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Anyone else going to be without their Husband on New Year's Eve?

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    2bMrsG    October 13, 2011   Pittsburgh, PA (Las Vegas Wedding)

    I've been really down lately cuz it's looking like my new Husband is going to have to work on New Year's Eve from 12-8 AM (he normally works graveyard shift hours) which means that we won't even be together to share a kiss at midnight. Having someone to kiss on New Year's Eve has always been kinda a big deal to me in the past and it's a bigger deal to me now that this will be our first Married New Year's Eve. I'm not having an easy time dealing with this and I could really use some support from other ladies that are going through the same thing. What are your plans? I have no idea what I'm going to do and I don't just want to sit at home alone. I know I should still try to have a fun time, but I don't have very many close friends that I regularly hang out with. Plus, I think that I will just be sad without my Husband. He can't get the night off cuz it's their busiest night of the year so they don't allow anyone to request off. He also can't just go in to work late cuz he will get negative attendance points against him and he has applied for a few jobs in other departments (which are day shifts) so I don't want him to risk not getting those jobs.

    My Husband will be working on Christmas as well, but I really don't like Christmas much anyway and at least we'll be together for most of the day.

     

     

     

     
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    Grizz    December 2, 2011  

    Me! My husband is a police officer and works overnights as well. He'll have to go in at 10 p.m. I'm pretty bummed since NYE is one of my favorite holidays. I might ask him to take his lunch break at midnight so I can at least kiss him! Smile

     
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    MissGreen    July 2009  

    I'm sorry! I'm a nurse and I've worked the last 3 years on NYE so I know the feeling. I normally don't care about the night but I wanted our first married NYE to be special but nope, at work. Our friends in town usually host something so he has always gone there then called me at 12. Keep your chin up, I know it sucks but try to have fun with your friends.

     
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    My plans are - I'm the one who is working! Life goes on and people expect 24/7/365 healthcare and emergency services.

     
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    moorelove    November 1, 2011  

    I'm sorry you won't be with your husband for NYE! I'll be alone too but I'll miss NYE and every other holiday in 2012 with my hubby since he'll be deployed.

     
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    saraja87    March 26, 2011   Los Angeles

    I usually miss New Years and Christmas with my DH as well. Pretty much all the holidays I get off, he has to work. This will be our first married New Years and he'll be working the 30th, 31st, 1st and 2nd. It sucks but I'm just glad he has a job!

     
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    NearlyMrsMac    January 2008  

    It's hard not to have your hubby around for New Years - especially when you want it to be special because it is your first married New Years and spend it together. Can you make plans with family or friends? It will be good if you can make plans to enjoy it a bit, and then maybe have your own NYE celebration on another night with your hubby? 

     

    My hubby is currently deployed, he left at the beginning of November and isn't home until the end of March, so we are apart for our first Christmas and New Year as a married couple and to be honest, it sucks, I know how you feel and it's eugh! I am just trying to avoid thinking about Christmas and New Year to be honest - no decorations or tree are going up because I want us to do that together next year as it is the first time we have lived together as well (long distance dating/engagement) so it feels like we should do it together, so next year, hopefully, we will have the chance. I am planning on spending Christmas and New Year with family and hoping it goes quickly!

    Try and make plans if you can, know that others are thinking of you and give your hubby a big NYE celebration on the 1st maybe?

     
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    TurtleDoves    July 18, 2010   Toledo,Ohio

    Can you meet him at work? I'd pull up there for a smooch at midnight:)

     
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    trugem    January 2011  

    I would try to go to his job. Last year was our first NYE apart, but that was because we got married on NYD. Which made everything extra romantic since the first time seeing him all year was when I was walking down the aisle. 

     
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    kerensa    May 20, 2013   Ohio

    Can you meet him at work, or drive him to work so you can still share a kiss?

    If not, keep in mind that's it's New Year's every hour for 24 hours in every different time zone. Maybe you can just celebrate a French New Year's Eve at 6pm or a New Years in Hawaii at 8am (or whatever) and do something special.

    Or try to think of it this way, he is spending your first New Years as a traditional husband, providing for your family. If you have to forgo the tradition of having someone to kiss, maybe that's OK this year. Perhaps you can work on a new tradition for New Years Day (kissing him before he goes off to work?)

     
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    brighteyedgirl    August 31, 2012   Ontario, Canada

    I'll be without FI again, this year. He's a chef, and always works New Years Eve--it's one of their busiest nights. Such is life, though.. I'm used to his bad-bad-bad hours. I don't like them, though, lol.

     
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    SummerGirl21    June 12, 2010  

    Yes...my DH is a police officer and I'm used to him working on NYE.  I think he's been off for 2 of the 7 New Years Eves we've been together.  I usually go out to dinner with his family or mine and spend the evening with them so atleast I'm not alone.  Last year however, it was just me and the dog :)

     
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    noenyu    October 6, 2011  

    kerensa beat me to it! lol. Can you go visit/hang out with him for a bit. Maybe bring him a small lunch of New Years Eve goodies?

    As for me, I'll be spending it with family but not my husband. Still a LDR for this one so it is a bit lonely but hopefully not next year. Smile

     
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    2bMrsG    October 13, 2011   Pittsburgh, PA (Las Vegas Wedding)

    Thanks guys! It's comforting to know that I'm not the only one around here going through this. Unfortunately, I can't go see him at his work cuz the area that he works is employees only (Plus, he doesn't get a break until 2 AM. His breaks are at set times only every night) and we currently don't have a car yet.

    I will probably hang out with some girl friends and try to have a good time, but all the girls I know are currently in relationships so they will have their guys with them. I will be the only one without someone to kiss at midnight. :-( I guess we will have to share our kiss right before he leaves for work.

    My family never really celebrates New Years Eve and My sister will be in Las Vegas at the time with her Husband and friends.

     

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