Post # 1
I hate saying it. I usually stumble over it trying to think of something else to say. One reason I’m looking forward to getting married is that I wont’ have to say fiance anymore!
It always reminds me of that Seinfeld when Elaine was at a party and some woman said “fiance” twice in every sentence, driving Elaine to make athe comment, “Maybe the dingo ate your baby.”
Anyone else hate saying this? Ideas on another word to use? Or is it something we have to suffer through until we’re married?
Post # 3
Me too! It has always sounded snotty to me. I like “future intended”, or just “boyfriend”, or his name, depending on the situation.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Me too. I wish we had a native English word to use instead. Fiance really does sound pretentious.
Post # 5
It doesn’t bother me. But I like the word “husband” a lot better, lol. Can’t wait!
Post # 6
I love the word. Then again, I had to use “boyfriend” for 7 years and I HATED using boyfriend. I hated sharing the same term for the man I knew I was spending my life with with 12 year olds who go out for 2 hours and get the same title.
Fiancee to me says “I am committed to this and we’re almost there.” Boyfriend says “who knows if this is serious or if this is just a fling?”
Post # 7
I hate it too because when I say fiance at times it can seem like I’m trying direct the conversation to wedding and honestly I am not the kind of bride that is always trying to interject “wedding” into the conversation.
Post # 8
Mee!!! I never use it. Spanish is my first language and they dont use it. You go from being gf to wife. There is a word for “betrothed” but its sort of archaic.
Post # 9
I don’t like it. Sounds too frou frou for me. I just say my FI’s name most of the time. I also can’t help but think of the same Seinfeld episode every time I say it.
Post # 10
Right! I get what you’re saying @MrsFutureG: about having another term, I just wish it wasn’t a French term in the middle of an English sentence. It sounds so stupid.
FI and I went to Quebec last weekend. When I said it in the middle of a French sentence, it sounded so much better. But what the heck are we supposed to say, “betrothed?”
Post # 11
I say boyfriend instead of fiance. I heard somewhere that saying fiance turns the conversation to the wedding, which I’ve found to be true.
Post # 12
Never been a fan of that word either and I LOVE that Seinfeld episode! I also don’t like the word boyfriend because he is soo much more than that.
I usually call FI either by his first name or I use the word ‘partner’. He calls me wife and has for a few years…lol
Post # 13
@redheadem: Yes, and I find the fact that the conversation turning to the wedding is very annoying (WHEN IS IT, WHERE IS IT??) because we haven’t set a date or picked a venue. My FIANCE (eww) is still trying to sort out whether or not he wants to elope like I do, have a small wedding with just family, or have a larger one. I hate having to go through this conversation every time.
Post # 14
me! I’m not sure if it is because it’s a french word or the tone of the word or what. At first I used boyfriend unless I felt the need to publicise our relationship to someone. Now I use it a little more naturally, but I still don’t like the word!
Post # 15
@mrsSonthebeach: YES! I always stumble over it. Maybe because its so new and feels weird still. But i feel like a snob. You cant say fiancee without it soundling like your trying to rub it in.
@Tangled: I love Seinfeld. There is an episode that relates to every day of life lol
Post # 16
I don’t think I could introduce him IRL as my “fiance”. I feel ridiculous even saying boyfriend at this point in my life. Now, “husband”….that’s hot. Soon…