Post # 1
I’m a size 22, so I sure as hell did not expect to lose enough weight to squeeze into a size 8. However, I’m feeling EXTREMELY disappointed in myself that I did not lose the weight I wanted to. I have no one to blame but myself, but I hate myself for being the “fat bride” I swore I was not going to be. I feel & look great in my dress, but I just know I will look back 10 years from now at pictures & hate my face or the way the dress didn’t lay “just right”. I know I’ll get over feeling like this, I just needed to rant 🙂
Post # 3
You have my sympathy. Weight loss is such a hard thing, and soooo much pressure is put on brides to be “perfect.” But you know what, life happens and we don’t always have things go as planned. When you look at your wedding pictures, you will notice the joy on your face, the love in your husband’s eyes and the wonderful celebration of your friends and family, not your size.
Post # 4
I completely know what you are going through. My wedding is a month away and I a can’t believe I didn’t lose a pound and I have been trying for a year. I am so disappointed in myself because I wanted to look my best for my pictures. I am slowly coming to terms with it but at the end of the day my Fiance loves no matter what size I am and I have a beautiful dress that fits me (if I lost the weight I would have had to get it taken in so at least I saved a bit of money there :)). I know I will be beautiful on my wedding day and I know I will look back on the pictures and know how happy I was and somehow I don’t think the fact I didn’t lose the weight will really come to mind.
Post # 5
Yeah, I am in that boat too. I am a size 14/16 and would love to just make it a 10/12. Ever since I had my kids I just can’t make my stomach smaller. I have only really lost about 25 pounds since I had my youngest daughter 5 years ago. I wanted to lose the weight for the wedding but at the same time I didn’t want to exercise every day and I didn’t want to pass on the desserts, lol! I am just not good at self discipline. I try to remind myself every day that God made me the way I am, and if he made me this way then I should be happy with it. It’s not like I overeat or anything, I just can’t say no to sweets or yes to exercise.
I think about pictures 10 years from now, also, but the way I look at it is… if I am smaller in 10 years than I am now I will be excited for myself for how far I have come in 10 years (and then I will go out and renew my vows and retake pictures!), and if I am heavier in 10 years then I will be able to look back at the pictures fondly and reminisce about how small I was back then 🙂
Post # 6
Thank you ladies. It does help to know I’m not the only one. I don’t want to be a skinny minnie, I just wanted to be more comfortable & be able to tell I’d lost a few pounds.
@aubrav: I feel you! I suck @ self discipline too. I love your idea of re-taking pictures & re-newing vows, great for you!
MissShort & AClaire: Thank you for making me realize the only thing I should notice is the love in our eyes. I am so excited for our wedding day & know Fiance & everyone else will think I am beautiful regardless of what size I am.
Post # 7
haha oh do I have a story for you. Mr. G and I have been dating for about 2 years now and when I met him I was 126 lbs. When we started our relationship I made an appt with the endocrinologist who found out I had a thyroid condition. She told me I would gain a lot of weight. I didn’t think she meant 60 pounds! So here I am, 60 pounds heavier than I was when we met due to no fault of my own. I exercise six days a week and am probably one of the healthiest people you’d ever know. But until my thyroid levels stabilize I will not be able to lose weight. It’s really hard knowing that I’m not able to look my best for the most special day in my life 🙁
Post # 8
@KaitlinHudson: I recently foudn out my weight gain problems are probly from a medical condition too! Part of me is relieved and part of me is freaked out.
@CaraMia10: I didn’t lose any weight for my wedding either- In fact, I’ve GAINED weight! :_( I’m a size 24 now. I feel like people will see me and not think “what a beautiful bride!” but “what a fat, disgusting cow! Couldn’t she even TRY to lose weight for her wedding day?!” Ugh. So, I get your disappointment! I just keep telling myself that as long as I think I look the best I can on the day of my wedding, what anyone else thinks doesn’t matter. I’ll be wearing a gorgeous dress, with an Amazing hair-do, and fab makeup and be marring someone I love to a billion forevers. Anything beyond that is inmaterial. Easier said then done, but I hope I’ll be too happy the day of to think of it.
Post # 9
I haven’t lost any weight either. I’m a size 26 and it sucks, I want to lose the weight but I have ZERO motivation. Losing weight is hard, and expensive.
Post # 10
I think that so many brides are set up by the whole, “You must look perfect on your wedding day,” thing. Weddings are stressful. Stress often tends to cause you to gain weight. And yet we somehow expect that brides will manage to lose weight at the same time as going through all that stress.
And I will also say, on your wedding day, how happy you are to be getting married will shine through. I have one picture of us as we started the recessional, obviously thrilled and with eyes only for each other. Regardless of my size, that is a picture I will cherish.
Post # 11
My wedding was 3 weeks ago and I didn’t lose the weight I’d planned. A year before the wedding, I was in great shape but lost the motivation and gained 6 or 7 pounds in the 8 months between engagement and wedding. I always assumed I would be super-motivated to exercise and eat well before my wedding, but it was almost the opposite: all my resolve seemed to go right out the window! And, while I tend to be a non-eater in times of stress, the particular brand of wedding stress increased my appetite like nothing ever.
But…I can tell you honestly, it didn’t matter and I don’t care even one little bit. I had a great wedding, and I felt like a beautiful bride. When I see the photos, I definitely notice that I’m not as slim and fit as I’d hoped to be, but much more than that, I notice how radiant and happy I look and I remember what an amazing day it was.
Please don’t beat yourself up — it won’t help! Be kind to yourself and enjoy your wedding to the fullest. You’re going to be gorgeous, I promise!
Post # 12
I also completely understand. When Fiance and I started dating, I was a size 12/14 and then ballooned to a size 22 when we moved in together.
We have been engaged for almost a year and a half, and I have hardly lost a thing. I am not striving to be a skinny minny either, but I just want to look more like myself. I look in the mirror and I just don’t feel my best. If I had always been this size, that would be different. But I feel like I am in this body I am not comfortable with. The wedding is in 5 months, and I am trying like mad to even just get to a size 16/18. I am disappointed in myself for leaving this so late.
Post # 13
Its funny how you feel alone in the world sometimes.
I feel the exact same way…. I have been batteling the 20lbs i gained after I met my Fiance. Ive lost nothing… maybe a whole 3 lbs…
I have never had less motivation than i do now. I dont understand…this is such a big day and I am so afraid imgoing to look at the photos and be completely grossed out with myself.
My mother is no help…i know she is trying to motivate me…but she keeps telling me how devestated im going to be that i didnt loose the weight…and how much im going to regret it when i see my pictures…
I am soooo sad…i feel like me not taking care of myself has somewhat ruined the day already… sigh…
Post # 14
Have you read this? http://apracticalwedding.com/2010/07/a-way-to-weigh-what-you-weigh-when-you-wed/
It helped me feel about a billion times better about my own situation. I’m also a plus sized bride and it can be really hard. The other thing I try to do is find other pictures of plus sized brides, and seeing how beautiful and happy they are makes me tear up and gives me hope 🙂 There are lots of beautiful brides on this site: http://plumageblog.com/
Post # 15
Can I join the club!
I haven’t lost anything yet 🙁 but I still have 3 months left. I really want to lose it though!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 16
What a great article liltwinstar!