Post # 1
Are there any other bees out there that hate planning their wedding?
Don’t get me wrong, I love the idea of enjoying my wedding day when it arrives, but the planning part leading up to it is absolutely dreadful! If money were no object, I’d love to just pay and forget! I’d grab a seasoned planner and decorator, spill out my ideas and have them execute. That would be heavenly!
How are you ladies coping?
Post # 3
@Soon_To_Be_Mrs_: I hated planning so much that we jumped in the car and drove to Eureka Springs and got married, just the two of us! I wouldnt change it for the world!
Post # 4
@Soon_To_Be_Mrs_: Where are you located? I’m happy to help from afar, or offer suggestions on planners, caterers, florists, etc if you live close. I am an event planner (non-profit, not weddings) and LOVED planning my wedding. I think it’s sad when people don’t love the experience – it’s supposed to be FUN. Happy to help if I can!
Post # 5
I don’t know if I hate planning, but I just am at the point where the next 6 and 1/2 months seem sooooo long. I want to be married to the love of my life. Also, it’s getting cold and those 6 days at Sandles are calling my name so loud!!
Post # 6
@Soon_To_Be_Mrs_: Don’t get discouraged! More often than not, I hated the planning process and could not wait for it to be over. I am opposite of PP; I plan events for a living so I didn’t want to go home and plan even more. Now, I miss wedding planning! Never thought I would! Enjoy it while it lasts!
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2014 - The Cove Lakeside Resort
yes yes yes I am so tired of it!
Post # 8
I had SO much fun planning my wedding!
I hope my daughter feels like you do about it!
Post # 9
Yeah, I am not enjoying wedding planning, I find it very stressful. The big stuff was fairly easy, booking the caterer, hall, photographer, etc. But I hate all the little details. Mostly because they feel pointless to me. I don’t care about tablecloths, table runners, centerpieces, etc. If it were up to me we’d have a traditional wedding ceremony, with my FI in a suit and me in my big white dress, but the reception would be super casual, with FI in jeans and a T-shirt and me in a sundress. But our parents (who are paying for a good chunk of the wedding) vetoed that idea, so I continue planning even though I hate it.
Post # 10
Thanks everyone for your comments. I loved dress and suit shopping and the deciding on the larger items, like the venue and photographer selection was easy. I’m stressed when it comes to florists, DJs, chair rentals, etc… I find that my FI and I are very budget-conscious so we’re constantly speaking with MANY vendors for the same service to compare their rates. That’s the tedious part that I’m really dreading.
Post # 11
Much to my surprise I loved planning my wedding. But then we planned the whole thing in 3.5 weeks so there was no time for indecision or the sort of extras that neither of us were interested in. Which handily cut out chair covers, centrepieces, table-runners and that sort of stuff. We just organised our ceremony venue and paid someone to feed us all afterwards!
Post # 12
@Soon_To_Be_Mrs_: I’m not sure about ‘hate’, but I’m certainly not having loads of fun. It’s reached the point where I know I can’t share what fun things there are with anyone else and so I just avoid talking about it and in order to avoid talking about it I generally avoid thinking about it. I hope it will get better as it gets closer (we can’t book our venue and all the other stuff until Feb so there’s still a few more months of nothing really to do), but no I am having no where hear the fun that I thought I would be having at this stage of my life.
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my future fiance has already said that I can take the reins! I was like . She wants to be included, but she doesn’t want to deal with the stress.
Post # 15
@Soon_To_Be_Mrs_: I don’t know if I hate it per say, but I definitely haven’t enjoyed it like I thought I would. My family and friends and all 6 hours away from me, I don’t have any local girl friends and FI doesnt really want to do much wedding related stuff… So it’s been kinda lonely doung it all by myself if that makes sense?
Post # 16
It is much much more stressful than I expected. I am also EXTREMELY grateful that somehow despite us having no clue what we were doing, our amazing venue has the best planner ever, and we did the day of coordinator package that they have so that she would be able to help us, and she’s doing the table layouts, helped us know what rentals to get and how many of everything to order…I would be so lost without her.We got so lucky to have gotten the venue we did, because the staff are all amazing. I have no clue how anyone does all this stuff completely alone, manages all the vendors and chooses everything. It’s overwhelming.
Also, everything costs. so. much. money. SO MUCH. and we picked mid priced vendors! It’s crazy.
I can completely understand why people just say screw it and go courthouse wedding.
My coworker is planning at the same time and it’s nice to commiserate with someone over this whole process.