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I dont know about other brides out there, but I am so over this long engagement!
2 1/2 yrs to be exact and we have over a year down already. We are doing a small destination wedding in Jamaica in april of next year. We booked a trip this year to see the resort and start planning. We dont even have the exact date yet because we have to wait to meet with the coordinator when we get there.
I AM SO READY TO START PLANNING! I cant wait to try on a dress, and start purchasing things! ugh!
Anticipation sucks!
What are other brides doing to stay busy??
We are! Our engagement officially, to us, happened in October - it was a mutual decision we made. We told family and close friends, but since we're broke college students he is just sending the final payments for the ring now, and wants to do an "official proposal."
Either way, we're planning on getting married in June of 2012, after we graduate from our undergrad, so we have quite a way to go! I've been doing a lot of research, but I'm getting so frustrated at not being close enough to buy a dress, etc. We are going to visit venues soon, though, some of the popular ones around here book up 1 1/2-2 years in advance.
Our engagement will be a year and a half in total...I didn't start planning until the one year mark! So I waited 6 months...I was anxious to get started! At least you'll know exactly what you want by the time you start!
Our engagement is 25 months. I needed that amount of time, I couldn't plan a wedding and buy a house in a year.
Ours will be a year and a half. Not too long but definitely not a quicky. I just did a lot of research on vendors and what to expect, how to negotiate, stuff like that. I also found as many pics of things I liked so I could remember them when the time came.
By the time April rolls around, Ill have the whole wedding planned out in my head! ha.
I havent tried on any dresses at all. I wanted to wait to see the different areas on the resort before I made any big decisions.....
Our resort has some ancient ruins from the 1800's on it and you can get married there. We are going for the vintage feel based on that. If we cant do it there, everything changes!
I am so impatient. This year has dragged! now gotta wait another year! ugh
21 months total!
I didn't wait to start planning and it's been the best thing. I love not stressing. All our major vendors are booked with more than 6 months to go. All the fun stuff is left to do. : )
Our engagement will be one year and nine months. I wasn't that anxious to start planning though. I probably didn't really start to get into it until a little over a year before the wedding. I was happy just being engaged for a while and not dealing with planning.
28 months! We're getting married in November! I wanted to be mostly done with my Master's before we got married. For the first year I really didn't do wedding related stuff. I kept way way way too busy with school, work and coaching. I definitely felt the itch to plan though!
Our was 21 months--pretty long! But it went by soooo fast! Just fill your head with lots and lots of inspiration for now. The time to make real decisions will come sooner than you think!
If you count from the time he asked me with a promise ring, then...8 years...If you count, from the time i got the REAL ring,.....3 years.....
Ours will be a month shy of two years. We were going to get married this summer, which would have been a one year engagement, but we just didn't have the time to plan and stuff was going on and yadda yadda yadda. I do get antsy.
I have friends who will be engaged for just shy of three years! He popped the question while they were in undergrad, and they wanted to take their time and finish school and buy a house.
ours is just shy of 2 years- July 2008. He was in school when he proposed and is just finishing this April. we wanted to wait until he was done school. i booked my church four months after our engagement as I knew it is a popular church with beautiful grounds. then i waited 1 year until i started really planning and dress shopping. in the mean time if I was you - SAVE $$$$$
Wow! Ours is a year and 1/2 long engagement, and I thought that was long! Apparently, it's just about nothing compared to some other ones!
man! I guess I am not the only one! that is comforting :)
I have created a 2 page list of questions for the coordinator when we get there! poor lady has no idea what she is in for! ha.
Our engagement is 28 months long...ive brewed up lots of questions!
About 2 years. Get this-initially our engagement was supposed to be a year so I started planning and booking venues. We found out he's getting deployed for a year so now the wedding is pushed back another year. It was so hard to plan full force and get all excited and now I have to sort of 'chill'. Hopefully I'll get inspired with lots of DIY projects and bride's suggestions for things to do while my honey is overseas and I'm here patiently waiting!!
We got engaged December 19th, 2008. We were planning on getting married November 7th but one of my best friends got married October 24th & I just decided I wanted to post pone the wedding because 1. It was coming WAY too fast, & 2. It ran together with my friends & I didn't want any sort of competition with our weddings.
We post poned it to March & I'm glad we did! We had I guess about a year & 3 month engagement! Not too long, but it seemed to be the perfect amount of time for us.
It may be two years or more, depending on where we are job-wise and whether or not I decide to go to grad school right after my intended graduation next spring. It's frustrating- I know two people who got engaged after me and are getting married way before- it gets a little frustrating! I want to pick out my dress so badly. Ah well, it's worth the wait. :)
Ours was a year and 7 month, so sort of long, but certainly not as long as others! We wanted a longer engagement because we wanted plenty of time to save $$$ without being stressed about it, and because he proposed in January, and I knew I wanted to get married in summer. I had done absolutely NO wedding planning/thinking/dreaming/scheming :) prior to the proposal, and there was NO WAY I was going to rush and try to figure out everything and get married 5 months after he proposed – so that meant waiting another whole year.
Now we’re 7 month away (today), and it feels good. I’ve been able to pace everything out, which has been really nice. Of course, there was also times when I had nothing to do, which was kind of annoying lol….
our engagement is 32 months. trust me, i know how ya feel!
i'm taking my time collecting inspiration, and getting basic ideas. ( which is actually a good thing for me) So far we have the church and reception venue booked, which is good because some venues i was looking at said they were already booking well into 2011! But come april i'm going to start DIY projects already.. i'd rather start things early than cram later.
its going by fast though!!! it'll be here before you know it. you'll be a year out in just 2 months!
I would LOVE to start DIY'ing but I am not sure the rules of the resort (if I can ship things to them or do I have to bring with me when we wed). I dont want to start making things and then get told that I am not able to send it to them. ya know?
Like the OOT bags, I am set on making them, but will they distribute to the guest rooms? It would be so much easier to make them and send her them already pre made and then she can put them in the rooms. so many questions!
@MrsCox2B- I totally understand your frustration with a DW and starting your DIYing... you are right, alot (almost everything in your case) does depend on the rules/accommodations the resort provides. When is your visit there?
But i think you are smart in writing out your questions list for the coordinator.. is there any questions that could be emailed and answered? Maybe that could get the ball rolling?
Or invites/STDs, have you started creating those? Maybe based on pictures from the resort website you can begin those? (if not the actual design maybe research paper, envelopes, printers...and such?)
sorry, i know our situations are quite different because i'm not a DW bride, but please know you are not alone in feeling like this and you can vent all you want here :)
We had a 3 year engagement and I was so over it at the end! I was really busy with work though so that kept me entertained.
I didn't read through all the responses but I'm pretty sure I've got you all beat. We got engaged in July 2005. 
ours will be 25 months. we're waiting till we're settled in grad school, probably around jan 2012 (i guess i should update my profile here, ha!). unfortunately i've already fallen in love with a dress and will be buying it within the next few months. but over the summer, i'm going to start planning, looking at vendors and pricing stuff...i want to make sure we get exactly what we want!
ding ding ding, and the winner is @honeybun! holy smokes! You are in the home stretch now :)
thanks krissy!
We have actually already schedule a meeting with the coordinator for our visit this upcoming April (less then 3 months!). We our getting our engagement photos done while we are there. (How beautiful will that back drop be!) We are going to use the e-pics for our save the dates.
I have everything pretty much researched, and picked out. just waiting to see the resort and finalize a specific date for the wedding. I have been in contact with the wedding coordinator and have lots of questions but I like to do things in person ya know? Which is why we scheduled this visit.
im so excited! I only have to wait another 3 months, then I can really get the ball rolling. As soon as we get back from the resort, we are going to start finalizing things. and of course, DRESS SHOPPING! ha
We had a 14-month engagement, and I was SO over it by the one-year mark. I always tell people the one thing I would have done differently is get married in 6 months. I'm super organized, and we had the wedding well-planned out 3-5 months in. The long engagement killed me because it just leaves more time to second-guess yourself, scrutinize details and fight off family drama.
We got engaged New Years Eve in Disney World at the Magic Kingdom infront of the Mickey and Walt Statue. So I either consider that Jan 1 2009 or Dec 31 2008 and we will be getting married Oct 1 2011 sooo we have a very long engagement sigh..
On the radio the other day, people were talking about being engaged for upwards of 20 years...
Yes! 2 years. Feels like forever. Only 8ish months away now, at least!
13months.... we wanted to save for the wedding and not stress.
We had 2 friends of ours get engaged in the same weekend!!! My friend vanessa had her proposal the friday morning, mine was the friday night and heidi was saturday night!
then 2 weeks later, another friend anne gets engaged, then my brother!!!
So we decided that the longer the engagement, the better for us and planned our date to be far from my brothers!, we had a few dates in mind but they announced theirs and will be getting married on saturday. We originally chose January.. but the extra 7 months is fantastic. I dont think I could last longer tho! Im too excited to get married!!!
our engagement is two years and six months minus four days :)
but then again, i got engaged on my 18th bday, and so we needed to finish school first, we finish over the summer!
the long engagement sucked in that we had friends (our age and a little older) that got engaged, married, and had kids all in the time of our engagement. but we knew we made the right decision for us, and in fact it couldve been longer to not have to rush school...but since were already working anyway we wanted to just hurry up and finish school.
BUT the long engagement was great in that we gained so much perspective on weddings/marriage, we hadnt been together long enough before we got engaged so we got to live together and learn about ourselves and each other, we worked out our expectations for marriage/life in general, and our families have gotten to know each other.
We started researching venues only a few months into our engagement, and it took us a long time to find one, so you can start doing that soon possibly! The other thing is that if you dont let wedding planning become a main point in your life / you spread it out so its not time consuming, you dont have a "void" in your life after the wedding and get depressed like some people do, so thats a plus :)
we were engaged for 2 years...in the first year it felt REALLY long. During the last year everything went SO fast - it was fun! I don't think you have to wait to buy/plan everything. I gave myself little goals for each month leading up to the wedding. That way my planning was really relaxed and not stressful at all. We also celebrated our "Negative wedding anniversaries" leading up to the wedding (e.g. Nov. 15 2007 was our Negative One year Anniversary") We had fun with it and it made it more bearable. :)
Enjoy your wedding planning/engagement time while you have it. HOnestly, it's SUCH a great time but it is so fleeting!
Good Luck!
Not engaged yet, but I think it will happen Vday! We want to get married in November 2012 so its about 32 months!! But we are both studying and both want to pay for the wedding upfront with no debts. So its okay with me. :)
holy cow, honeybun! you definitely win.
15 months here. :(
Ugh I feel ya girls! We got engaged at the end of November..we are planning on getting married October 2011..almost two years! I am going crazy! I am sure it will go pretty fast, but I don't want to wait! I keep trying to convince the FI to move it up to this October but no such luck! We are paying for more than half the wedding ourselves, so we gotta save save save...This wedding stuff is soo expensive! But at least it's good to know we are not alone in this long wait :)
Count me in. When all's said & done we'll have been engaged 19months. Basically everyone who's gotten engaged after us is getting married before us. Not that I care - more ideas for us! :) Personally, I don't think I could've planned a big wedding in 6-8 months - I would've lost my mind.
@ honeybun Wow! You must be soooooo excited for June!
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