Anyone else had to beg their SO for a Valentines Day?

posted 3 years ago in Holidays
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Sometimes I think we just have to accept them for who they are. I wish for the same things you do, but I guarantee nothing would have happened for ours had I not bought him a gift and he felt guilted into getting me one basically. He isn’t even sort of romantic, but he is a good guy who treats me well and we love each other. So i just get my romance from Books or movies. I learned long ago that most guys are just not that romantic, and you can’t really force it. You either learn to live with it or leave. I know how frustrating it is, i have my moments where I am super frustrated too. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I definitely feel u! But after 6 years with DH I have learned to accept and love him the way he is. He isnt the most romantic or sweet/thoughtful man, but he is extremely patient, good-hearted, adorable, intelligent, and still treats me very well so I shouldnt complain because he doesnt get me flowers often and he knows I dont care much for chocolate lol. This year I told him No gifts for V day ( we just bought a house and have a baby on the way so I have everything a girl could want/need) but I ended up getting him a couple small gifts. He did bring home flowers which were beautiful. I am blessed and happy. But yes I did see all the fb posts get a tinge of jealousy for a minute. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@ChicoryCreek:  It sounds like you might be getting too distracted by the way OTHER couples do things.  Try focusing instead on the good in YOUR relationship.

The PP made a good point about acceptance.  Sending valentines flowers or a gift card for a manicure may just not interest or inspire your FI.  On the grand scale of things that is such a minimally important thing in life IMO.  Think about the special things he DOES do, any time of year.

I celebrated valentines day for the first time in my entire life last night (I have always been out of town in the past) by us both leaving work a little earlier than usual so we were home by 6, I made meatloaf, we shared a bottle of wine and watched House of Cards until we fell asleep.  It was the best!  Much better than going out or stressing out over shopping for unnecessary gifts.  Quality, relaxing time at home together was awesome.

i agree with you that cleaning your car would have been a nice thing to do.  Maybe you should give him a nudge for next year – or just for any random winter day.  Little things like that are important to do for each other OMO.

I bet Valentines Day causes a lot of hiccups in relationships across the country!  Don’t let this unimportant or artificial holiday win!  Why have a fight when you wouldn’t have otherwise? 

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