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How short do you think is too short? I'm putting my maids in cocktail length. You can see their knees! *gasp!*
LOL! No, that's fine. Just once in a while I see one that's tight and way below where their hands hit (non-Catholic school approved) and look more like a NYE club party dress than a wedding dress. The kind of dress you're embarassesd for them....
(My girls hit right around the knees too, but they're also fuller a-line skirts.)
i know what you mean! i also hate it when i see super deep cleaveages with boobies almost touching the bridesmaids' chins! that's why i will be choosing my bridesmaid dresses to avoid too much unnecessary skin.
@kjpugs...I am so afraid of this with my sister...she went with me and tried on some cocktail length dresses and said if only I could shorten it a bit. It's gonna be a fight to get her to keep it longer...my sis can be a bit of a diva and thinks anything shorter is better.
Ah, but you know what's worse? Wearing your cute, scoop-neck cocktail dress (hem respectably above the knee but still below the fingertips) and feeling super awesome at your future sister-in-law's wedding. Then seeing the pictures from the wedding and realizing that because you're tall and a bit busty you look half dressed next to shorter, smaller girls. -_-* Yeeeeah. In defense of people who have accidentally looked a little inappropriate, sometimes we don't realize it until the pictures come back. ^_^ lol.
But I agree--sometimes it's easier to tell if something is a bit too revealing if you're not the one wearing it. ^_^
One of my friends who's also a bride is letting people choose, but she's giving them parameters. She said she doesn't want anyone in strapless dresses and the dresses have to hit the knee. Hopefully that'll keep all of the BMs tastefully dressed.
I let my BM's choose their dresses.. but I helped them all pick.. This was in part because my cousin likes to wear very low-cut shirts and I wanted to make sure "the girls" were covered for my wedding.
lol to "non-catholic school approved". hilarious way to put it!
yes i've seen those pictures too! but i think if you're letting your bridesmaids pick, you should know them enough before hand that you should have an idea of their style/if they would be tasteful or want something short/tight/low cut. i let my girls pick and didn't have any worries. my moh actually gave me guidelines saying that she wanted straps (her chest is a bit larger than most) and no mini skirts.
It doesn't bother me at all. As i am letting my bridesmaids pick dresses, I am expecting a particular bridesmaid to come to me with a short, hot strapless dress I'm getting married in a hotel downtown though,so I see no reason to be conservative in that setting. If I was getting married in a church then maybe. My gown is really low cut with a low back so I can't really say anything.
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I have never seen a short bridesmaid dress! Guess either the brides have gotten lucky or they handled it without mentioning it. It is tacky, just because you don't know who will be attending and you don't want to offend anyone. A longer dress never hurt anyone and it still can be sexy, if that's the look they want. I originally told my girls that they could pick their dresses (until they felt it was too much pressure and made me pick it anyway lol) but I gave them kinda strict guidelines. I told them the color it had to be, the material it needed to be and the length. It sounds tough but really it left them with like 50 dresses to choose from.
I think alot of girls forget that they're in a church and need to be respectful of that, even if they don't agree with the religion itself. I totally get where you're coming from, though. I have a friend that I thought I was going to ask as a bridesmaid (til we had a huge falling out), and I was worried about her tendency to let the girls hang out to the point of being vulgar.
I get this to some extent, but let's not forget that sometimes it is the brides who choose the dress and don't take into consideration that some of their BMs are busty. It's not a girl's fault if she got put in a dress that puts her boobies on display.
I totally agree! I let my only bridesmaid (matron of honor) pick her own dress. But, seeing as she was going to be 8 months pregnant at the wedding, I wasn't too concerned about what her choice would be!
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Soory, the message should have been this:
*Just a precursor to my post: I am not trying to offend anyone who is Ukrainian, this is just an observation that I've see while visiting both Kyiv and L'viv*
About a month ago I visited L'viv and while there, my friend and I saw over a dozen brides. At least 4 of them had bridesmaids dressed similar to this to the hopefully attached picture. So I think it is also what culture you come from that determines what bridemaids wear. Because this is perfectly appropriate attire in Ukraine.
hmmm this doesn't really bother me but that's probably because most of the wedding I've attended have not been at a place of worship. I don't really see anything wrong with shorter dresses as long as they are not also low cut and totally revealing everywhere else. What bothers me more is when BMs are spilling out of dresses on top. I think most large busted girls are very conscious of what's appropriate for their chest so often times I feel like it's the bride not being sensetive to their needs. I was at a wedding about 2 years ago where the BMs all had dresses with very low backs. there was just no way to wear a bra with them. The bride and most of the BMs were very small chested but two BMs had much larger chests and it did not look good. That's an understatement actually. It was horrible and I could tell they were uncomfortable.
@Kittyachi I agree... I have a large chest and have not been a BM before, but would feel really put out if I was and she picked something like a halter- I would hope I would feel ok to say something about the gals, LOL! I agree too with @SpinningJenny... I've been in that situation before! And I'm sure a bunch of the BM's I've seen didn't realize how overly-short their dresses were.
I have a few pictures but I don't want to post since they're real weddings! And I don't want to insult. It seems like a lot of the trend right now is a classy tea-length though (and STRAPS!) so I haven't seen it tooo much recently, yay!
I chose 4 dresses, and let my BMs pick from those. I hadn't even thought about this potentially being a problem, but I guess my approach effectively made it a moot point anyway.
Never seen that before anywhere even online. I'm inclined to think it's not really a bridesmaid dress but a club dress that someone decided would be a good idea to wear instead. No idea. What does bother me is the plethora of dresses (both for brides and bridesmaids) that are cut so low that their boobs are spilling out and no one seems to care how trashy they look. The pregnant Kardashian sister in a picture that's floating around is a great example of that.
user crebre80 posted this pic on another post and it reminded me exactly of what I'm talking about... the dresses are too tight, Kourtney is showing WAY too much boobage, especially for being pregnant, and the light purple dresses (I think those are the half sisters?) are WAYYY TOO SHORT! That is the exact "too short" I am talking about... it might be trendy and look cute on the runway but I don't know that it translates well for weddings.
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and those kardashians are usually so modest! what happened?? lol. and aren't the girls in the short dresses like 12? yikes.
LOL-ing HARDCORE @ "and those kardashians are usually so modest! what happened??"
Maybe since they are half sisters, they only get half a dress!
the dresses really shouldn't go any further then right above the knee... otherwise they look like you are going to a high school dance or a sweet sixteen.. not cute!
Wow those dresses are trashy. Not feeling the miniskirt bubble hem.
My girls had dresses on that went slightly above their knees (two inches to be exact--we made them to that length) because, honestly, they're more reweearable! They're definitely NOT clubby though.
Tight, short, low cut...put them all together and you get something less appropriate for a wedding. There is always a way to pick ONE asset to show off and look nice. You can show off nice legs without being too promiscuous or vice versa.
I think it's worse when brides pick tight dresses and expect their bridesmaids to stuff themselves into them. The last wedding I went to, the poor bridesmaids were just not happy to be stuffed into a dress like that. THey were uncomfortable and pulling them up all night and it looked terribly unclassy. A halter style, straps, or a bolero would have fixed the dress faux pas!
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Bridesmaid dresses that are too short???
I feel horrible saying this, but I think going along with the "let them pick their own dresses" thing you get a lot of non-bridesmaid dresses (I did jcrew so I appreciate non-bridesmaid dresses myself!) But some of these dresses are a little.... SHORT! And kind of look trashy!
Anyone else cringe when looking at pictures of peoples' wedding and seeing a bridesmaid who is showing off a little too much (and not just in short-ness, but sometimes in other areas) in a place of worship? Same goes for guests, ugh... sometimes people dress like they're going to the clubs, not a wedding!
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