- 3 years ago
My SO and I have been together for five years. Two of them were when either both of us or one of us was in high school. We planned to move in together pretty much once I graduated from high school and got settled at school, but my university ended up being a pretty good distance from his, so we decided to stay at home until he graduated (May 2013). After crunching numbers, we decided that we should get a two bedroom and then have a roommate because we did the whole “budget for more than you plan to spend” thing, and I apparently budgeted for WAY more than what we are spending now, but that’s not a bad thing!
SO knew a guy from work who was also looking to move out. He has known this guy for about three years, and he’s always gotten along well with him. We all hung out a few times together, and seemed alright enough haha.
We moved in together this past August, and things the roommate started doing have been annoying from the beginning.
-He never cleans anything EVER. He has his own bedroom and bathroom. I had to go into his bathroom a few weeks ago, and it definitely hasn’t been cleaned since we moved in. He doesn’t even own any cleaning supplies. There is an orange ring around the sink drain and the toilet is gross. I never have to use this bathroom, but I know my SO and I will probably end up having to deal with it since we will most likely live here longer than he will. He also doesn’t clean up in the main area. If he uses a dish he will wash it right away, but he generally leaves crumbs everywhere and just a trail of random stuff.
-He never takes out the trash which is like a major chore in our complex. We live on the side completely opposite of the trash compactor, so it’s either a long walk or you end up having to put gross trash in the trunk of your car. It’s hard for me to do it on my own especially since we live on the outskirts of a semi-bad town. Even though our neighborhood is safe I do get scared walking with my hands full alone. SO and I end up doing the trash together. I know as two people we make more trash, but he drinks gatorade like it’s going out of style, so almost all of the recycling is his. The other day while my SO was at work I got fed up with it and took down the overflowing trash and recycling. By the time I got back the recycling bin was already filled to the brim again because he had basically been keeping empty containers in his room until one of us emptied it.
-I have a small dog who is 13, and he’s on his last leg of life. I don’t really expect him to be here for much longer because he really isn’t doing well. I also have a lizard who is contained to a tank in my SO and I’s bedroom. My dog usually follows me around when I am home. When I leave I contain him to my bedroom/bathroom because his bed, food and water is in there. He basically is never a bother to the roommate. One time he followed RM into his bedroom because he was eating in his room and left the door open, but that was about it. RM complained about how SO and I don’t take care of our pets, they are annoying, etc. He never said anything to our face about it, but he complained through text to SO and said some pretty mean things about me that weren’t true because he didn’t know I was reading the texts as they were coming in.
-I was doing all of the grocery shopping and we were splitting them three ways. I buy pretty much the cheapest stuff possible, and I always asked him if there was anything that he wanted in particular and would make sure to buy it. I also made enough for him to eat or have leftovers at dinner if I was cooking. I ended up spending about $300/month, so $100/person which is REALLY cheap for our area. He texted my SO about a month ago saying that he doesn’t want me to include him in the grocery bill anymore because he doesn’t feel like he is eating $100 worth of groceries every month. I feel like I’m now watching SO and I’s food supply to make sure he isn’t still eating our stuff. He also hoards his food in his bedroom which makes me worry about bugs or spills on the carpet.
-He has his friends over ALL.THE.TIME. They workout together at like 9:30 PM, but then come back to our apartment. It really wouldn’t be a big deal, but they get pretty loud and obnoxious. It makes me worry not only for my SO and I trying to sleep since we have to wake up for work, but I don’t want to receive a fine for their loudness so late on week nights. They also pretty much take over the entire apartment when they are here. My SO’s TV and video games are in the common area, so we figured that RM would want to use that stuff which is fine. The problem is if SO and I are sitting down watching a TV show and these guys come in it’s pretty much done. They will sit near us and talk loudly until we finally leave the room and then they start playing SO’s video games. He is fine with it, but he’s very particular about his stuff as a lot of it is vintage and expensive. They got dirt all over his controllers, and he asked them to wash their hands next time since they were at the gym. Now they make fun of him for it. He also gets upset that they don’t actually ask to use any of the stuff, and he never gets to play his games now either because they’re always here. We don’t have enough room in our bedroom for a TV plus all of his games, so they have to stay out in the livingroom. Last night they were playing until midnight, and I had to be up early for work.
I know there’s not much you bees can do, but I figured it would be nice to hear about other situations, or get some advice on what we can do. We are pretty much stuck with this guy until next August because he is on our lease, so we can’t ask him to move out or anything. We decided pretty much in September that we would be telling him we won’t be renewing the lease with him in August. It’s nice having the extra $500 a month, but not really worth the stress. We like the complex we are in now, so we would either ask him to just move out of this apartment, or we would ask our leasing office to move us into another apartment in the same complex if he gave us any issues. It’s just so frustrating. Luckily the year seems to be flying by already, but it gets old quick when he makes comments about how I always seem to do everything around the apartment (DUH!)