Post # 1
This may be incredibly stupid, but I hate surprises… I loathe them. I’m a Type A personality and control freak who tends to micro-manage everything. And my FILs know this, yet FSIL told me that she and FMIL have a “big surprise” for me that I’ll get by our wedding in two months. TWO MONTHS. And she said that she only told me so I could ‘think about it until the wedding.’ Really?
I don’t mean to sound rude or ungrateful, but I just hate not knowing things and I feel like they’re doing this on purpose, haha. Any other Bees hate surprises?
Post # 3
I hate suprises as well. They never seem to have the reaction in me that people want.
But then I like giving surprises so… I can’t complain too much. Just distract yourself with something else 🙂
Post # 4
I’m the same way. FI’s family is huge on surprises and are trying to break me of hating surprises, haha.
Post # 5
Hate hate hate them. Like if it’s an event I would much rather know where I’m going; what if we’re outdoors and I didn’t dress warm enough, or if it’s fancy and I dressed too casual, or if I didn’t know it was coming and I’m just not in the mood to go somewhere. If it’s just a “big surprise” I would at least want to know like is it an item, or a trip, or what? I don’t need to spoil the whole thing, but I need to know the basics. Should I be clearing my weekend or a spot on the coffee table?
Really I just like to be prepared for things.
Post # 6
I want to love surprises, I really do. But like you, I lean toward Type A and when I know there’s a surprise afoot I do everything in my power to figure it out. I also tend to dig stuff out/ruin surprises without even realizing it – I crushed my ex-FI a few times because I completely destroyed secret plans he had for stuff. Ha.
Post # 7
Kit_Kath: My first thought was that it’s something from my registry (Kitchen Aid mixer – I’ve been wanting on FOREVER because I bake a lot and hope to start selling my cupcakes soon), but she said it wasn’t. I asked if it was something to help decorate the wedding (FSIL is doing the flowers and decorating the reception room), but she said no. I’m a bit afraid because FSIL is planning my bachelorette and FMIL is looking for a good deal on a honeymoon for us (that we are paying for) because she used to be a travel agent… it could be anything.
Post # 8
Same here! I detest surprises of any kind. I’m impatient and curious and I like to be prepared (aka, control freak). My family and friends all know how I feel and they (mostly) respect my wishes.
@Kit_Kath: I completely agree!
Post # 9
I hate surprises, and I think thats why I’m so nervous about my rehearsal dinner — FI had to twist his mother’s arm to even tell us what the meal would be!
Post # 10
I am totally type A also… No one can ever get a surprise past me… I always find out. Hopefully wedding planning will take your mind off it and you will LOVE it whatever it is!
Post # 11
I HATE surprises as well. It awful to say but I always say that I probably won’t like it if I don’t already know what it is. I’m just very picky about things and schedules so I like to be in the know.
I MIL is famous for just “springing” things on me and calling it a surprise. It’s her way of saying, “I know that you won’t enjoy/like this so I’m doing/giving it anyway and calling it a surprise so you feel obligated to like it”
Post # 12
@RoyalLime: Same here!!! It’s sad really.
Post # 13
I hate them, too. Never have enjoyed them. I think it’s mean for someone to know this about you & tell you there is a surprise.
Post # 14
Aww… I LOVE surprises! I would be SO excited… But my FSIL and FMIL are fairly trustworthy, so that could be different for you!
Post # 15
I like small surprises, but wouldn’t like something like a surprise party. It would just make me anxious.
Post # 16
@Mimoza: Eh, I have learned to embrace it. Plus all my friends come to me for organizing/planning/ surprises so it’s nice to know my “flaw” is accepted 🙂