Post # 1
My dad passed when I was little and my mom is not herself anymore after a lot of drug abuse issues. The only communication we have (despite living in the same town) is through the mail and its always very emotionally abusive stuff. I have been having a really hard time with the idea that she will not be at my wedding this year (even though I know its for the best). Anyone else dealing with something similar?
Post # 3
@bbridetobee: My father passed away from a drug overdoes 24 years ago when I was 9.
My mother choose to not attend my wedding, she is in the same situation as your mother, but mine is also sick on top of it. My wedding was 12 days ago. I had a wonderful beautiful day.
You are not alone, just stay strong, your day will be perfect, its not about our past its about our future with our husbands. 🙂 hugs…..
Post # 4
@bbridetobee: My dad’s parents werent around by choice and he decided to forgive them but not let it ruin his day. So perhaps you have some friends parents who you are close to? Could they stand for you?
Post # 5
Both my parents moved onto the spirit world a couple years before my wedding. I am adopted and my relationship with my birth mother came a very dramatic ending a year and half before my wedding. So no parents… it was devastating for me. Hugs… my heart goes out to you. Though I did honour my parents in many ways on our special day to include them
Post # 6
Neither set of parents was at our wedding. NotFroofy is not in communication with any of her family. I’m not in communication with my mother, and my father would not come if my mother was not invited. We had a lovely ceremony with my brother and his wife, my sister, my two children, my ex-husband and his sister, and four close friends selected by NotFroofy. Yes, it would be nice if our family situations were different, but we both knew they weren’t going to magically improve for our wedding.
Post # 7
I feel your pain. I lost both my parents when i was little, my mum to cancer, my dad to suicide. It helps me to keep a part of me with them for my big day. When my mum dies, she let me cut some of her hair and gave me her locket that she was given when she was a little girl, and i put a photo of my mum and her lock of hair and the same for my dad on the other side. That way, when i feel the locket aginst my heart when i’m saying my vows, i know that they are there with me, always.