t fall in love and it’s my WEDDING dress.

Oh, and let me add…my wedding is 9 months away!

I called a couple other boutiques the next morning who calmed me down and said she was just trying to make a sale. It was an unfortunate experience that sort of rained on the great day we were having but I guess this is to be expected. An hour is NOT enough time to try on dresses– esp when you’re not able to look through and pull the ones you like. If you don’t connect with the person helping you, you’re at their mercy for the minimal time you have.

Try not to let it get you down. Make appointments for a LOT of places now — it takes a couple weeks to fit you in at most of the placesI called and you can always cancel if you find your dress elsewhere. That way, you’re not going to push the timeline back any further if you don’t find one in the next couple appointments. I also suggest goign on a weekday if there’s any way you can swing it because you’ll be wayyyy less rushed.


I hope your next trip is better and I’m so glad I’m not alone!

Post # 4
266 posts
Helper bee

I think the stores shouldn’t have been pushy, but they are right that you’re a bit late.

it takes 4 months from the time you order your dress in your specific size and color and height to come into the store, then you will need follow up fittings to decide on alterations, which takes another 2 months if done through the shop seamstress!

glad you found your dress though, congrats!

Post # 5
6959 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

They were telling me I was late ordering at 9 months out…I think it’s a lot of bull most of the time.

Post # 6
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I also shopped at 6 months out and got the same BS you did.  They all kept telling me I had less than three days left to order.  It’s a crappy sales tactic.

Post # 8
1102 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

i totally did they even said i needed to order dress 10 months early (not true) in some they just want you to buy then they dont care its ur 1st time or ur not sure or you can’t pick they jsut want you to buy something now so they get their cut

Post # 9
35 posts
  • Wedding: April 2014

Yep they can be very pushy, I had one sales person tell me I was being too fussy and had to lower my standard as I wouldn’t find what I wanted. Pulled the “you like this dress and it’s a one off so you must take it now if you want it”! I walked and ended up with my dream dress later that day in another store Laughing

Post # 10
3202 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Hmm, this is interesting. Part of the reason I went with my off-the-rack David’s Bridal dress was because the shops were telling me (at 9 months out) that I was really, really late, and I needed to order like that week or the next week. In addition to just being cheap, lol, I didn’t want to feel stressed about whether my dress would get in on time, so I decided to just go off the rack. Haha, stupid salespeople, you lost yourself a sale this time around!!

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