Post # 1
I recently married my husband 5 weeks ago after being together for four years. Is it strange that now we are married I feel like we have “permission” to have sex, even though we lived together before marriage! neither of us are particularly religious but I don’t want to initiate sex all the time and put my husband under any pressure to perform. Any advice?
Post # 2
nerdybride121: I don’t have any advice for you as I never had that issue. I see no problem with you initiating sex some of the time. It’s not bad to. Men like that as well, I would say my husband and I equally initiate sex. You shouldn’t feel bad or guilty about having sex before y’all were married either.
Post # 3
If he’s not initiating sex, talk to him about it. My SO used to go through periods where his anxiety was bad, and just wouldn’t initiate for awhile. After I talked to him about it (over a year ago now), we’ve been very even initiators 😉
Post # 4
We didn’t have sex before marriage but I am in the same position as you and I usually initiate the sex. There are times when I do find this frustrating and I do not know if he doesn’t initiate because he is afraid to or if he just doesn’t think about it. Usually when I initiate he very rarely says no so it isn’t that he doesn’t want it.
I have personally learnt that the best way for to the two of us to have sex is for me to just ask him out right and a while beforehand. It may not be romantic but if he says no when we aren’t “getting in the mood” it’s better because there is less frustration.