(Closed) Anyone else have a BM that refuses to wear any kind of dress?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

What does she normally wear if she has to go somewhere formal?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

All I can think is have her wear black palazzo pants with a beautiful hunter green top – it will be striking 🙂

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

First off – I think it is terrible of your sister to be causing a fuss about this, no matter how much she hates dresses.  When you accept the position of bridesmaid, you are agreeing to wear whatever the bride wants you to wear – whether you like it or it’s your style or not.  So I think the if you want them all in dresses than you should make her wear a dress or let her know that unfortunately she won’t be able to be your MOH.

That said, if you are willing to compromise on the dress thing (I wouldn’t be but that’s your call) than I really like unixfairy‘s suggestion of nice black pants and a dressy top that will coordinate with the other BMs.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

@unixfairy: I agree to this, that would be beautiful 🙂

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

I am asking about what she normally wears because if its an issue of fancy, formal vs pants or dresses, you may have more of a battle than you bargained for.  If she expects to wear jeans, then palazzo pants are not going to fly.  That being said, I don’t know her age or style but palazzo pants definitely seem to appeal to the over 50 crowd where I am from.  She may not be so into that either.

Can you give us more info please?

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

It’s nice of you to try to compromise, but I kinda feel like it’s within your rights to say “Listen, if you won’t wear a dress than you can’t be in the wedding party”. Thats harsh but would it kill her?! Could you tell her that after the ceremony and pictures she can change into whatever she wants? That might be a good middle ground.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

If she’s very stylish, can you just ask her what she had in mind?

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

@Oribel013690: I would have a sit down with her. Does she want to wear a womans suit to your wedding? Is a long dress an option? I understand not being comfortable in a dress, and I think it’s awesome that you are looking for other options, but there’s gotta be some sort of compromise…

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

Problem solved…black slim cut satin pants (like tuxedo pants), festive heels or ballet flats, hunter shirt. 

As an aside of love women’s tuxedos.  She could look super classy in that.

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Honey bee

I can definitely understand where she’s coming from since I was the same way when I was younger where getting me in a dress was like pulling teeth. Generally, I’m way more comfortable in pants (I refuse to do palazzos) but I’ll wear a dress if the situation requires as long as I am 100% comfy in the style (I don’t do short dresses either).

If you force her, she will be resentful and it will show on the day of and in pictures. I don’t see why a green suit would not work or would make her look boyish. Ellen DeGeneres wore a suit to marry in and she didn’t look masculine in the least so that is definitely an inspiration to look into.

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