Post # 1
I am just wondering if I’m the only looney tune out here – with just under 4 months to my wedding I feel like I can’t reach 10 am with out a meltdown that reduces me to tears – weather it be a whole hearted crying fit or just a stress relieveing single tear…lol
Is anyone else stressed? If so, what about and how are you handeling it?
Right now my biggest thing is getting tasks completesd that I have delegated out – I wonder sometimes if I should have taken the advice of "Delegate, delegate, delagate" because it is really extra stressful in my case.
Post # 3
Really? I’ve found that wedding planning is a lot less stressful than I had feared. If you find yourself wanting to cry by 10am every day, that is very worrisome!
Honestly, people aren’t going to care about all these little details that you’re stressing yourself over. They just want to be there to see you get married, and if you give them a nice meal, all the better.
Favors, matching colors, personalized napkins — all of these little things range from laughable to forgettable. It’s really not that big a deal.
Post # 4
I just started taking an herbal supplement that my Dr. said would help with stress. My eye has finally stopped twitching.
Post # 5
I’ve had a few moments like that, but I’m still ~7 months away!
I would suggest remembering what SandpaperTongue said, the details are really for you, not the guests. Everryone will have an awesome time regardless. 🙂
Post # 6
I am having a lot of fun… but I guess I am really lucky. We have no overbearing relatives – my mom is wonderful and FMIL is a sweetheart – we’re paying for everything ourselves and have the money already set aside and at the end of the day I know that I, my fiance, and the 20 people who really matter will be there with an open bar. Partaay! Of course I could dwell on the negative like ordering STDs hating them and starting over or the fact that our respective fathers may crash the wedding, but meh, life is too short to be upset.
Post # 7
Well I am having A LOT of fun, it just seem the closer I get, the closer together the stress comes.
I just wish I wouldn’t have delegated out things 🙂 Especially my invites, because if they don’t get printed (which is the big issue still for me) then no one will be at the wedding….LOL.
Thanks gals, I’m glad I’m not alone on the stress express
Post # 8
I’ve had moments where I feel so overwhelmed with things to do but my very blessed that my FI is the calm one. He reminds me that the major stuff has been taken cared of. We usually go out and do non-wedding things. We try to set a day where we don’t talk about it. I find that it helps but everywhere I go people would ask me a billion questions about our wedding. Like my co-worker for instance could not stop asking me questions about my wedding and hers (coming up this summer) I feel bad but to not go crazy I usually give her really short answers. It’s bad enough I’m stressing over mine I don’t want to stress about hers too. LoL
Post # 9
I’m really bad about delegating. I haven’t delegated out one thing yet, and I don’t plan on it.
My mom always said you can’t count on anyone except yourself. That is not usually true, but I don’t want to experiment with my wedding!
I hope your invites get printed, as I’m sure they will.
Post # 10
Everything that I delegated ended up not getting done until I did it myself at the last minute, so really delegating caused me WAY more stress than doing it myself.
I am now 11 days away, and the stress is pretty much gone. Things have already started going wrong (one bridesmaid has told me that she can’t make it to help us decorate the hall for our AHR until 3 hrs before it starts, one groomsman shaved his head, and another bridesmaid had the skirt of her dress taken in 4 inches on either side because she thought it was "too poufy"), but I figure that there’s just no point in stressing about it at this point because there’s not really anything I can do about it.
BTW, this calm attitude has really only come about in the last week or so…before that, I too was a looney tune.
Post # 11
It’s amazing how once you reach a certain point, the stress seems to fade. It seems like the less there is to do, the less stress there is. I have 25 more days to go, and a handful of things to finish. My problem is I keep going back over the details and making changes. Must…stop…doing….that….
So don’t worry sweeney2be, it will get better before your married.
(hehe, that’s what my dad used to always saw when I a kid and got hurt!) ok, small tear there.
Post # 12
if you’re crying before 10am everyday, or even every other day – not a good sign!! i
know you’re having issues with the invites being printed and the church returning your calls, but take it easy! it’ll all fall into place when it’s supposed to.
sometimes, based on your posts and the "frantic" tone in your posts, it seems like you’re trying to put a square peg in a round hole – i know it’s easier said than done, but relax!!
really as a bm and a guest, i cannot remember any of the details from the color of invites to what i had for dinner – all i remember is that the couple looked so happy and there was so much love in the room.
the rest of it – like the matching napkins to the favors to the place cards – nobody cares and nobody will remember
let go and just relax
Post # 13
We’re 5 1/2 weeks out from the big day and everyone seems to be shocked that we’re not stressed out. We are too happy and excited to be stressed about details. However I did find myself debating today in the store about whether or not the candle holders in my cart were the right shade of blue. Finally I came to my senses and realized it doesn’t matter if they don’t match perfectly. Just try to keep the prespective that getting married is the important part, not the details.
Post # 14
I am so stressed. 2 weeks away!
Post # 15
I am grinding my teeth in my sleep. I don’t recommend it as a way of dealing with stress. My dentist is ordering me some kind of orthotic to wear while I sleep to make my jaw less sore. Arrrgh.
Sweeney, I love your Becoming Bridezilla countdown from your website. It’s wonderful. It really reduced my stress level late last night, as it made me laugh so hard my cats had to come downstairs and see what the heck was going on.
Post # 16
I’m right there with you — mine comes in the form of nightmares and a strong desire to blog. In the nightmares my wedding guests suddenly become zombies and the entire wedding party has to run away from the zombies!!