Post # 1
Mine aren’t wedding nightmares… at least not yet lol. Well, that’s not true, I have had 2 nightmares where it’s the wedding day and I forgot to take my bridesmaids’ dress shopping and they had nothing to wear lol.
BUT my FI and I have been together about 5 years now, and in that time I consistantly have nightmares where he’s told me he needs a break or wants to break up, and then I can’t find him. I’m calling, texting, checking his apartment… he won’t answer or return my calls and it’s like he’s vanished… Everytime I have one of these nightmares I have to wake him up or I’ll call him just to hear his voice and reassure myself it was only a dream.
Last night was maybe the worst one… This time when I called him, I got through to him and it was supposed to be several weeks since he’d asked for a break and it was the first time we’d spoken. After chit chat, I asked him if he’d slept with anyone yet and he said “Not for lack of trying. No one believes me when I tell them you’re my ex now and we’re through.”… OUCH! It felt SOOOO real so when I woke up i immediately texted FI and told him to call me on his break.
I think after 5 years of this, he sometimes gets annoyed now that I still need to call or talk to him after these dreams… but it’s just to make me feel better.
Anyone else have dreams like this???
Post # 3
I have weird dreams like this. I have a very loyal SO whom I trust 100% but I have dreams about him leaving me or cheating on me. I know this won’t happen and when I wake up he reassures me of this or I get mad (stupid I know) about the dream even though it was just a dream! He deals with it and tells me not to worry. Our relationship is great so I don’t know where the dreams (more like nightmares! lol) are coming from.
Post # 4
@MrsPhilly: It’s ok, everyone has dreams like that. It must be normal because it’s very common. It only means you love him so much. 🙂
Post # 5
I had a bad dream the other day, Easter Sunday actually. I was super cranky for some reason and could not shake my attitude. I was pissed off and my sweet husband kept trying to make me smile. We got home from our easter events and decided to take a nap. I had a dream that my husband was cheating on me with this little tramp while we were vacationing in Florida. He was spending all his time with her instead of me and I was really mad. I woke up and felt so in love with him because he was lying right next to me, holding my hand.
I never thought a bad dream of my husband cheating on me would be a good thing but it totally got me out of my funk. He cracked up when I told him about it.
Post # 6
I’ve only had one dream that my fiance was cheating on me, and it was fairly early in the relationship.
What’s annoyed me is recently I’ve had a couple dreams where it was ME who was cheating, with an ex I am totally over and haven’t had contact with for years.
But then, I’ve also had dreams where I fly and breathe underwater.
Dreams are just dreams.
Post # 7
@MrsChamp: I have flying and breathing underwater dreams, too! I love those, so cool. I also have dreams where I’m in a big beautiful castle and I climb this flight of winding stairs up into this little room with stained glass windows, where there’s a treasure chest. And I open it and it’s filled with all these gold coins and gleaming, beautiful jewels and stuff. I love that one.
Post # 8
I’ve had dreams where we got in big fights. I wake up not knowing if he and I are ok.
Post # 9
I have had several dreams where he cheated on me or we were broken up. I would wake up all sad and realize it was just a dream. I would cuddle with him until I fell back to sleep.
Now that I am a mother. I always dream about my baby. She is always in my arms and I am afraid to put her down anywhere because she might get lost in the dream.
Post # 10
I’ve had horrible dreams like you and the other bees! I started having them when my FI and I first started living together 6 minths ago, where I’d wake-up shaking really badly and one time I completely soaked through my shirt with sweat (that’s never happened to me before and I was shocked how hard my heart was pounding when I awoke). I hate it that I’m so angry/upset/devastates when I wake-up, sometimes I want to punch my FI for all the horrible things he did in my dreams! >:P
But after taking in a few deep breaths and bringing my heart rate back to normal, I’ll look over at my loving FI sound asleep next to me and I’ll remember that in true REALITY, he’s NOTHING like my nightmares.
To me, I’ve just accepted that we all have fears and painful scars around love & intimacy, and now that I’m in a very safe, loving committed relationship it’s perfectly normal to have fears and old wounds come-up. My nightmares have subsided quite a bit now, but the occassional ones I get now and then, I love feeling my FI hold me tight and hear him say how much he loves me (well more like mumbling half-asleep!).