Post # 1
Alright… so my fiance and I have been engaged for *almost* two years. But it wasnt until this past fall where I started to really plan the wedding. And it REALLY wasnt until the last month where we have gotten serious with downpayments, plans, picking out things (ie theme, colors, dresses, suits, decor, etc). There are so many great ideas out there, I am getting so overwhelmed and can’t even figure out a starting point.
All we have is the reception local, photographer, and a few other odds and ends. Help 🙁
Where did you all start?
Post # 3
@Miss Otter: I only have 14 months left and I’ve only been “looking” around. I reallyyy need to start actually booking people. But I started looking at the venue for the reception first.
Post # 4
I completely know how you feel. I feel overwelmed all the time with wedding planning. For me, I kind of just got into the groove… Stated with one thing and just kept going. Now I have all the essentials out of the way and it feels SOOO good. But, it was and still is hard to make decisions. Just take things one day at a time and try to enjoy the experience as much as possible.
By the way, I am a WI bride too- Fond du Lac. Are you enjoying all the snow?!
Post # 5
I know it can be so overwhelming. First of all get a notebook, if you don’t already have one. Make lists.
Did you know the average bride spends 15-20 hours per week planning her own wedding?
I would say get a planner, but if it isn’t in your budget, get a good maid of honor!!
Just pick one vendor to focus on at a time and don’t worry about the others until the one you are working on is booked.
Prioritize, involve your groom, and make time for yourself too. If you can’t afford a massage, get a pedicure! Just something to take your mind off things. It will be a full time job and then the day after your wedding it will all be over.
Post # 6
Holy crap yes.
I don’t even want to start, becauseI start to start, and then realize that I don’t expect any of my family to show up other than my brother, and that’s because we’ll have picked him up, and then I get frustrated, and then I don’t want to deal with it. We haven’t even chosen a date, FI chooses sooner, I think he’s crazy and choose later (him: 6-12 mos, no longer than 18; me: 12-18 mos, possibly 24)
FI’s mom wants to throw us an engagement party, but since I don’t expect anyone to show up…I feel like she feels like I’m being difficult. 🙁
I’m torn between telling FI “let’s hit the courthouse” and just moving forward and damning the torpedoes.
Post # 7
Great Suggestions… Also, I have found myself drinking wine more since wedding planning began… a glass of wine to help you relax definitely helps 🙂
Post # 8
We’ve been engaged since ’07, and my partner hasn’t shown any interest in anything what-so-ever until now that we are >6months away from the date he picked forever ago.(he wouldn’t even give me a yes/no on venues until now, which is ridiculous on its own)
It’s funny that he thinks everything will be a breeze, but I am like “uh, yea, don’t mind me while I go insane!”
I’m starting with the venue, then getting an officiant & photographer out of the way. following that is attire & food. then all the little details like invites and decor and whatnot. Last but not least is our music selections & ceremony –but we’re not having a dj, if we were that would probably be up there with the photography.
Post # 9
i have been engaged for almost a year!! but we are having a 16 month engagement, yay 4 months to go!!!! but i have been planning since day 1 of being engaged and i still have so much to do!! i would strat planning as soon as possible!!
Post # 10
I am freaking out right now! We have a strict 120person venue, but our guest list is above and beyond that. I don’t want any kids at our wedding, but my FI is putting his foot down and saying he wants all of his neices and nephews there. Food is $20 bucks a plate for the kids mac and cheese and I don’t want to pay that for 10+ kids!! I am seriously ready to cry, I hate guest lists!!! HIs mom and sister are both pissed at me because I even dare mention no kids allowed.
Post # 11
Bostonsmom I boycotted kids too. My FMIL was so mad at me and I refused to budge, luckily my husband felt the same way. We had a lot of drinkers there and didn’t want the kids in the way. Also I feel it is mean to make them sit at a table all night.
However, we did let them come to the ceremony and then his sister took them home and came back to party.
Post # 12
STOP. go grab yourself something something sugary. then come back. we will help.